r/PetiteFitness • u/bazookiedookie • 2d ago
Someone called me a “thicker girl” when describing me today - got me feeling a bit discouraged with where I’m at in my journey (5’4” 130lbs) Rant
How do you you guys handle stuff like this? I didn’t say anything to the person because I don’t think they necessarily were saying it negatively, but idk I hate when people comment on women’s bodies like that.
I’m probably being overly sensitive but hearing that made me feel like I’m kinda failing in my fitness journey. I’ve plateaued here at the 130 mark (goal weight is 120) and this comment has gotten in my head a bit. I kinda thought I looked average right now, but didn’t really considered myself to be “thick”
I definitely carry my weight in my waist and hips unfortunately. But we all know you can’t do “spot” weight loss.
Any encouragement is welcome. How do you handle these situations? What do you tell yourself?
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u/TunaThePanda 2d ago
I’m sure this doesn’t mean much but… you are my goal weight/body. I’m only 5’2ish, but post covid I got up to 155 and am struggling with a crippling sugar addiction that is preventing much weight loss. I’m trying to get to where you are - you look amazing! #bodygoals
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u/bazookiedookie 2d ago
Im also 90% sure sugar is holding me back from getting to 120 - I have a really bad sugar tooth as well. Have yet to figure out how to combat this aside from just trying to go cold turkey
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u/TunaThePanda 2d ago
Right? Everyone says that’s the way but… it’s not called an addiction cuz it’s easy to stop 🥴
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u/4SeasonWahine 2d ago
Just here to say I’m with both of you on this - it’s the SINGLE obstacle that prevents me ever getting to what could be considered “slim”. It’s a constant battle just to maintain with the sugar cravings but I’ve managed for the last few years. When I lost 15kgs I would attribute a lot of it to cutting out sugar - unfortunately the people are right, when you stop consuming it completely the cravings go away. But god it’s brutal getting to that point and as soon as I fall off a little bit the addiction comes back. I hate how much I crave and enjoy sweet things, forever envious of people who just don’t have a sweet tooth.
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u/Whole_Assumption108 1d ago edited 1d ago
If it helps at all, I found Sarah Wilson's I Quit Sugar books / info really helpful. It's not something I think you need to necessarily follow exactly, but the overall philosophy was very useful, particularly when trying to kick it. That was years ago and I do have sugar in fruits and the occasional treat, but it's not something I really crave. I have insulin resistance and PCOS, so it's super important to keep my intake under control!
Edit to add: That person was probably projecting their own insecurities on to you, or trying to knock you down a peg. You have a beautiful body, don't listen to them!
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u/innkeepergazelle 1d ago
I'm only 5'2 and I got to the 140s last year. Now I'm sitting at 170 or so. I put back on like 25 pounds this year bc of MH issues that caused me to eat more and exercise less. It's been so hard. I feel terrible. I look at OP, and I'm really envious.
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u/Odd_Pressure9943 1d ago
hello! what does OP mean?
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u/9nine_stories 1d ago
I was going to say this as well, this is my goal body. I’m 5’1” and 135. When I imagine what I want my body to be, this is like exact what I picture. OP, I think you look fantastic and definitely wouldn’t consider you “thicker”. Keep in mind it’s all subjective. I’ve been in a 500 deficit everyday for 2 months with 3-5 days of 1hr exercise a week and I’ve only lost 1 lb. Probably due to muscle gain, but I still have a chubby belly, so I know the feeling of being discouraged. Just keep doing what you’re doing and take it one day at a time.
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u/Prestigious-Oil4213 2d ago
They meant it in a good way! I don’t think you realize how great you look! Like, damn 🔥
For comments you don’t want to hear, you can always say thank you and follow-up with something along the lines of you not wanting to hear comments about your body.
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u/bazookiedookie 2d ago
Awh Thank u for the kind words
I don’t know how to politely tell them not to comment on my body 😅 - I guess i struggle with the thought of confrontation
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u/Supermutt2011 2d ago
I like the idea of “what an odd thing to say!” but I haven’t built up the courage to ever use it yet 😅 seriously though, you look amazing and are literally My body goals!! 5’3 here and I’d be thrilled to get back down to 130. Be proud of yourself!!!
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u/CozyMouseMuppet 2d ago
I think what helps is instead of framing something as “confrontation” think of it as simply stating a preference.
You do look great btw 🥰
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u/Sheetascastle 2d ago
Scripts from people outside the situation help me sometimes. I usually go for making it a future request rather than an accusation because people are less defensive.
"hey- last time we hung out/talked you mentioned that I look thick. I'm sure it was meant as a compliment, but it makes me feel uncomfortable/self-conscious/objectified when people talk about my body. Could you do me a favor and skip those comments?"
If they push back, they're someone you can feel comfortable distancing yourself from. If they apologize, you can move on, no hard feelings. If they ask for clarification, you can say "I don't mind comments on outfits, makeup, or generics like great/good/tired, just the specific ones that call out body types or features".
