r/AITAH • u/ShowerElectrical9342 • 4d ago

aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

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u/bawtatron2000 4d ago

NTA - sounds like he needs a lesson, don't pay $$ for his bio father's mistakes.

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u/STUNTPENlS 4d ago

Let him rot in county lockup.

If the baby dies, in some states, he could be charged with vehicular manslaughter.

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA 4d ago

He's 19 and still hasn't learned. A weekend might finally make him see reality.

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u/MtnMoose307 3d ago

Good thing he’s over 18. If the victim sues, OP should avoid being involved with that.

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u/Remarkable-Foot9630 3d ago

Unless she was connected to the title, or if her son is still under OP auto insurance. Then they could legally go after her also.

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u/Loud-Bee6673 3d ago

Yup, I know someone whose adult son died in a motorcycle crash, and they ended up paying a huge settlement to the other injured party … out of their homeowners. Because the son lived over the garage on their property

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u/MtnMoose307 3d ago

Wow, I had no idea where someone lives can cause an innocent party to be sued.

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u/Specific_Anxiety_343 3d ago

It doesn’t. The wires got crossed somewhere in this story.

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u/Loud-Bee6673 3d ago

I never really felt comfortable asking for details, but I do know if happened on the road very close to the house. So maybe that was it?

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u/vwscienceandart 3d ago

The only way this would make sense is if the accident happened on their property (so maybe where they crashed was a private access road or something?) or if their homeowners and auto are bundled so the telling of the story got confused because it’s the same company.

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u/Captmike76p 3d ago

I was worried he would come out and swipe mom's car and she is possibly on the hook for not hiding the keys or whatever the lawyer can dream up just to get the hooks set.

I feel for mom but it took my son a Halloween in jail for DUI, and exhibition of speed third offense to drive the point home. Judge took his license and I sold his car to the first guy with cash to cover the note. My pickup and the wife's car both had blow boxes for the duration of the trial. He wanted to be Mr. Badass street hoonagan but after 60 days in the pulp wood swamps of North Carolina with a rifle pointed at his head he wised up. He paid everything back to me at a dime a log

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u/MtnMoose307 3d ago

Ah, thanks. ... yikes.

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u/Cczaphod 3d ago

It would have been a much easier lesson as a minor (Juvenile Detention vs County Jail). The bio-Dad did him a huge disservice by enabling that behavior until he was an adult.

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u/irishgurlkt 3d ago

He broke his nose. He will be in GP pretty soon.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

You've never been to county then it's rough for a kid.

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u/madgeystardust 3d ago

I’m sure it’s pretty rough for the pregnant woman right now too.

When will he learn if people are always bailing him out?

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u/whiskey_riverss 3d ago

The woman he hit might lose her baby but yeah I’d hate for him to be uncomfy for the weekend.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Let everyone have their day in court before casting judgment just saying that or don't believe in the court system either way

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u/Fun-Frosting-5673 3d ago

Username fits!

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Lmao I always get that, it's an auto-generated name, if you remember when you signed up it gave you the same option, everyone always gives me shit, when I talk about making good money working hard jobs in the plants lol but you know assumptions make an ass out of you and me lol

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u/Trainer_NoName 3d ago

That’s obviously not one of the auto generated names. It’s normally 1000x more random and numbers used for comedy are black listed

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u/Ok_Wrangler_7940 3d ago

Mine is auto generated. I would love to change it, but can’t seem to figure out how to do that. 😩

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

If you can tell me a way to prove it I will, I just don't know how.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

"Normally" you said it yourself I can't help it's the first that popped up and the one I picked I don't know what to tell you but it's 100% auto generated sorry, can't help you there. Just don't feel bad a lot of people have said the same thing and you, just like them are wrong it's the first name that popped up and the fist I picked, blame reddit, I guess

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u/AddictiveArtistry 3d ago

No. Let him sit. Bailing him out at this point is continuing enabling him.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Did he hit her hard or was it a fender bender was it even proven in a court of law it's his fault? Has he seen his court day, as someone that had charges dropped the law isn't always right

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u/exessmirror 3d ago

If that's the case he can post bail himself

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u/Wackadoodle-do 3d ago

Oh, I'm sure it was just a gentle bump...that's why she may lose her baby./s Sheesh

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Hey homeboy I've lost 9 kids I never got to name hold or see be born I don't take it lightly but you can't just assume it was a huge wreck and both cars went up I'm flames, op didn't explain anything that happem and all you reddit warriors who are holier than thou are coming at me for saying it may not have been that bad on a story that is probably just rage bating anyway but go ahead an assume I'm some piece of shit for not judging someone without the facts, and sharing how I feel about a pretty vague post.

