aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/bawtatron2000]

NTA - sounds like he needs a lesson, don't pay $$ for his bio father's mistakes.

[u/itsyagirlrey → u/bawtatron2000]

It's fake. I just saw this movie lmao. It's a bit from the movie Thelma about an old lady who gets scammed over the phone from a fake call about giving money for her grandson to get him out of jail. Very funny OP!

She gets a call saying her grandson hit a pregnant woman with his car, that his nose is broken and he doesn't know the details on the baby, and his public defender insists he needs 10k for the bail to get him out of jail. The old lady ends up getting 9,500$ back from the "bail money." It's a really good movie, highly recommend.

[u/maroongrad → u/itsyagirlrey]

Except I know a family whose son did this TWICE as a teen and at 19? Third time? Killed an entire family. Put himself in a wheelchair so at least it won't happen again.

[u/itsyagirlrey → u/maroongrad]

The details are the same from the movie. She gets a phone call her grandson is in jail for hitting a pregnant woman with his car, his nose is broken but he doesn't know any details, and the "public defender" wants 10k. She finds out it's a scam and transfer 9,500 back to herself cause she feels bad enough for the scammer. to leave him 500.

[u/Drabby → u/itsyagirlrey]

It's also a popular scam in real life. My husband's grandfather got a call that my husband had been arrested for drunk driving and sounded funny because he'd broken his nose. He needed $9000 that very day, and nobody else in the family must know, for he was so ashamed! Of course none of it was true. Granddad sent the money. UPS stopped the delivery because they had the address flagged as a scam.

[u/crazyeagles62 → u/Drabby]

My dad, was in his 60's at the time, got this same kind of call. Fortunately, my nephew and my son, his only grandsons, were with him when he received the call. He acted all shocked and concerned, got some info from them, hung up and called it in to local PD.

[u/IHaveNoEgrets → u/crazyeagles62]

Ha! My grandmother got that, too. Except at the time my brother WORKED at the police station, so she knew it had to be bull. She still called my dad with the details, and he sent it to the PD on her behalf.

[u/LopsidedPalace → u/IHaveNoEgrets]

One of my grandmother's got that. The only difference is she had three grandchildren, two boys and I, and knew not that none of us would be damned fools enough to pull that shit.

Her husband's father was, I am told, an abusive alcoholic. They weren't vocal about their views by any means but I'm pretty sure if we had managed to get involved in something like that they would have disowned us. Which, fair enough.

[u/Ok-Midnight-7084 → u/Drabby]

This happened to my husband's Nonni. She was told my husband hit a pregnant woman and needed bail money. Luckily she had the thought to call me after she got the call as I am the one that handles basically everything in our life. I was so pissed that someone did that to her.

Edit: Spelling

[u/Fi-artist → u/Drabby]

This happened to my grandma too and they called about my brother

[u/IndigenousWalker → u/itsyagirlrey]

Also look at his other posts. What a flake

[u/Siminiss → u/itsyagirlrey]

Just because you saw a movie about it doesnt change that it actually does happen in real life

[u/mlhigg1973 → u/Siminiss]

No, it doesn’t, but in this particular case, it’s a fake story.

[u/ThadeousStevensda3rd → u/mlhigg1973]

Oh wow I didn’t realize we have the son/family right here in the chat. Mind answering a few questions while you are here?

[u/No-Abies-1232 → u/mlhigg1973]

Did you post this fake story? I mean yeah it might be fake but you are acting like this is the same thing as the movie when this isn’t a grandma and she hasn’t paid anything. 

[u/IndigenousWalker → u/No-Abies-1232]

Look at his other posts. This is some kid making up BS

[u/jimbojangles1987 → u/Siminiss]

Is there a reason you want to believe it's true?

[u/Fantastic_Poet4800 → u/Siminiss]

god you guys are so gullible.