aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

I've spent the night in a Baltimore city jail. It was one of the worst nights of my life. I hope OP's son lives every bit of the discomfort I experienced. A woman could lose her fucking baby. What the fuck is wrong with you.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

City isn't the same as county for starters, and you're ready to give pain to someone based on a very vague rage baiting reddit post without any real facts or evidence, I also take miscarriage very fucking seriously as I have never gotten to hold, name or see 9 children get born because of it so chill on your fucking assumptions

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Are you kidding? Dude have you ever watched the wire? Like they made a whole fucking TV show about how bad Baltimore city prisons are. Dude, you're fucking straight up stupid.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Bashfulapplesnapple]

It's obvious you don't really know what you're talking about, I'm not saying your city jail wasn't horrible but by that standard your county would be worse and your state prisons would be worse than that, unless you're meaning you went to county instead of city or unless Baltimore had a completely different jailing system than any other state

[u/Bashfulapplesnapple → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

So what? So fucking what if he has a hard time in "county" or whatever the fuck you're splitting hairs over. He deserves to be there. He didn't do this once. It's his third time and you think it's some grand conspiracy? You're absolutely mental.