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u/dvasop 3d ago

Blah blah blah quit making excuses

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u/XxMarlucaxX 3d ago

He should have learned sooner then.

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u/JustMyThoughtNow 3d ago

Sounds like exactly what he needs

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u/autumn55femme 3d ago

He needs to be there way longer than a weekend.

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u/Trainer_NoName 3d ago

Lolol it’s not that bad. If it’s that rough for some people then those are the ones that really need it

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

You've never been to a county jail that has over 80 cases pending against the jail itself lol but to each their own but the one I was in wrongfully is under a huge investigation for cruel punishment, deaths that have occurred, corrupt guards, and taking money from the state and not actually spending it on the jail itself

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u/SuperWaluigi77 3d ago

A 19 year old, who had already wrecked two cars, been in plenty of accidents, crashed again, this time into a pregnant woman, and never had any consequences for any of that. And you're sitting here telling us to be empathetic to that fucking loser?

Auto generated or not. You are obviously fucking dense.

But for the record, 420 happened to be the auto generated number, in the auto generated username that clearly fits you?

Pretty sure we all know it's bullshit and so are you.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Bro first it's a vague story with little to no facts and you're ready to hang some probably fictional kid over it with little to no evidence other than some vague rage baiting story, if anyone is dense it'd be you and honestly I believe if people what to partake in Marijuana then they should be able to as long as they are an adult I have t since I was a year or two out of high school so no I'm not 420 as you say haven't touched it in about a decade maybe a little longer now that I think about it, but keep going assuming you know everything about someone over an auto generated reddit name lol you reddit people are bizarre, and so wound up, and psycho it's crazy lol

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u/Legitimate-Slice-990 3d ago

I have been to county and it 100% depends on the county how bad the jail is. I've been to a couple and they where mostly just boring after you get over all the fear mongering the world does about jail.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Yeah I get that the one j was in is under federal investigation with over 80 cases including wrongful deaths hygiene cruel and unusual punishment corruption and wrongfully using state funding so maybe the one I was in was just rough lol

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u/WitchBalls 3d ago

Rikers, huh.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

No, Harris County, made the news and everything

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u/Fun-Frosting-5673 3d ago

He deserved that and more

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Have you ever been locked up wrongly and had charges dropped, have you ever spent just a night in county? If not then you just don't know what you're talking about

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u/dollywooddude 3d ago

How was he locked up wrongly? He won’t even say how badly hurt the woman is. He’s in the jail hospital. He’s totalled two cars. Let him stay there and deal with the consequences of his dangerous actions.

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u/HighPriestess__55 3d ago

If he's in the jail hospital, he hasn't been told more about her condition.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I mean I guess but I guess you've never made mistakes as a young kid so you're willing to crucify someone before you know all the facts

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u/will822 3d ago

The first time is a mistake. Second and third, not so much. Sorry, but you're as big a tool as the OP's son.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I mean it was my cousin douche bag, and it was within 3 years thanks for making assumptions though, you're definitely holier than thou

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u/SuperWaluigi77 3d ago

He's fucking 19. Time to grow up. Actions have consequences, some of those consequences can include jail when you fuck up.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Yeah but city is different than county by light years, they hold rapists, murderers, gang bangers before they get shipped to prison I'm just not ready to say this kid deserves to go through all that while also waiting on a court Date based on a very low info vague reddit post but I guess hang them now and investigate after the fact, idk seems like rage bate to me just a lot doesn't make since but I guess I'm just alone in thinking we need more facts before we judge

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u/BrobaFett115 3d ago

Well no I’ve never got a pregnant lady and possibly killed her child

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I mean do you even know allbthe facts? Was it a fender bender? Roll over? Was she a pedestrian? A passenger? I just don't feel like we should crucify stone over a vague story by op but obviously it's shoot now ask questions later with the lot of you

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u/BlueFlameCanon 3d ago

I made plenty of mistakes. None of them involved killing a baby.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Is the baby dead? Did the woman have a miscarriage do you even know if she was in a car or pedestrian there are a thousand things you're just making assumptions of without even considering the multiple possibilities that could have happened, ive lost kids of my own so I don't take it lightly but I also don't cast judgment without at least getting more facts

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u/dollywooddude 3d ago

After three crashes it’s not a mistake it’s a pattern! He doesn’t give a fuck. He didn’t learn his lesson. He should be jailed to learn that his actions have consequences

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u/Bashfulapplesnapple 3d ago

I've spent the night in a Baltimore city jail. It was one of the worst nights of my life. I hope OP's son lives every bit of the discomfort I experienced. A woman could lose her fucking baby. What the fuck is wrong with you.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

City isn't the same as county for starters, and you're ready to give pain to someone based on a very vague rage baiting reddit post without any real facts or evidence, I also take miscarriage very fucking seriously as I have never gotten to hold, name or see 9 children get born because of it so chill on your fucking assumptions

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u/Bashfulapplesnapple 3d ago

Are you kidding? Dude have you ever watched the wire? Like they made a whole fucking TV show about how bad Baltimore city prisons are. Dude, you're fucking straight up stupid.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

City jail and prison aren't the same thing, city jail is for misdemeanor crimes if felony charges are brought up they send you to county after a day or so, you either spend up to a year maybe 2-3max in county but if your sentence is any more you then go to state prison are you stupid? Are you basing your knowledge on a fictional TV show?

