aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/STUNTPENlS]

Let him rot in county lockup.

If the baby dies, in some states, he could be charged with vehicular manslaughter.

[u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA → u/STUNTPENlS]

He's 19 and still hasn't learned. A weekend might finally make him see reality.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/PM_ME_YOUR_PUPUSA]

You've never been to county then it's rough for a kid.

[u/whiskey_riverss → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

The woman he hit might lose her baby but yeah I’d hate for him to be uncomfy for the weekend.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/whiskey_riverss]

Let everyone have their day in court before casting judgment just saying that or don't believe in the court system either way

[u/Fun-Frosting-5673 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Username fits!

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Fun-Frosting-5673]

Lmao I always get that, it's an auto-generated name, if you remember when you signed up it gave you the same option, everyone always gives me shit, when I talk about making good money working hard jobs in the plants lol but you know assumptions make an ass out of you and me lol

[u/Trainer_NoName → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

That’s obviously not one of the auto generated names. It’s normally 1000x more random and numbers used for comedy are black listed

[u/Ok_Wrangler_7940 → u/Trainer_NoName]

Mine is auto generated. I would love to change it, but can’t seem to figure out how to do that. 😩

[u/DearMrsLeading → u/Ok_Wrangler_7940]

It’s too late for you, you can change it in settings but only once and only for 30 days after account creation.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Trainer_NoName]

If you can tell me a way to prove it I will, I just don't know how.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Trainer_NoName]

"Normally" you said it yourself I can't help it's the first that popped up and the one I picked I don't know what to tell you but it's 100% auto generated sorry, can't help you there. Just don't feel bad a lot of people have said the same thing and you, just like them are wrong it's the first name that popped up and the fist I picked, blame reddit, I guess

[u/AddictiveArtistry → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

No. Let him sit. Bailing him out at this point is continuing enabling him.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/whiskey_riverss]

Did he hit her hard or was it a fender bender was it even proven in a court of law it's his fault? Has he seen his court day, as someone that had charges dropped the law isn't always right

[u/exessmirror → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

If that's the case he can post bail himself

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/exessmirror]

If he's not making money like I was it's hard, plus someone has to pick up his card and pay it with it although only 950 doesn't seem like he did too much wrong but it's been a long time since I was locked up and wrongly accused so who knows

[u/Common_Scar4611 → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Only $950? Re read. The bail is $9,500.00. WTF

[u/No-Entrepreneur6040 → u/Common_Scar4611]

Normally, the accused only puts up a %, often 10%, so guessing $950 is pretty reasonable.

FYI, that amount is non refundable so in our 10% scenario, Mom is out that nearly $1,000! I’d leave him there, too! Once he sees a judge he may be released on his own recognizance - or not!

[u/kikivee612 → u/No-Entrepreneur6040]

Unless it’s cash bail. Then he’s gotta put up the whole amount.

[u/Wackadoodle-do → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Oh, I'm sure it was just a gentle bump...that's why she may lose her baby./s Sheesh

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/Wackadoodle-do]

Hey homeboy I've lost 9 kids I never got to name hold or see be born I don't take it lightly but you can't just assume it was a huge wreck and both cars went up I'm flames, op didn't explain anything that happem and all you reddit warriors who are holier than thou are coming at me for saying it may not have been that bad on a story that is probably just rage bating anyway but go ahead an assume I'm some piece of shit for not judging someone without the facts, and sharing how I feel about a pretty vague post.

[u/dvasop → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

Blah blah blah quit making excuses