Modify the script/word choice to your liking. Be honest and kind if you think they weren't being cruel. If you think it was intentionally rude you could reduce the softness of the request with something like "I'd appreciate it if you kept things like that to yourself."
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u/ChirpyChickadee 2d ago
Everyone needs boundaries. It’s foundational self-care. You just have to practice and you’ll see that nothing bad will happen when you stick up for yourself. You can even be gentle about it. You only live once - don’t live in fear. Also, you look awesome and I would not describe you as thick. But you should know that thicc is a compliment to most people. It usually is a positive thing referring to nice curves.
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u/bloodreina_ 1d ago
This also may be a generational thing? Being ‘thick’ is considered attractive nowadays & is the ideal body.
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u/Potential_Soup_6469 2d ago
I was a total menace at 130 5’4 and from the pics it seems you are too!!!! I now miss my menacing days so enjoy your body!
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u/SolarSurfer7 1d ago
What do you mean when you say you were a menace?
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u/Potential_Soup_6469 1d ago
Yes like imagine seeing someone extremely hot out in the world and thinking wow this person is now going to be a menace in my mind. I guess it sounds strange when I explain it lol
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u/AdChemical1663 22h ago
I was smoking hot at that height and weight and never paid my own bar tab. My friends were equally hot, and we successfully instituted a rule that if the table was approached during Ladies Night at the bar, the gentleman had to buy a round for the entire table before talking to one of us. We successfully bamboozled a dude and his wingman into picking up dinner for five in order to have dessert with us.
The early 2000s in the military was a crazy time and place.
I would not have called myself a menace, but only because I didn’t know it as a descriptor.
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u/msdashwood 2d ago
You look fabulous imo!
I’m back on my weight loss journey after gaining some weight back but I am close to 5’3 and my lowest was 137. During that time I was talking to a friend she asked what size my jeans were and I said 9 is a little on the tight side so I usually prefer 10- she really looked at me like no way you lost all that weight and are still double digit in jeans! I was like you do know we all carry weight differently right? My mom has always been “skinny” in the 120’s with very little effort and she wears 8’s!! My hips,butt and thighs have always been where I carry most of it.
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u/bazookiedookie 2d ago
Buying jeans is so difficult - they never fit the same across brands haha I have everything from size 2s to 8s in my closet lol
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u/tylosword 2d ago
I just want to add that it was an inappropriate comment to make regardless of whether someone is on a weightloss journey or not
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u/Knitter8369 2d ago
5’4 130 actually sounds slim to average. I’m 5’1 and 120ish. That’s a healthy weight but granted I’d like to be slimmer. Can’t imagine either one of us being called thick???
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u/No-Statistician1782 2d ago
Yeah I'm 5'3" and 130 and while I may not be a stick. This is not a fat weight lol
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u/misntshortformary 2d ago
I had the exact same thing happen to me in my teens. A classmate that I didn’t know well at all (also a teen) told me I was thick. I was in competitive dance at the time (and for years before). I was 5’1 and weighed a whopping 94lbs! We argued about it in class with him saying it was compliment and me saying it was rude. After it happened I talked to many male friends about it and the general consensus was that some guys use “thick” to mean “I want, no I NEED to tell you that I think you have a great ass but I can’t say that so I’ll say thick instead”. 🙄 gross and rude. But not an actual comment on your weight.
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u/erinnnea 1d ago
Similar thing happened to me as a teen at 5 foot I was maybe 100-105 pounds and a coworker said I was curvy. I’m sure he meant it as a compliment but in 2009 curvy wasn’t always said as a compliment and I cried. I really wish people just wouldn’t comment on others bodies.
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u/Vivid-pineapple-5765 2d ago
My husband says that about me and I’m about the same size. He says it is a compliment. 🙄
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u/theblondegal1202 2d ago
Hey, I get that too as a woman with more muscle & curves, and honestly, i take it as a compliment! You look amazing!
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u/mindycrary 2d ago
You look fantastic!
My go-to comment is “Stop describing me,” really deadpan, and people usually laugh…
but if they don’t, I’ll look them up and down and say, “So I guess describing YOUR body is fair game then,” and then they’ll usually stop or go away, I didn’t mean any harm…
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u/laurenkaii 2d ago
Don’t take it to heart. I’m also 5’4” and have a similar build, and before I started working out and weighed 135 I had multiple guys tell me I was “tiny” or “skinny” even though I didn’t consider myself either of those things. It’s all in the eye of the beholder and everyone will see you & your body differently so it’s not really worth striving towards a certain appearance for anyone but yourself ❤️
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u/babewiththepower13 2d ago
I’m 5ft 4 too and would love to be at 130 - I would describe you as slim with an attractive feminine shape, not thick. And who’s commenting out loud in your body anyway?! It’s a bit weird. Try to keep in mind all the posed and photoshopped images you see of other bodies aren’t real - these pictures are real, unposed and you still look great, you would probably look how you ‘want’ with the right lighting and poses etc, so try not to be too hard on yourself.