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

It's obvious you don't really know what you're talking about, I'm not saying your city jail wasn't horrible but by that standard your county would be worse and your state prisons would be worse than that, unless you're meaning you went to county instead of city or unless Baltimore had a completely different jailing system than any other state

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u/SuperWaluigi77 3d ago

The fuck is wrong with you? What makes you think he was locked up wrongly? Should we just throw this fucking loser a parade because you had a rough time in lockup? Nobody gives a shit about the county jail you were in or how many backlogged cases it had.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I mean I got paid by the state for my time, since there was no evidence for why I should have been arrested in the first place and never had anything on my record because of it, I'm not saying praise this guy but don't go making assumptions based on a vague rage baiting reddit post but I guess we should just shoot first ask questions later huh? I was just tryingbto give insight to people that wouldn't other wise get what they are wishing on probably a fictional kid in probably a fictional story from op but I guess that's just too much to grasp for some people, lol

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u/strangemusicsince04 3d ago

Varies

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Yeah I'd say that's true but definitely sitting in county is rough on top of if you get your case thrown out for lack of evidence like myself it's just rough especially for a young kid, I'm not saying he doesn't deserve it I'm just saying I don't have enough facts to make assumptions, like a lot of these people are. I always walk on egg shells and try to get where the other person is coming from before just trying to crucify a kid when I know I made mistakes as young kid as well

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u/Rindsay515 3d ago

🤦🏼‍♀️He’s 19 and on his third car already because he totaled the first 2…this wasn’t a “mistake”, it’s a pattern.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I can see what you're saying but we don't even know 25% of the facts but everyone is immediately just trying to give this kid the death penalty, op didn't give hardly any info but everyone is coming up with their own assumptions like they were eye witnesses.

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u/Rindsay515 3d ago

No one is coming up with crazy assumptions, we’re going off his own mother’s account of his history so far after only 3 years of having a license. He’s been arrested for his recklessness before and continues driving selfishly because he’s used to being bailed out of jail and provided with a new car. I went to school with plenty of car-obsessed teenagers but none of them totaled 2 new cars before 19. The earlier you nip a bad habit in the bud, the better. This kid is now comfortable driving in ways that put himself and others in far more danger than what’s typically present on the road. The best thing she can do to save her son’s life, physically and/or mentally (meaning killing himself while driving or killing others and having to live with that), is to let him finally face consequences. If he wants to act like a grown man, this is what happens when grown men harm people. They don’t have mommies bail them out and buy them new cars

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I see what you're saying, but I just don't getbthe whole arrested part, it just doesn't make since to me and I'm really thinking this is a fake rage baiting story, I justbdont get why op wouldn't have put up more facts and I get I'm in the minority for thinking there should be more evidence before we just all assume the kid deserves it, for all we know it could have been a complete mistake this time idk I'm just starting to think bei.g compassionate amd wanting to see more facts before casting judgment is just not the norm Anymore especially after all the hate I've gotten for sharing my own thoughts and experiences lol

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u/AddictiveArtistry 3d ago

It's rough for everyone. I was 18, did some dumb shit and my parents wisely let me sit in there for the night. Guess what? I never went back.

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u/Odd-Artist-2595 3d ago

And, if he takes off, your bail money is gone. He’s an adult. You can’t stop him if he decides to go. A weekend in jail isn’t going to hurt him in the slightest. In fact, it might do him some good. Besides, if he does get tried and sentenced to jail, the time he spends in this weekend will probably be counted toward time served. He’ll get out two days early.

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u/No_Appointment_7232 3d ago

It's late, but the exact perfect time for him to learn the consequences of his actions and choices.

One who is cautious to not drive recklessly bc one can't pay bail if they end up in jail.

He's an adult. These are his problems.

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u/NeedleworkerPresent6 3d ago

The math isn’t working. Right now it is just a misdemeanor car accident, unless DUI I’m guessing. And bail isn’t set until you see a judge. ??? And by the way, you go to the hospital with an officer there and then get transported to jail after being checked out if truly hurt. This is odd.

