r/AITAH • u/ShowerElectrical9342 • 6d ago
aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed
My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.
He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.
He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!
But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.
I'm overwhelmed.
He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.
I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.
He's 19.
But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.
Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.
He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?
Help! I have to move fast!
AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?
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u/Bashfulapplesnapple 5d ago edited 5d ago
This kid isn't in prison yet either. He's in jail. Like I was. I'm basing my knowledge on my own personal experience. In the fourteen hours I was locked up I had a girl od in front of me and the guards did nothing, and I got my teeth knocked out because I looked like "a college kid". It wasn't a fun fucking time. That was because I hopped the light rail without a ticket. He can suffer his time for endangering people multiple times and ultimately ruining someone's life. I'm sorry that your personal experience is clouding your judgement here. I know the prison system is deeply flawed and fucked up, but some people deserve to be there, full stop.
Edit - we aren't talking about a "miscarriage" (something I've also experienced personally as woman), if she loses the baby that's manslaughter. To call it a miscarriage is hugely trivializing.