aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/Dense_Reputation_420]

You've never been to county then it's rough for a kid.

[u/Fun-Frosting-5673 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

He deserved that and more

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Fun-Frosting-5673]

Have you ever been locked up wrongly and had charges dropped, have you ever spent just a night in county? If not then you just don't know what you're talking about

[u/dollywooddude → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

How was he locked up wrongly? He won’t even say how badly hurt the woman is. He’s in the jail hospital. He’s totalled two cars. Let him stay there and deal with the consequences of his dangerous actions.

[u/HighPriestess__55 → u/dollywooddude]

If he's in the jail hospital, he hasn't been told more about her condition.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/dollywooddude]

I mean I guess but I guess you've never made mistakes as a young kid so you're willing to crucify someone before you know all the facts

[u/will822 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

The first time is a mistake. Second and third, not so much. Sorry, but you're as big a tool as the OP's son.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/will822]

I mean it was my cousin douche bag, and it was within 3 years thanks for making assumptions though, you're definitely holier than thou

[u/will822 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

And that changes your comments on the OP's son how? You're still a tool but have a nice day 🤡.

[u/SuperWaluigi77 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

He's fucking 19. Time to grow up. Actions have consequences, some of those consequences can include jail when you fuck up.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/SuperWaluigi77]

Yeah but city is different than county by light years, they hold rapists, murderers, gang bangers before they get shipped to prison I'm just not ready to say this kid deserves to go through all that while also waiting on a court Date based on a very low info vague reddit post but I guess hang them now and investigate after the fact, idk seems like rage bate to me just a lot doesn't make since but I guess I'm just alone in thinking we need more facts before we judge

[u/BrobaFett115 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Well no I’ve never got a pregnant lady and possibly killed her child

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/BrobaFett115]

I mean do you even know allbthe facts? Was it a fender bender? Roll over? Was she a pedestrian? A passenger? I just don't feel like we should crucify stone over a vague story by op but obviously it's shoot now ask questions later with the lot of you

[u/BlueFlameCanon → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

I made plenty of mistakes. None of them involved killing a baby.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/BlueFlameCanon]

Is the baby dead? Did the woman have a miscarriage do you even know if she was in a car or pedestrian there are a thousand things you're just making assumptions of without even considering the multiple possibilities that could have happened, ive lost kids of my own so I don't take it lightly but I also don't cast judgment without at least getting more facts

[u/dollywooddude → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

After three crashes it’s not a mistake it’s a pattern! He doesn’t give a fuck. He didn’t learn his lesson. He should be jailed to learn that his actions have consequences