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u/roseofjuly 3d ago

And bail isn’t set until you see a judge.

Not necessarily true. Back when we were dating, my husband went to jail for a weekend after being pulled over for a minor traffic infraction (broken taillight). He'd gotten a speeding ticket in another state, and they'd sent the ticket to the wrong address; because he hadn't paid it, there was a warrant out for his arrest.

His bail was set at $3,000 at the front end of the weekend. (Nobody had that much money, so he stayed in jail for three days.)

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u/Secret_Hunter_3911 3d ago

In some jurisdictions there is a standard bail set for minor charges. In this case where the defendant has hit and seriously injured a pregnant woman, he would go in front of a judge for bail. The $9500 bail strikes me as very low for the offense. If she loses the baby, you can expect him to be charged with vehicular manslaughter ( or similar) and his bail would be 10 times that.

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u/jimbojangles1987 3d ago

Did you know that if bail is set at 3000, you only have to pay 300 to get him out?

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u/Upstairs_Task195 3d ago

Different states have different rules for this.

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u/Classic-Cantaloupe47 3d ago

Certain charges have automatic bail amounts. If they haven't charged him w assault by auto, vehicular manslaughter, whatever, those bail amounts don't factor in yet. If he was charged with DUI or something requiring arrest, then the set bail amounts would apply. On a Friday, the DA isn't making indictment decisions, I'm sure.
If he wasn't under the influence (alcohol or drug) then DUI won't apply, but if the victim was seriously injured and at risk of losing the baby, they should have taken blood regardless to rule out that he had anything affecting him. He could be charged, if he wasn't DUI, if he tried to flee after the accident, or if witnesses reported that he was driving recklessly prior to the crash.

Regardless, whether you bail him out or not, he would be charged and booked, and most counties have online inmate databases. Sometimes, the records only show if the person is still in custody, others show any case they were arrested on that are still going through the system. But you should be able to see why they arrested him. If not online, you can probably call the jail and ask what he's been charged with. If he's injured and being treated at the hospital, usually two officers accompany the inmate to the ER/hospital and he's in custody the entire time. If he is discharged, then they'll bring him back to the jail and process him before he can be bailed out.

And personally, he doesn't give a shit about burning through your and his dad's money every time he totals a car and gets a better one. He has no consideration for the safety of others when he's driving like a moron. I wouldn't let him drive anything that's in your name. That's a huge liability you may already be on the hook for already. I would let him sit for at least the weekend, but probably longer, if it were me. He has no regard for anyone.

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u/Unlikely_Ad_1692 3d ago

And the bond fee to a bail bondsman is just gone. You don’t get that back.

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u/Corfiz74 2d ago

I think that depends on the jail. I once read a harrowing newspaper article about a dad who got the bail call from his son on a Saturday night, for a drunk and disorderly. He thought a weekend in jail would be good consequences for his son and left him there - and whatever happened to the son in jail was so horrible that he hanged himself as soon as he got out. I'm normally all for natural consequences, but that story really stuck with me, cause the dad had to live with that regret.

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u/Top-Fox9979 3d ago

In our state ( WA) it's vehicular homicide not manslaughter.

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u/Delicious_Mine7711 3d ago

I’m from WA too

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u/GreyPon3 3d ago

Agreed. Let him rot.

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u/dollywooddude 3d ago

Let him rot and ponder the failure of his life. He might have killed a woman and her child. Devastated her family. But he’s uncomfortable. Who cares? Save the 10,000 op. Use a public defender. Stop wasting money on that murderous brat. He’s not worth it until he gets his shit together.

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u/Sudden_Peach_5629 3d ago

JFC, murderous brat? You don't even know the dude. Believe it or not, just because someone's a shitty driver doesn't mean they're automatically a shitty person. They're called accidents for a reason.

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u/LopsidedPalace 3d ago

They're called accidents because saying "John Doe made a series of potentially fatal mistakes while operating a multi-con piece of machinery through sheer negligence and someone was seriously injured and someone may die because of it" makes people like John Doe and his family very upset. It's no less true. It's just worse optics.

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u/DearMrsLeading 3d ago

Hitting a human being puts you beyond just being a shitty driver.

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u/Motherof42069 3d ago edited 3d ago

There are no accidents. Cars don't magically come alive. Physics are predictable. This is the third time it's occured. If it was a medical event his license would have been suspended. His actions show a pattern of homicidal negligence, which is why he's locked up with a 10k bail. You don't get to shoot guns off wildly in populated areas. Nor do you get to behave that way simply because you're behind a steering wheel.

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u/WitchBalls 3d ago

In NYS they aren't called accidents anymore. Crashes.