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u/whereismysideoffun 2d ago
Whoever said that to you has an insanely skewed view of what is average! And some people are just mean. It's a tonnnnn of work to get slimmer than this, because this is average. You look really amazing and shouldn't let that person get you down. Your look is really ideal!
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u/bazookiedookie 2d ago
That’s kinda how I felt too - I feel like I’m at a very average shape/weight currently, not thin but not thick - just average lol so it definitely took me back a little.
I’m trying to stay motivated so I can finally start putting on some muscle.
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u/womenarenice 2d ago
They probably mean you have some muscle on your thighs. Can give appearance of "thick" but you imo I definitely wouldn't call you thick. You just looks like someone who lifts weights
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u/Bostonlady9898 2d ago
I’m sorry someone made you feel less than the beautiful person you are. We are all made so feel that we should aspire to be a specific size and weight but it’s all BS.
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u/MsSpastica 2d ago
So I'm 5'4" and also 130lbs, and you look fantastic. I can look at you, and think you look great- but look at myself with the same stats and think I look doughy. So, obv. we are all our own worst judge.
Also, fuck that guy.
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u/maggie250 2d ago
You look amazing! I always thought thick meant "muscular/curvy", as in, you've got a nice shape.
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u/dgirl1627 2d ago
Ummm you look FANTASTIC. Why do people think they can comment on someone else’s body?! They can mind their own damn body.
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u/MonthlySuspicion0119 2d ago
If a man said this, I've learned that they do misuse descriptive words. Kind of like how some, if not most, will call someone "natural" even though you can yourself see they have concealer, blush, mascara, and lip tint, etc etc. A lot of other factors play into others' opinions -- so many in fact that at some point it becomes useless to take into account other's opinions because it'd literally be impossible to take it all into account and please everyone. I understand how hard it is to hear things about yourself you don't like and I feel for you in that part, and you're validated. Just keep in mind other people have very different views and preferences due to upbringing, environment, culture, what they're attracted to personally, etc etc. My point is, YOU need to like how you look. In my opinion, I think you look phenomenal and have known plenty of men and women that would be of the same opinion. But that doesn't necessarily matter if you don't think so as well. I say this from experience; my fiancee loves how I look, and he's said he's seen men look at me thinking I was attractive-- but I literally cry every time we have to leave the house because I don't like seeing myself in the mirror or how any of my clothes fit no matter how big they are, or how many compliments my son and fiancee give me. Confidence, and self-esteem are internal. But anyways like I, and many others have already said, you look wonderful and I hope you're able to see that in yourself someday! 🙏🏾🩷
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u/_liminal_ 2d ago
Honestly, you look amazing! I don't know what your fitness goals are but you look strong, healthy, and wonderful.
With people who comment on my body, I either ignore it and mentally judge them for being rude or, if it's someone I feel getting into it with, I let them know I'm not really interested in their comments or thoughts about my body. More often than not, I just ignore them, but I think it's totally up to your comfort level!
Objectively though, you look great!
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u/lexilexi1901 2d ago
You're definitely not fat if that's your concern! You actually look pretty healthy :) Have you possibly gained the most muscles on your thighs? They look fantastic BTW, just like every other part of your body. And I'm not saying this to please you. Don't let the comments get you down ♡
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u/thriftybride25 2d ago
People don’t know what healthy bodies look like and it shows. You look great!
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u/angelbaby1414 1d ago
One of my best friends and I took a picture together three years ago on a hike. She said she looked “so skinny next to me”. It really hurt and my relationship with food and exercise hasn’t been the same since. I distanced myself from her for a year. I forgave her and were friends still, but she watered already bad soil with that comment. 3 years later and I still think about it regularly
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u/FunClassroom6577 1d ago
I think they meant in a good way. You are actually smaller than the average weight for women.
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u/Stoplookinatmeswaan 2d ago
I was just talking about how triggering that term is. And, because I’m a dancer and strong on the bottom, even at a size 00 and 112 pounds, people still referred to me as thick. Absolutely mind-bending!
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u/bazookiedookie 1d ago
Yeah I will be honest I don’t like the term and I didn’t like being called that.
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u/Sunshine-andRavioli 2d ago
You're well proportioned and have a nice body shape. "Thick" is not what comes to mind. Maybe it was a compliment, but you could ask them not to comment on your body in the future?
You look to be a healthy weight. Focusing on 120 as a goal might be discouraging you. At this point it should be more about how strong and healthy you feel and how you fit in your favorite clothes! You could tone up with strength training (only if that's your goal- you look great regardless!), but the scale may still not budge.
From personal experience, I'm 5'3" and haven't been 120 since my early 20s. I filled out more and built muscle from hiking a ton. I will never be 120 again, and that's ok! The number on the scale can be a measure of progress, but not in every scenario. 🙂
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u/marktexplorer 2d ago
You look absolutely fantastic. Plus saw your hair post. Your hair is incredible!
