Someone called me a “thicker girl” when describing me today - got me feeling a bit discouraged with where I’m at in my journey (5’4” 130lbs)

[u/bazookiedookie]

How do you you guys handle stuff like this? I didn’t say anything to the person because I don’t think they necessarily were saying it negatively, but idk I hate when people comment on women’s bodies like that.

I’m probably being overly sensitive but hearing that made me feel like I’m kinda failing in my fitness journey. I’ve plateaued here at the 130 mark (goal weight is 120) and this comment has gotten in my head a bit. I kinda thought I looked average right now, but didn’t really considered myself to be “thick”

I definitely carry my weight in my waist and hips unfortunately. But we all know you can’t do “spot” weight loss.

Any encouragement is welcome. How do you handle these situations? What do you tell yourself?

[u/shockedpikachu123]

I used to take it very personally but then the worst thing that ever happened was when I was seeing this Italian guy. He said youre a nice person, very pretty but would be perfect if you didn’t have grabs my stomach. like literally out of nowhere and out of context. I decided after that moment im not going to let anyone, especially a man make me feel some type of way about my body. I would embarrass the person and ask them why they felt comfortable pointing that out

[u/mt9891 → u/shockedpikachu123]

Good for you girl! Ironically, I read this and immediately thought of a conversation I had with one of my exes when we were together. I had put on about 20lbs during our relationship and was struggling as it was new for me. He mentioned that real men love the softness of a woman’s stomach (specifically for him the lower stomach area/love handles and or “pooch”). “Stretch marks, wide waist and all” is what he said. While he understands and respects a woman’s decision to do what they want with their body, he’d prefer no tummy tucks, lipo, etc. So idk man each person has their preferences I guess. But being respectful is free and well-mannered. So please do exactly that, embarrass anyone trying to make you feel some type of way about your body.