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u/writingisfreedom 3d ago

He would in my country

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u/Chronic420er 3d ago

Every state

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u/Electronic-Dust-778 4d ago

Let him rot? How constructive.

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u/Beth21286 4d ago

It keeps him off the roads and makes everyone else safer.

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

Better than letting him out. How destructive. Leave him there.

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 4d ago

Can I ask a question

What if she let's him stay in jail And it's revealt that he is not at fault is she prepared for her son going no contact with her?

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u/Night_Angel27 4d ago

He's already totaled 2 cars. He's not a good driver. If he takes this as betrayal by mum instead of a lesson, she should hope he cuts her off.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

I have a cousin that has rolled over 4 trucks in his life falling asleep at the wheel it doesn't mean you're a bad driver but that you're not responsible totally different

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u/The_Geese_ 3d ago

No your cousin is absolutely a bad driver. What the hell is wrong with you? In what world does that not make you both a bad driver and an irresponsible driver?! If you’ve fallen asleep at the wheel FOUR fucking times you deserve to have your license revoked.

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u/LadyReika 3d ago

If a person fell asleep at the wheel at least 4 times they're a menace to everyone else on the road and a shit driver.

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u/pigandpom 3d ago

Your cousin absolutely is a bad driver. Falling asleep behind the wheel is fuckinf reckless. If you're tired you don't drive.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

Don't get me wrong I've learned from my own mistakes like my cousin but when you're 19 making over 80 a year your mind isn't right sometimes and you have to grow up and not just get left and locked up in county, different strokes for different folks if you get where I'm coming from

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u/AhabMustDie 3d ago

I think getting locked up in county COULD be what he needs to grow up.

Unlike your cousin (I’m guessing), it sounds like OP’s kid has lived a very privileged life - his accidents didn’t come as a result of circumstances beyond his control, but of a lack of conscientiousness… that he desperately need to learn.

I think it’s commendable that you’re going against the grain to preach mercy, but a greater kindness than bailing him out would be to let him experience consequences finally, so that he doesn’t end up killing someone (else) or himself.

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u/Predictable-Past-912 3d ago

Don’t you get it? If “your mind isn’t right” then you are by definition, wrong!

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

If you work 14-16hrs a rigger it happens as a former rigger can confirm its rough, he lived an hour away so not completely his fault don't get me wrong we've razzed him but it's not his fault it happens when you work a very strenuous job in the heat all day, you've obviously never done anything like that so that's why your opinion is the way it is before you even found out why, but make assumptions because it makes an ass out of you and me lol. That $30+/hr plus 15-20hrs of ot hits differently it just happens to people like us. He also never got arrested either honestly this post seems more like they found alcohol or drugs and that's why he's locked up or he's in dictatorship Cali either way he doesn't deserve to be in county which you obviously have never been locked up in, otherwise you know you'd get jumped and get food and commissary taken from you by REAL criminals so to eatch their own I guess.

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u/pigandpom 3d ago

And I'll repeat it again, four fucking times. He could have killed someone just going about their business with his fucking reckless behaviour. He should have learned after the first time, but no, clearly he's a slow learner to have done it a further 3 times

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u/ImmediateShallot7245 3d ago

If he knew that he could pass out while driving then it kinda is his fault though

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 3d ago

Your cousin should NOT be driving!

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

It was years ago and he's done a lot better since he quit being a rigger but yes it was a problem, but I can see one side of the story no one else is trying to see since it happened close to me

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 3d ago

No one needs to see your side. He crashed FOUR cars!

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u/NoRegister8591 3d ago

Your cousin should be checked for sleep apnea. Falling asleep at the wheel is a huge symptom.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 3d ago

100% he's not a rigger any more and hasn't had that problem since, I was just trying to get some people to understand there are reasonings behind some things and people's shouldn't just go around trying to make assumptions before knowing certain situations, not saying my cousin was right in any way just saying there are circumstances where you can see it may not have been malice and maybe they shouldn't have to sit in a county jail cell, although it is weird that getting arrested after an accident, I just don't know all the facts so I won't cast judgment until then

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u/NoRegister8591 3d ago

Happy to hear your cousin is doing better. But he still should be tested. My husband used to work long hours and had a long drive to/from work. He fell asleep at the wheel and crashed into a snowplow in the mid 90's and almost died. He moved closer to work and has never fallen asleep again.. but it's 30yrs after his accident and he's just been DX with sleep apnea. It can leave one feeling more sluggish than one should be. Might be good with a cup of coffee but it can be doing damage behind the scenes. I hope he's all good but his story had alarm bells going off in my head🙃

If you want to feel better about yourself.. this whole post about the son and pregnant woman is likely fake. It's nearly identical to the storyline from a recent movie called Thelma lol. Plus the OPs post history is.. interesting:) So this entire thing has been hypothetical.