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u/shockedpikachu123 2d ago
I used to take it very personally but then the worst thing that ever happened was when I was seeing this Italian guy. He said youre a nice person, very pretty but would be perfect if you didn’t have grabs my stomach. like literally out of nowhere and out of context. I decided after that moment im not going to let anyone, especially a man make me feel some type of way about my body. I would embarrass the person and ask them why they felt comfortable pointing that out
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u/mt9891 1d ago
Good for you girl! Ironically, I read this and immediately thought of a conversation I had with one of my exes when we were together. I had put on about 20lbs during our relationship and was struggling as it was new for me. He mentioned that real men love the softness of a woman’s stomach (specifically for him the lower stomach area/love handles and or “pooch”). “Stretch marks, wide waist and all” is what he said. While he understands and respects a woman’s decision to do what they want with their body, he’d prefer no tummy tucks, lipo, etc. So idk man each person has their preferences I guess. But being respectful is free and well-mannered. So please do exactly that, embarrass anyone trying to make you feel some type of way about your body.
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u/ForeignNeat4193 2d ago
You are beautiful !!!! I am 5’4 and 127 LBS. I was referred to as skinny and felt VERY offended. I work HARD and am at Barrè class at least 5 days a week to create the curves you have. Girl you rock !!!! I LOVE being referred to as thicker. Its a huge compliment . Embrace it and remember, it’s just someone’s opinion.
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u/Robotro17 2d ago
I've told people. I've had an ED in the past and much influenced by people's comments. Unless you're genuinely concerned for a loved ones health you should keep comments to yourseld
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u/stepfordwyfe 1d ago
I wouldn’t give it two thoughts if someone called me a thicker girl and I looked like you! I’d take it at a compliment because your body is my goals actually.
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u/whorundatgirl 1d ago
Meanwhile my goal is to look like you lol
Life is funny like that. Bc I wouldn’t want to be a size 2. It just isn’t for me.
But I find comments like the one you experienced are specific to certain communities whereas in different cultures you would be considered thin! It’s all relative and focus on your goals.
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u/jimanddwight2024 1d ago
If you type in “thick girls” to Google, you will find out how not thick you are.
It’s ok if it bothers you to be called thick. It just means that you associate that word with a size that you don’t like. You can like your size and not categorize it as such, while continuing to work toward your goal. 🌹
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u/HereBearyBe 1d ago
You are gorgeous. Forget that fool! Lol.
I am trying to get back to my 130# self again. That’s where I was most happy with myself. And I’m 5’3
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u/l0wcals0cal 1d ago
I am so sorry someone commented on your body in that manner. It never feels good especially when you have been working so hard. However; I do just want to say, your physique is literally my absolute dream and I think you look incredible. I would be honored to have your body shape, but again, I know it hurts to hear shit like that unsolicited
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u/cutielittleshorty 2d ago
You look great, don’t take it the wrong way! I’ve always been on the thicker side ( even when i was 80-90 lbs) its how i carry my weight ( in my bottom ). Please don’t be discouraged, you have a lovely body
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u/whitepearl31 2d ago
I dont have any input except, you’ve given me motivation to go exercise today. Thank you!
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u/suhurley 2d ago
I’m a very similar height, weight and shape to you, OP and I never considered myself a “thicker girl” until this moment. 😭
Seriously, though. If you’re not familiar with “negging” (a toxic type of flirting) please look into it. I suspect the guy (guessing it was a guy) who called you that was negging.
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u/SaranaraSauce8 2d ago
You really do look great. I’m not trying to invalidate you because people should be more sensitive than to say that to a woman and I totally understand how you would feel bad about it, but my guess is that they meant it in a good way. Lots of people prefer some “thickness” and say that as a positive thing. Weight loss is hard, but even if this is as low as you can get, I think you look fantastic!
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u/coconutmillk 1d ago
completely off topic, but what brand are these undies? they look super comfy!
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u/bazookiedookie 1d ago
It’s a swimsuit bottom from Amazon which my sister told me to return bc she also said they looked like underwear LOL I didn’t believe her before but now I do 🤣
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u/air-headed 1d ago
this is unrelated to the post but last pic is giving elena gilbert from the vampire diaries girl youre killing it!!!!
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u/Maggiemaccy 1d ago
A lot of people use 'thick' to describe any woman that has hips, thighs and ass. I was 100lb when I met my partner but I've always been bottom heavy regardless of my weight, he has always described me as 'thick' (as a gushing compliment btw not critique lol)
Also you look amazing, I'm assuming the person who said this meant it as a compliment because your body is banging.
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u/Psychd-out 2d ago
I aspire to look the way you do. I think your curves are very womanly and beautiful. I have 85 pounds to go.
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u/nailsbrook 2d ago
You look amazing and you aren’t “thick”. You are a perfect weight. I’m 5’4 and 130 is my goal
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u/PlayfulPerseph 2d ago
Your body is perfect! I would describe you as slender with curves in all the right places. You look healthy. I would give anything to get my body back to where you are right now! Whoever called you thick must have meant it as a good “thicc.”
