aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/STUNTPENlS]

Let him rot in county lockup.

If the baby dies, in some states, he could be charged with vehicular manslaughter.

[u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA → u/STUNTPENlS]

He's 19 and still hasn't learned. A weekend might finally make him see reality.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA]

You've never been to county then it's rough for a kid.

[u/Fun-Frosting-5673 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

He deserved that and more

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Fun-Frosting-5673]

Have you ever been locked up wrongly and had charges dropped, have you ever spent just a night in county? If not then you just don't know what you're talking about

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

I've spent the night in a Baltimore city jail. It was one of the worst nights of my life. I hope OP's son lives every bit of the discomfort I experienced. A woman could lose her fucking baby. What the fuck is wrong with you.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

City isn't the same as county for starters, and you're ready to give pain to someone based on a very vague rage baiting reddit post without any real facts or evidence, I also take miscarriage very fucking seriously as I have never gotten to hold, name or see 9 children get born because of it so chill on your fucking assumptions

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Are you kidding? Dude have you ever watched the wire? Like they made a whole fucking TV show about how bad Baltimore city prisons are. Dude, you're fucking straight up stupid.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

City jail and prison aren't the same thing, city jail is for misdemeanor crimes if felony charges are brought up they send you to county after a day or so, you either spend up to a year maybe 2-3max in county but if your sentence is any more you then go to state prison are you stupid? Are you basing your knowledge on a fictional TV show?

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

This kid isn't in prison yet either. He's in jail. Like I was. I'm basing my knowledge on my own personal experience. In the fourteen hours I was locked up I had a girl od in front of me and the guards did nothing, and I got my teeth knocked out because I looked like "a college kid". It wasn't a fun fucking time. That was because I hopped the light rail without a ticket. He can suffer his time for endangering people multiple times and ultimately ruining someone's life. I'm sorry that your personal experience is clouding your judgement here. I know the prison system is deeply flawed and fucked up, but some people deserve to be there, full stop.

Edit - we aren't talking about a "miscarriage" (something I've also experienced personally as woman), if she loses the baby that's manslaughter. To call it a miscarriage is hugely trivializing.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

I mean it's a rage bait article to begin with, but you think he'd deserve to be locked up for months in a worse jail than you were in even Given your previously bad experience, I know some people need it I'm not saying that I'm just saying with as little evidence as we're given on a vague reddit post I'm just not super quick to feed this guy to the sharks without knowing more, that's just me. Also I really am sorry to hear about that experience being locked up is pretty rough I think every one should have to experience at least 24hrs in a city jail just to really see what it's like it's a pretty crazy and heinous place it's rough that's for sure!

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

You're either a troll or a moron. Peace ✌🏻

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

Typical redditor can't have a real conversation, I guess having a difference in opinion makes me a troll instead of learning and growing from differenting opinions,better understanding other viewpoints better dip lol most people on reddit can't have a civil discussion with a different opinion than someone lol

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

I'll never get to hold, never got to name, or see 9 babies born due to miscarriage so I know all to well as well sorry for your loss that is some of the hardest things to ever go tbrough in this world and i will die on that hill, but the charge would be manslaughter you're right but the woman would have miscarried for it to be come manslaughter.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

It's obvious you don't really know what you're talking about, I'm not saying your city jail wasn't horrible but by that standard your county would be worse and your state prisons would be worse than that, unless you're meaning you went to county instead of city or unless Baltimore had a completely different jailing system than any other state

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

So what? So fucking what if he has a hard time in "county" or whatever the fuck you're splitting hairs over. He deserves to be there. He didn't do this once. It's his third time and you think it's some grand conspiracy? You're absolutely mental.

[u/dollywooddude → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

How was he locked up wrongly? He won’t even say how badly hurt the woman is. He’s in the jail hospital. He’s totalled two cars. Let him stay there and deal with the consequences of his dangerous actions.

[u/HighPriestess__55 → u/dollywooddude]

If he's in the jail hospital, he hasn't been told more about her condition.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/dollywooddude]

I mean I guess but I guess you've never made mistakes as a young kid so you're willing to crucify someone before you know all the facts

[u/will822 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

The first time is a mistake. Second and third, not so much. Sorry, but you're as big a tool as the OP's son.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/will822]

I mean it was my cousin douche bag, and it was within 3 years thanks for making assumptions though, you're definitely holier than thou

[u/will822 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

And that changes your comments on the OP's son how? You're still a tool but have a nice day 🤡.

[u/SuperWaluigi77 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

He's fucking 19. Time to grow up. Actions have consequences, some of those consequences can include jail when you fuck up.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/SuperWaluigi77]

Yeah but city is different than county by light years, they hold rapists, murderers, gang bangers before they get shipped to prison I'm just not ready to say this kid deserves to go through all that while also waiting on a court Date based on a very low info vague reddit post but I guess hang them now and investigate after the fact, idk seems like rage bate to me just a lot doesn't make since but I guess I'm just alone in thinking we need more facts before we judge

[u/BrobaFett115 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Well no I’ve never got a pregnant lady and possibly killed her child

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/BrobaFett115]

I mean do you even know allbthe facts? Was it a fender bender? Roll over? Was she a pedestrian? A passenger? I just don't feel like we should crucify stone over a vague story by op but obviously it's shoot now ask questions later with the lot of you

[u/BlueFlameCanon → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

I made plenty of mistakes. None of them involved killing a baby.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/BlueFlameCanon]

Is the baby dead? Did the woman have a miscarriage do you even know if she was in a car or pedestrian there are a thousand things you're just making assumptions of without even considering the multiple possibilities that could have happened, ive lost kids of my own so I don't take it lightly but I also don't cast judgment without at least getting more facts

[u/dollywooddude → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

After three crashes it’s not a mistake it’s a pattern! He doesn’t give a fuck. He didn’t learn his lesson. He should be jailed to learn that his actions have consequences

[u/SuperWaluigi77 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

The fuck is wrong with you? What makes you think he was locked up wrongly? Should we just throw this fucking loser a parade because you had a rough time in lockup? Nobody gives a shit about the county jail you were in or how many backlogged cases it had.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/SuperWaluigi77]

I mean I got paid by the state for my time, since there was no evidence for why I should have been arrested in the first place and never had anything on my record because of it, I'm not saying praise this guy but don't go making assumptions based on a vague rage baiting reddit post but I guess we should just shoot first ask questions later huh? I was just tryingbto give insight to people that wouldn't other wise get what they are wishing on probably a fictional kid in probably a fictional story from op but I guess that's just too much to grasp for some people, lol