aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA]

He's 19 and still hasn't learned. A weekend might finally make him see reality.

[u/MtnMoose307 → u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA]

Good thing he’s over 18. If the victim sues, OP should avoid being involved with that.

[u/Remarkable-Foot9630 → u/MtnMoose307]

Unless she was connected to the title, or if her son is still under OP auto insurance. Then they could legally go after her also.

[u/Loud-Bee6673 → u/Remarkable-Foot9630]

Yup, I know someone whose adult son died in a motorcycle crash, and they ended up paying a huge settlement to the other injured party … out of their homeowners. Because the son lived over the garage on their property

[u/MtnMoose307 → u/Loud-Bee6673]

Wow, I had no idea where someone lives can cause an innocent party to be sued.

[u/Specific_Anxiety_343 → u/MtnMoose307]

It doesn’t. The wires got crossed somewhere in this story.

[u/Loud-Bee6673 → u/MtnMoose307]

I never really felt comfortable asking for details, but I do know if happened on the road very close to the house. So maybe that was it?

[u/vwscienceandart → u/Loud-Bee6673]

The only way this would make sense is if the accident happened on their property (so maybe where they crashed was a private access road or something?) or if their homeowners and auto are bundled so the telling of the story got confused because it’s the same company.