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u/Apprehensive_View_58 2d ago
You have a very enviable figure! I wish it were possible to erase the memory of the comment that sad human being made.
I think people who think it’s okay to make any kind of comments on someone else’s body that they themselves would not feel great if it were made on them are extremely mannerless and should ideally be told to shut their trap. I mean, are you seriously telling me that these people are old enough and are not aware that their casual remarks can make an unnecessary (sometimes lasting) impact on the mental health of the person they’re saying it to. Fuck ‘em!
I was quite thin back in college, it’s just that I was not ‘skinny’ (mostly a body type thing), and I had some call me fat ‘in zest’ which stuck and made me starve myself for several months.
These people should be told off!
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u/Apprehensive_View_58 2d ago
Also, I remember how women in the public eye are mercilessly fat-shamed despite being Hollywood skinny so it’s really on them.
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u/Confident-Disaster95 2d ago
Wow, f*uck that person. Don’t let it throw you. Enjoy the body you’ve got. 130 is a healthy weight and it’s important not to get sucked into diet culture thinking. You’re gorgeous just as you are.
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u/blue_tiny_teacup 2d ago
I’ve been called that my whole life, no matter what my weight and no matter how I saw myself.
People are always going to perceive us the way that they want to based on their perspectives and experiences.
Unfortunately, we can’t control it but what matters is how we see ourselves. If you feel good and healthy and you like the way you look, and you have a certain perception of yourself, then that’s really the only opinion that matters.
And although my opinion doesn’t matter, I do think you look amazing. You look like a fellow girlie and girlies have curves. 🩶
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u/Donitasnark 2d ago
Even my 9 year old daughter knows we don’t comment on people’s bodies!! Your body is no one else’s business, you are perfect as long as you are happy!
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u/layofthelandhere 2d ago
You're not "thick" and that person has no tact. I've been called "kinda fat" at 101, it always stuck with me.
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u/Lonely-Host 2d ago
You 100% look "average" as in like a medium or 6/8 in pants. You have beautiful strong shapely legs and a smaller upper body frame. Maybe they meant your hips and thighs in proportion to smaller upper body? I'm positive they did not mean that you have a big belly or something like that.
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u/thatsplatgal 2d ago
I always comment one of two ways:
1) what an odd thing to say…
Or my personal fave:
2) well aren’t you the sweetest! Thank you for noticing!
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u/blueberrypistachio 2d ago
You’re hot !! Also I don’t think this is thick at all, but it does go to show that you have a wonderful shape !! Great proportions
Edit, not meant in a creepy way lol
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u/bilboswaggginz 2d ago
Def not “thick”, more average body, even looks slim to me. You are gorgeous and shouldn’t care so much or feel bad about what others think. We all here don’t see a thick girl, just a gorgeous girl! Not that there’s anything wrong with thick girls, they’re gorgeous too!
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u/Visual-Arugula 2d ago
Oh my goodness you look great. I'd not have thought you remotely as a thicker girl. Like, thicker is also great, but it's not what I'd think of when I look at you. People can say really unfortunate things that really stick to us, especially when they don't align with what we're trying to achieve. Keep doing what you're doing and keep working on feeling good about existing in a body.
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u/Salty-Wrongdoer-88 2d ago
lololol that's ridiculous 😂 ppl are out of their mind cuz we fetishize and normalize models with eating disorders as "normal"
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u/MysteryCats 2d ago
Not to add another label, but since you asked: to me you look healthy skinny (really great)! Everyone has different perceptions. I always ride on the confidence side of things when people say unnecessary stuff like that. I’ll be like “I know I look good! So I don’t need your comments” :-)
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u/possumbehavior 2d ago
Hey! You and I have the same height, weight, and body type and I think we look fine as hell ❤️🔥🔥
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u/les_catacombes 1d ago
I would love to look like you. You look great. This person is projecting their own unhealthy ideas of weight onto you.
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u/amandam603 1d ago
Your feelings are valid of course, but I think thick is a compliment these days! It can be hard to turn it around in your brain though.
For what it’s worth, I ignore any and all body comments and kinda just walk away. I’m 5’2” 145-150 and people say I’m “skinny” often and uh, I’m not 😂 and I don’t want to be! I’m a happy weight, and more importantly a STRONG weight, and people really don’t usually know what to say to people but can’t seem to just say nothing. lol take it all with a grain of salt cause everyone’s dumb, is my mentality!
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u/libra-love- 1d ago
Thick means you have a nice booty and thighs. It’s a compliment lol but I know even well-meaning words don’t always come across that way. I used to get comments about being super thin as a kid. I wanted to gain weight so badly and whenever people would ‘compliment’ me on how thin I was, it would make me really unhappy.
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I truly think he meant thicc (attractive) because you have a gorgeous body <3 you don’t look unhealthy AT ALL.
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u/sowieso_ 1d ago
We look pretty much the same and have similar stats. I think u look soooo beautiful ❤️ im 5 3 and 127 pounds and have the same issues as u and people saying theyre attracted to "my thick type" 😡
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u/Beautiful-Door-3086 1d ago
I see no reason to be discouraged...... You look great...... But then again, you always did.