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u/Night_Angel27 3d ago

That's true. Is your cousin ok? Hopefully all is good

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u/XxMarlucaxX 3d ago

I somehow doubt this is the situation for OPs child. I hope your cousin is ok! Was he tired? Or does he have a condition?

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u/Predictable-Past-912 3d ago

This cousin definitely has one condition that we don’t need to be doctors to identify. He has bad judgement. In fact, it seems to run in the family.

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u/passwordsarehard_3 4d ago

Yep. This isn’t his first time and they are progressively getting worse. He is out of good grace, when he’s involved in an accident it’s logical to assume he, in some way, was at fault.

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u/pigandpom 4d ago

He hit a pregnant woman, it's not clear if she was in a vehicle or a pedestrian. Either way, he hit her, she didn't hit him, he is the one charged and being held, not her. So it's clear the fault has been determined as being his.

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u/Angryprincess38 3d ago

Doesn't it say he admits to hitting the pregnant woman?

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 3d ago

Yes but admitting he hit her and being at the only one at fault is completely different

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u/That-1-Red-Shirt 4d ago

Someone who does bad things and never gets consequences has no idea how to be a productive member of society. This kid has been bailed out and rewarded for bad behavior before and now he is getting the consequences he needs to hopefully turn his life around. Yes, let him rot for the weekend. He needs it.

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u/HighContrastRainbow 4d ago

That woman's life has been irrevocably changed, and she will forever be traumatized whether she loses the baby or can manage to keep it. You think he needs more opportunities to harm and kill people?

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u/PotentialDig7527 3d ago

He may have killed a baby, but rotting in jail for a weekend is exactly what this guy needs.

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u/mmcksmith 3d ago

And bailing him out has apparently made him such a stellar conscientious citizen.... SMDH

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u/Angryprincess38 3d ago

What would you do? Throw him a parade?

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u/itsyagirlrey 4d ago edited 3d ago

It's fake. I just saw this movie lmao. It's a bit from the movie Thelma about an old lady who gets scammed over the phone from a fake call about giving money for her grandson to get him out of jail. Very funny OP!

She gets a call saying her grandson hit a pregnant woman with his car, that his nose is broken and he doesn't know the details on the baby, and his public defender insists he needs 10k for the bail to get him out of jail. The old lady ends up getting 9,500$ back from the "bail money." It's a really good movie, highly recommend.

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

Except I know a family whose son did this TWICE as a teen and at 19? Third time? Killed an entire family. Put himself in a wheelchair so at least it won't happen again.

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u/Bigpapa42_2006 3d ago

FOURTH time? Killed an entire town when he was was driving a monster truck wheelchair.

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u/New-Recording-4245 3d ago

Was he the guy who got his wheel chair caught in the front of a semi?

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u/oldfartpen 3d ago

The FIFTH time, he was drunk driving a tractor trailer rig with a cargo of “medical supplies “ from Wuhan lab in China.. flipped the rig and……

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u/CreditMajestic4248 3d ago

The SIXTH time, stole a Delorean, and pulled an entire Oppenheimer. OP, don’t let things escalate any further.

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u/itsyagirlrey 4d ago

The details are the same from the movie. She gets a phone call her grandson is in jail for hitting a pregnant woman with his car, his nose is broken but he doesn't know any details, and the "public defender" wants 10k. She finds out it's a scam and transfer 9,500 back to herself cause she feels bad enough for the scammer. to leave him 500.

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u/Drabby 3d ago

It's also a popular scam in real life. My husband's grandfather got a call that my husband had been arrested for drunk driving and sounded funny because he'd broken his nose. He needed $9000 that very day, and nobody else in the family must know, for he was so ashamed! Of course none of it was true. Granddad sent the money. UPS stopped the delivery because they had the address flagged as a scam.

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u/crazyeagles62 3d ago

My dad, was in his 60's at the time, got this same kind of call. Fortunately, my nephew and my son, his only grandsons, were with him when he received the call. He acted all shocked and concerned, got some info from them, hung up and called it in to local PD.

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u/IHaveNoEgrets 3d ago

Ha! My grandmother got that, too. Except at the time my brother WORKED at the police station, so she knew it had to be bull. She still called my dad with the details, and he sent it to the PD on her behalf.

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u/LopsidedPalace 3d ago

One of my grandmother's got that. The only difference is she had three grandchildren, two boys and I, and knew not that none of us would be damned fools enough to pull that shit.

Her husband's father was, I am told, an abusive alcoholic. They weren't vocal about their views by any means but I'm pretty sure if we had managed to get involved in something like that they would have disowned us. Which, fair enough.

