r/AITAH 6d ago

aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

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u/dollywooddude 6d ago

How was he locked up wrongly? He won’t even say how badly hurt the woman is. He’s in the jail hospital. He’s totalled two cars. Let him stay there and deal with the consequences of his dangerous actions.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 5d ago

I mean I guess but I guess you've never made mistakes as a young kid so you're willing to crucify someone before you know all the facts

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u/SuperWaluigi77 5d ago

He's fucking 19. Time to grow up. Actions have consequences, some of those consequences can include jail when you fuck up.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 5d ago

Yeah but city is different than county by light years, they hold rapists, murderers, gang bangers before they get shipped to prison I'm just not ready to say this kid deserves to go through all that while also waiting on a court Date based on a very low info vague reddit post but I guess hang them now and investigate after the fact, idk seems like rage bate to me just a lot doesn't make since but I guess I'm just alone in thinking we need more facts before we judge