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u/aliceinbookland 1d ago
They better have meant "thicc", cause you look gorgeous! You're slim with curves in all the right places! I'm sorry if I sound creepy but it's cause I'm 5'1 and my goal is to look like you do now (though I understand that likely won't happen as my genetics are all messed up and I carry fat mainly on my stomach and bingo wings)
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u/mt9891 1d ago
Excuse me. Did you say “carry my weight in my waist and hips UNFORTUNATELY?!” Girl it’s 2024. Read the room, you’re FINE AS FLYING F. Respectfully. Respectfully, I don’t mean to be weird about it.
But no seriously girl, what they meant is you’re not stick thin. You’ve got some “meat on you” “you’re thick” or “healthy,” “fit”, “you don’t miss no meals,” you’re “eating” or “ate and left no crumbs” or w/e the kids say.
Bottom line is you have a beautiful body and shape. Similar to me, unless you get down to about 100-115ish lbs or perhaps less (honestly I don’t care to find out) you’ll probably end up looking slim thick (which is the term I like to use to describe you and my old physique). More importantly your physique (no matter what you call it) is literally perfect as is. Not to big, not to small. You look very healthy. You have a gorgeous hourglass shape body. Can probably wear just about anything you prefer.
Some people are so immature, insecure, etc etc and they project/hurt others for their selfish reasons. Resist falling prey to that energy. Just know they couldn’t afford to kiss that plump firm Pilates peach of yours back there even if they tried. You’re fabulous babes.
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u/Legal-Establishment9 1d ago
At 5’1” 120 pounds a guy I was seeing told me he “thought I would have felt smaller in his arms” after the first (and only) time we had sex. That wrecked me for days and I still think about it sometimes. We can’t let these guys dumb comments live in our heads!
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u/bazookiedookie 1d ago
That is such an awful thing to say to someone. I’m so sorry that happened to you
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u/Legal-Establishment9 1d ago
Thank you. I’m sorry you felt discouraged I think your body looks beautiful. I’ve come a long way accepting mine as a petite girlie
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u/Professional_Art_518 1d ago
Idk but looking at you I think that was probably meant as a compliment. You look great! And if you want to lose the extra ten lbs, you got this!
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u/Nightfox213 1d ago
I had a girl call me “thick” when I was in the 130s, clearly not in the ‘ooo girl you thicc’ kinda way. Mostly it just reaffirmed that I didn’t like her lol.
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u/interestingsonnet 1d ago
You look amazing this is my goal bod 😭 I’m 5’3 and trying to lose the remaining 5 lbs I gained on antidepressants
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u/AdequateTaco 1d ago
People are always going to make comments. I’m 5’3 and hover around 140, and I have half of my family making weird remarks about how skinny I’ve gotten and the other half acting like I’m a revolting cow who’s about to drop dead from heart disease. It mostly doesn’t bother me anymore (nearly a 100lb difference between my highest and lowest adult weights- currently in the middle- so I’ve heard it all) but I have started saying “that’s a weird thing to say” or “ew, how embarrassing for you, can’t believe you thought that was a fine thing to say out loud” depending on how rude their comment was. It’s more of a reflection on them than you.
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u/ingloriabasta 1d ago
I, personally, like "thick", which is a curvy in my book, however: you are not it, from how I know that the term is being used, and from what I can tell you are lean and fit and do not listen to those suckers categorizing our bodies. We should stop that entirely, like, there is no point. What body shape is she? Awesome. Always. Ha!
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u/Ordinary_Ostrich_195 1d ago
My only “best” friend in HS called me T Rex legs and would make dinosaur noises with hand movements around me all the time. Mind you, I had very muscular legs and butt from years of tennis and was never insecure about my body before. I was 120 lbs. I regret stopping sports and losing my curves. Stupid b*tch.
People are mean.
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u/Anxious_Flight_8551 1d ago
You have a nice and proportional body. You are not thick imo. You look fit :)) or maybe what they mean by thick is sexy
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u/garje 1d ago
I genuinely think people (especially men v women) have a different idea of what vocabulary means to describe women's bodies. As in, they think it means one thing, and we have another meaning we associate with that word. My boyfriend has made a few comments that were supposed to be completely innocent, that I was very hurt by, because of the difference in vernacular. His meaning of skinny = malnourished, underweight, sickly; while mine = slim, fit, in good shape. I think you look really good and it's very obvious that you work out/take care of yourself.