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u/Ok-Midnight-7084 3d ago edited 3d ago

This happened to my husband's Nonni. She was told my husband hit a pregnant woman and needed bail money. Luckily she had the thought to call me after she got the call as I am the one that handles basically everything in our life. I was so pissed that someone did that to her.

Edit: Spelling

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u/Fi-artist 3d ago

This happened to my grandma too and they called about my brother

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u/IndigenousWalker 3d ago

Also look at his other posts. What a flake

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u/Siminiss 4d ago

Just because you saw a movie about it doesnt change that it actually does happen in real life

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u/mlhigg1973 3d ago

No, it doesn’t, but in this particular case, it’s a fake story.

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u/ThadeousStevensda3rd 3d ago

Oh wow I didn’t realize we have the son/family right here in the chat. Mind answering a few questions while you are here?

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u/No-Abies-1232 3d ago

Did you post this fake story? I mean yeah it might be fake but you are acting like this is the same thing as the movie when this isn’t a grandma and she hasn’t paid anything. 

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u/IndigenousWalker 3d ago

Look at his other posts. This is some kid making up BS

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u/jimbojangles1987 3d ago

Is there a reason you want to believe it's true?

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u/Fantastic_Poet4800 3d ago

god you guys are so gullible.

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u/Grandmothersdruggist 3d ago

Had a girl wreck in front of my parent's house. It was her 6th dui. She at some point as lost a leg from drinking, has no license, and still a drunk. They will never stop until they kill themselves.

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u/Hemiak 4d ago

I know plenty of paraplegics who drive. So unless he’s a quad I wouldn’t count on that stopping him.

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

he's quad. At this point, he's been paralyzed longer than he was walking.

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u/Motherof42069 3d ago

Good for him.

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u/LopsidedPalace 3d ago

I mean I wouldn't count a quad out yesterday at either. It would probably be ungodly difficult and expensive to get set up but there is that puffing thing where you blow and it tells the computer what to do - my late uncle had it on his wheelchair.

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u/Hemiak 3d ago

You can drive a chair, but not a car. Unless you’re a really high functioning quad, like arms work fine but hands don’t grip. I knew guys who drove with hand controls like that. But no chance you’re getting cleared to drive a car using a sip n puff or a mouth stick.

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u/LopsidedPalace 3d ago

Unless he can get a vehicle that allows for him to operate it with assistive devices. Those are things. It's just usually ungodly expensive to set up.

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u/Nice_War_4262 4d ago

Being in a wheelchair does not prevent people from driving the car can be adjusted so that he can use his hand control gaz and stop

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u/maroongrad 4d ago

It does when he broke his neck or otherwise made himself a quadriplegic. He's off the road for good...and 100% dependent on the parents who enabled him.

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u/-Nightopian- 4d ago

People in wheelchairs can still drive. So that person may still be a threat to us all.

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u/HotRodHomebody 4d ago

This would make a lot of sense since no public defender is going to insist that it’s an emergency to bail someone out of jail. That is not their focus.

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u/matunos 4d ago

Would he even have a public defender assigned at this point?

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u/LNinDPtx 4d ago

This is exactly what I was going to say. I know things differ everywhere but I don’t know of anywhere or any situation where a public defender would have been appointed before initial arraignment or 1st court date, etc.

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u/legallymyself 4d ago

Bond is set at arraignment so yes it is possible in places.

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u/matunos 4d ago

Would the guy be arraigned if he's still in the hospital?

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u/LNinDPtx 4d ago

I’m just saying this entire post does seem a little fishy. Not entirely outside the realm of possibility but also not quite adding up correctly….imho. That’s all

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u/Human-Shirt-7351 3d ago

It's possible. When the Shanghai Shivers were running rampant in the US, courts got very good at remote hearings, etc. Most courts have stuck with using remote video conferencing on things like bond and arraignment hearings

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u/LNinDPtx 4d ago

Assuming the bond is legit….

Arraignment is also typically when initial request for public defender would be submitted, right?

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u/Human-Shirt-7351 3d ago

Some charges have an automatic bond (mostly petty misdemeanors). Felonies.. most places a bond must be set by a judge

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u/mythrowawayuhccount 3d ago

$9,500 is likely 10% of the full bond, so $95,000...

I can't think of a misdemeanor with a $95,000 bond.

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u/Human-Shirt-7351 3d ago

I agree on the misdemeanor not having that high of the bond.

I doubt he has a $100,000 bond. She is fairly likely being scanned

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u/Psychological_Tap187 3d ago

Yeah. Public defender would go to them like wo mi uses before they go before the judge, say sign this, plead guilty, pay your bail,then the fines. Go home.

