r/AITAH • u/ShowerElectrical9342 • 6d ago

aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 6d ago

Have you ever been locked up wrongly and had charges dropped, have you ever spent just a night in county? If not then you just don't know what you're talking about

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u/dollywooddude 6d ago

How was he locked up wrongly? He won’t even say how badly hurt the woman is. He’s in the jail hospital. He’s totalled two cars. Let him stay there and deal with the consequences of his dangerous actions.

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 6d ago

I mean I guess but I guess you've never made mistakes as a young kid so you're willing to crucify someone before you know all the facts

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u/BrobaFett115 5d ago

Well no I’ve never got a pregnant lady and possibly killed her child

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u/Dense_Reputation_420 5d ago

I mean do you even know allbthe facts? Was it a fender bender? Roll over? Was she a pedestrian? A passenger? I just don't feel like we should crucify stone over a vague story by op but obviously it's shoot now ask questions later with the lot of you