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u/Infinite-I-369 1d ago edited 1d ago
You look great for your height and weight. Don’t let anyone else make you feel less than, not worthy or not beautiful, because you are and you have an incredible body! No one’s is perfect and that is perfection. If you feel self-conscious, not because of what others think- because of what you think, than exercise and eating healthy are a great way to slightly tone and feel better about yourself. Remember if you do decide to make changes, start low and slow. Taking your time is a great way to incorporate new habits that become a lifestyle. Even if it’s just cutting out one sugary treat a week or switching from soda to sweetened ice tea. Or avoiding processed sugars. You can switch from regular white sugar to coconut sugar. I did this and noticed a big difference in many aspects of my health- I also love the taste and prefer it now. There are so many ways to start small, and so many alternatives that still satisfy the sweet tooth cravings while still enjoying the things we love. Also keeping track, writing down somewhere or on phone, if preferable, is a great way to see your progress and discover what triggers the sweet tooth.
And in case you already forgot, you are perfect AS IS. If you do mess up, don’t beat yourself up. Just keep doing your best and everything will work out beautifully for you.
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u/bazookiedookie 1d ago
Tysm this was so encouraging.
Does coconut sugar have a better health impact than regular granulated sugar?
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u/Inner-Key-320 1d ago
You look great! I can't believe anyone with even half a brain would say or think that. I'm 5'2" and 142, striving to reach 130. What to tell yourself? Just say "well, they're an idiot" and carry on!
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u/poseraristocrat 1d ago
You look great OP! I’m assuming it was a man that said this. Men feel weirdly entitled to verbally expressing their opinions on how women look.
A man once told me that I would “be a 10/10” if I lost 10 pounds. I barely knew him and wasn’t interested in him romantically either. He’s a physical therapist now and I really hope that he has grown up and treats his clients with respect.
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u/AdChemical1663 22h ago
To pile on all the compliments….
Girl. You are SMOKING HOT with gorgeous curves and great legs….and that idiot was trying to compliment you, but was unsuccessful in communicating his viewpoint.
You’re thick as in thicc (as my kids would say).
From an old married lady…go rock those jeans in public and laugh as they fall at your feet.
Or just be comfortable in your skin.
You are my goal (in another 8ish pounds) and I hope I pull 130 off as well as you do ❤️🩹
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u/Klutzy_Cat_9114 21h ago
You are goals! I've been struggling so hard. That person is just jealous and insecure. They can stuff it!
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u/unique_perfectionist 2d ago
Im 5’4 and miss being 130 or even 135. Im 155 -160 now :(
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u/bazookiedookie 2d ago
I was 170 my freshman year of college. It’s tough. It takes time. I got down to 150 after a year of dieting and exercise. I eventually got down to 120, but that took about 2.5-3 years total as I lost it steady and was aiming for long term weight management
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u/mydogdoesntcuddle 2d ago
I’m sure they meant “thicc” not “thick” - and it’s a compliment that means you have curves in the “right” places or at least the places many of us wish we did. Example of how this might be used in a professional situation: https://youtu.be/i4QYvXpaXlY?si=eAu7KIydLVs2Wh04
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u/imawife4life 2d ago
You are a “thicker” girl. And it’s nothing wrong with that. The person who said that to you should probably refrain from commenting on your body or any women’s body from here on out, especially if it doesn’t make you feel great. 💙✨
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u/bazookiedookie 1d ago
Yeah maybe I just don’t know what thick means because I thought I was average lol
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u/Exotic-One3381 2d ago
I thought thick is a. compliment. like it means, curvy in the right areas. it doesn't mean fat ffs
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u/Groovalooba 2d ago
My girl - just want to say sometimes thicc is a compliment!! Is it possible this was meant to admire your lovely shape and not a commentary on your size?
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u/Hot_Limit_1870 1d ago
Take it as a compliment girl! I read someone comment on a post - thick thighs save lives and it's a real shift in perspective. Thick is good too and you look gorgeous. Trust me it's amazing to have a body that can be squeezed and touched, guys love it if not find it irresistible.
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u/Material_Effect3683 1d ago
I think everyone has a definition of thick. When I see you…I think you look great, but I can see how someone described you as “thick”. You’re not bone thin, but who wants to be that anyway?
We all carry weight differently. I think just take it in stride….work towards your goal weight (but remember, weight isn’t everything). I think I’ve seen “skinny fat” girls at lower weights and not toned either! At the end of the day…we only have one body. Take care of it. Don’t mind what the others say!
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u/Electrical-Web-7552 1d ago
They were probably meaning that you're curvy, you have a gorgeous figure. Definitely not big at all, but you have thick thighs in comparison to the rest of your body. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, youre doing amazing and you look amazing!
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u/Sailormars_2313 1d ago
Don’t let someone make you think negatively about yourself just because they call you thick. Don’t take it that way, screw him! You are just slightly thick, in such a good way. You don’t have to be a stick to look good and many guys prefer a girl with some meat on their bones and you look amazing as hell!! 🔥🩷
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u/Severe_Offer_9967 1d ago
When I was this weight (we’re the same height) I couldn’t keep the boys off of me 🤣🤣 you look great! Got curves in the right places. I’m sure it was a compliment 😄 or at least you should flip it to be one period 🙌🏾
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u/jojocandy 1d ago
That is wild. You are literally my goal weight. You look amazing
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u/astronomydomone 1d ago
I think you look great. I’m 4’11” and I have been described as “thick” or “curvy” at like 105 🤦🏻♀️
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u/koalateddy132 1d ago
Your pic literally had me do a double take as I was scrolling. You look amazing! I wouldn’t worry about his words if I were you
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u/Weak-Ice6695 1d ago
You look amazing! Remember your weight now is someone else’s goal weight/body. I’m 5’3 and 140 and been so insecure. I went to the beach last weekend and seeing everyone having different body’s actually helped me feel more normal, they all were happy and swimming. You’re doing great.