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u/GrumpsMcWhooty 3d ago

Nope.

Source: Am attorney that does appointed criminal defense work for indigents.

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u/Human-Shirt-7351 3d ago

Good point... A public defender is usually appointed at the initial court hearing when charges are read, which I assume has not happened yet.

Assuming OP is truthful, very possible the kid is scamming them

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u/C_Dragons 3d ago

Not if he isn’t indigent. He may need to prove entitlement to a public defender. State laws vary.

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u/Miserable_Emu5191 3d ago

Probably not.

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u/Front_Sky3939 3d ago

Not usually you usually have to apply for one and shows hardship.

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u/NeedleworkerPresent6 3d ago

Bail wouldn’t be set until seeing a judge. Odd story.

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u/Legitimate-Slice-990 3d ago

Yeah their focus is clearing cases even if they have to railroad innocent people. Talking from experience.

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u/XxMarlucaxX 3d ago

Shockingly this is a thing that happens irl.

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u/IvanNemoy 4d ago

Yep. Report it as a fake and move on.

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u/delsoldeflorida 4d ago

Reported ☑️

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u/--Saavy-- 3d ago

Deadass my Mil was just telling me about this movie it does sound exactly the same

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u/Cheekiemon2024 3d ago

My senior neighbor just got this scam call but they pretended to be her grandson. 

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u/LaLechuzaVerde 3d ago

I know someone who actually lived this.

By which I mean they fell for the scam. The broken nose was the excuse for why the grandson’s voice didn’t sound right on the phone.

The real grandson was in another country at the time and had no idea he was sitting in jail, or scamming his grandparents out of thousands of dollars in gift card codes. 🤣

The poor doting grandparents only were saved from mortgaging their house for the f-ing scammer by a banker who got suspicious about the withdrawals and talked them into explaining the situation in spite of the “grandson’s” warning about a gag order and that if they told anybody he wouldn’t be able to get a plea bargain.

These are smart people who were blinded by their love for their grandchild.

But yeah, this story is bullshit. OP, if you think it’s for real, you’re getting scammed now. Better not send any money anywhere.

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u/Kunning-Druger 3d ago

I thought it seemed familiar!

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u/Illinigradman 3d ago

Check the post history. I suspect you are right

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u/SuluSpeaks 3d ago

Somebody tried to scam my mom like this, but it didn't work. All her grandkids called her Granny Franny, and when the kid said "grandma" she knee something was up. She was a savvy lady.

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u/Kingofjohanni 3d ago

This is a common scam my grandpa hung hope. I called him about something and he cussed me out thinking it was the scammer 

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u/knittedjedi 3d ago

It's fake. I just saw this movie lmao.

Hard same. It's a blow by blow replay.

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u/Kevin91581M 3d ago

Tf you talking about? Everyone knows 💯 of Reddit posts are true

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u/meeshka87 3d ago

… this is a fake? Wtf.

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u/CainnicOrel 3d ago

It's an actual RL scam too, very common

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u/synkndown 3d ago

Is it fake, or did the son also see this movie?

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u/Immediate_Grass_7362 3d ago

Okay, but this guy isn’t asking for money. He just wants validation. Life does mimic art sometimes. There was a movie about a hole opening up in the ground. Guess what? It just happened in our park. No one was there. Does that mean it’s fake?

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u/FinallydamnLDnat5 3d ago

I say this as a mother, leave him there for the weekend. It maybe what he needs to wake up and stop being so inconsiderate.

You got to raise and enjoy your son, this poor mother he hit with his car might not. Please let that sink in and see he needs to face this. Don't bail him out.

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u/Expensive_Ad_9506 3d ago

I wholeheartedly disagree. Tough lessons stick with you. He needs consequences. Hopefully the poor woman and baby are ok.

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u/Stinkytheferret 3d ago

NTAH. TELL HIM TOO, “YOU FUCKED UP AND ITS NOT SOMETHING WE CAN FIX! YOU BETTER HOPE THIS WOMAN AND CHILD ARE OK! IDK IF ILL EVER BE MORE DISAPPOINTED IN YOU THAN I AM NOW!”

Say that! You don’t want to but there is some stuff what needs to be said and the parent needs to say it. That’s you!

Give him zero dollars. And don’t let him come home once he’s out. He has to hit rock bottom and bounce better or he’s lost and you don’t need that.

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u/iJayZen 3d ago

He needs to learn.

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u/MasterOfDonks 3d ago

I can’t believe that the mother has no hand in this child’s spoiled little shit behavior. The entire blaming dead dad thing reeks of avoiding accountability. If this was my kid I’d either disown him or beat the shit out of him for killing a baby. No way. Should op let their kid go to jail?! What a joke