AITAH for ghosting my girlfriend after she nearly killed both of us?

[u/Few_Relative4595]

So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with how the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/55iHa59YgW

[u/viviolay]

That article is frustrating. “When her bikini top came off” You mean when she was SEXUALLY ASSAULTED WHILE DRIVING.

Apparently this is more common a thing than I realized given there was a post today of some dude doing that to a lady at a pool party. Yet some dudes will be like, “I don’t know how to act around women, I’m afraid of getting me too’d”.

Not removing their clothing without consent is a good start.

[u/Proper_Career_6771 → u/viviolay]

Not removing their clothing without consent is a good start.

I got buried in r/askmen for saying that having sex with a woman who is too drunk to consent is rape.

This was in the context of "teaching men not to rape" because some moron said "teaching men not to rape doesn't stop rape".

I used "don't have sex with blackout drunk women" as an example of society literally teaching men not to rape, because that behavior doesn't come automatically.

I guess summer-reddit and the andrew tate npcs didn't like that very much.

[u/viviolay → u/Proper_Career_6771]

That is just genuinely effing scary. I’m sorry you dealt with that. I really worry about the fact a whole generation of boys are growing up with tate and other misogynists as role models. Even if the majority of them snap out of it, the remainder can do a lot of damage to others and themselves.

But, like you did, I thought “don’t have sex with unconscious or drunk or unconscious drunk people” was Don’t-Rape 101.🤦🏾‍♀️

[u/Proper_Career_6771 → u/viviolay]

Not to scare you more, but I realized something else important a few weeks ago.

Foxnews was established in 1997. By 2007, they were saying obama is a secret muslim. In 2017 they were having discussions like "would it be that bad if Trump was president for life?"

Gamergate was 2014. It's now 2024. 10 years of young men being exposed to state sponsored propaganda, plus a bunch of grifters (aka tate, etc) who are taking advantage of the market.

Here's the results: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1dlw2j0/what_are_some_things_often_labeled_as_male/l9t6bty/?context=3

I'm not much looking forward to 2034.

[u/viviolay → u/Proper_Career_6771]

That is just so depressing. Fwiw, you can have my upvote.

Don’t worry tho, you didn’t scare me since I was already at my max-scared level after seeing clips of the debate tonight. I felt very “shit, we’re doomed.” When I realized the choices left to us was Trump and a president who really really isn’t all there and should be enjoying his twilight years, and then I turn to my bf and genuinely ask “okay, but who is running the country right now then??”, Crazy train’s chorus started playing in my head.

[u/Proper_Career_6771 → u/viviolay]

and then I turn to my bf and genuinely ask “okay, but who is running the country right now then??”

I feel less concerned about this because a president shouldn't be running the country. That's congress's job.

The president is pretty much in charge of the military, diplomacy and the veto. He has limited powers with executive orders, but the people running the country are almost never the president.

It's the people who are voted alongside the president as his cabinet who run the country. Those people aren't doddering even if Biden is.

My concern is more if Biden dies in the next four years, and then we have to deal with Kamala as an "incumbent". Whatever soggy ball of wonderbread republicans produce for their candidate will wipe the floor with her and I don't like her either, but it would be a huge pain to get a different candidate in there instead of her.

[u/viviolay → u/Proper_Career_6771]

I agree. I told my bf, “so people are essentially voting for Kamala if they vote for Biden.” Cause ain’t no way he’s gonna make it (mentally or physically) another 4 years at this rate. And if that’s the case, I honestly don’t think she has a good chance of beating him if ppl start to view it that way (which I pretty much do after seeing the debate performance)

I wish congress was doing a better job but it feels like it’s most bipartisan bills are pro-corporation or public control that they manage to pass most of the time. It often feels like they’ve abdicated their responsibility to actually help people via legislation because I don’t feel like they are doing enough while many are struggling. Otherwise, it feels like more “legislating” metaphorically is happening via executive orders, other presidential decisions, or Supreme Court rulings for better or for worse :(. Maybe I’m overly cynical.

[u/Proper_Career_6771 → u/viviolay]

Yeah I have nothing to say to make you feel better. Republicans sold their half of the country to the highest bidder back in the 80s, abandoned pretense of bipartisanship in the 90s, and government has only gotten increasingly more broken since.

[u/viviolay → u/Proper_Career_6771]

Well…at the very least cheers🍻 as we watch it play out I guess