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u/Left-Rope291 1d ago
For me u have a beautiful body shape ur perfect how u are and the opinion of the other people is just words.. Xoxo
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u/Efficient_Plan_1517 1d ago
You look great. You're about the weight I want to be and similar shape. I wouldn't call that thick at all.
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u/Inner-Key-320 1d ago
You look great! I can't believe anyone with even half a brain would say or think that. I'm 5'2" and 142, striving to reach 130. What to tell yourself? Just say "well, they're an idiot" and carry on!
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u/Alternative-Beat6283 1d ago
I’m 5’3, and bounce between like 105 and 113 ish. My goal weight is about 125. I’d absolutely kill to carry weight the way you do. I can’t hold on to any fat anywhere besides my mid section. The rest of me stays skinny. Only way I can create any curves for myself is with muscle, and I have such an incredibly low appetite these days that I struggle to even eat half the calories I need to do that, let alone actually do the workouts (I have a toddler and can’t go to a gym so I have to workout around her at home) I’d probably be a lot more comfortable in my body if I had a body like yours. Being “thicker” as in butt, thighs and hips, is the whole goal for me. You ARE average sized, like you’re not under weight or overweight. Not “fat” or even chubby at all so pls don’t think you are (not that that’s bad, but know how we can be towards ourselves). But you are “thick” in the sense of having a smaller waist/upper body and bigger butt and thighs. And you look great! I agree though that people should stop commenting on peoples bodies like this. Because you never know how someone will take it or how it can affect them.
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u/Still_Afternoon_6824 21h ago
You look great 😀 don’t worry about the comment I think when they say “thick” it doesn’t mean heavy they mean a certain body type could be bit of muscle or curve etc. like at same weight if it was more rectangular they wouldn’t use the term thick. So I don’t think he’s referring to size as in bigger thic can be from slim to bigger. Playing volleyball heavier sport is like lifting weights ofc would have a more thic appearance which is just a look like lifting weights. Don’t be unmotivated u look great figure out their intention with what they said and then nothing to worry about
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u/PruneAffectionate132 11h ago
They could be referring to you as thick because you have hips and butt (you're curvy) and there's nothing wrong w that type of body. I myself have the same shape, just "thicker" and it's ok so long as I work on the belly fat. Your body is beautiful and whatever youre doing is working.
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u/PROT3INFI3ND 6h ago
"Thick" may mean something different for that person. For me it doesnt mean fat or chubby. It means a woman looks good, meaty in the right spots and doesnt have nothing to do with being soft. Hope that helps...
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u/dreaaagee 5h ago
I would receive that as a compliment lol I’m a thick girl myself and I def don’t ever wanna be skinny. I’m not fat by any means and neither are you but def curvy and that’s the most feminine figure.. embrace it.
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u/SecretWifeSaltyWitty 1h ago
I think you look great! I wish people didn't comment as much as they do. I'm 5'1" 100 lbs... and have always been about that. But I get comments about how I need to "eat more" and "you're getting so skinny" and grabbing my arms, saying how skinny they are. I eat a lot and have tried to gain weight and it doesn't happen. Then sometimes when they saw how much I did eat, they would be like "oh ok, you do eat a lot!" But I also grew up with my dad being overweight and he would ride his bike like 40 miles a day, to and from work, and people would yell out the car "get off the road fat ass!" Why do people say these things? I'll never know.
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u/FloweroftheAges 1h ago
My ex told me I “could run more”… I was a size 2. Another told me my boobs were “mosquito bites” at 32C…
I dunno. People are cray.
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u/Fancy_Edge_4518 58m ago
I think you look great fantastic even, I don't think you shouldn't be discouraged at all and I don't know where you started but it seems like you're doing well : )
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u/JackieBouvier 2d ago edited 2d ago
You look great!
I had a bad experience with a (platonic) male friend several years ago. He was working as the right hand to a major celebrity and "went Hollywood" in the worst way and honestly became unbearable.
One day he reassured me (without me asking?) that there ARE some guys that would be okay with my body type.
I had no idea what he was even talking about, and actually thought he was going to say my breasts weren't big enough (and that is never a problem I ever had) and I asked him what he meant.
He actually scoffed, "You're no size zero."
Meanwhile, I was a 2. And he was telling me that was large. It wasn't the only commentary he had made on my looks (all of it quite hurtful) and I have distanced myself from him after telling him how much he had hurt me.
It's so hard not to take comments like that to heart, especially if you have body image issues.