r/AITAH • u/ShowerElectrical9342 • 6d ago

aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA 6d ago

He's 19 and still hasn't learned. A weekend might finally make him see reality.

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u/MtnMoose307 5d ago

Good thing he’s over 18. If the victim sues, OP should avoid being involved with that.

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u/Remarkable-Foot9630 5d ago

Unless she was connected to the title, or if her son is still under OP auto insurance. Then they could legally go after her also.

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u/Captmike76p 5d ago

I was worried he would come out and swipe mom's car and she is possibly on the hook for not hiding the keys or whatever the lawyer can dream up just to get the hooks set.

I feel for mom but it took my son a Halloween in jail for DUI, and exhibition of speed third offense to drive the point home. Judge took his license and I sold his car to the first guy with cash to cover the note. My pickup and the wife's car both had blow boxes for the duration of the trial. He wanted to be Mr. Badass street hoonagan but after 60 days in the pulp wood swamps of North Carolina with a rifle pointed at his head he wised up. He paid everything back to me at a dime a log