Mine is, don’t offer to take over on my grill. It’s my grill, your job is to eat the food and drink the beer and be happy about it.

There are people who don't understand why some dudes are into scat fetishes.

We're off to a wedding this weekend. She bought a dress about a month ago that fit nicely and looks great. She just tried it on again to make sure all is good and now feels that it's too tight around her hips and tummy.

I think it looks phenomenal on her, and told her so. That she doesn't look fat in it. But she doesn't believe me - rose tinted glasses and all that.

Any folks out there with any advice on dealing with said issue? How to help convey a positive body message when they're feeling so down about it all?

So, my (24F) boyfriend (24M) is a pretty attractive man who gets plenty of attention from women every day. He does not entertain it, of course, and he does tell me about it, because he feels better ("clean") after he tells me about these encounters.

He told me recently that it feels a bit weird being pursued by all these other women and not being pursued by me at the same time, when "I'm the only one he would that kind of attention from."

I would like to try and flirt with him and try to make him feel more wanted by me, but I'm not really good at that. What can I say/do to let him know that I want him?

Due to medical reasons, my (47M) son (19M) will never be able to drive or ride a bike (poor balance, bad depth perception) and it he is really turned down by this thing for what involves dating.

I haven't been able to give him any specific advice bc he has inherited this condition from my wife side.

I hope you guys can help me!

I stumbled across multiple comments on instagram where men claim that women don't have hobbies. I'm a women myself (22 years old) and I'm genuinely surprised by that. All the women I know (former schoolmates or university friends, family members etc.) have hobbies (me inlcuded): Playing an instrument, painting, knitting, reading, climbing, playing football (soccer), gardening etc.

It never even occured to me that women not having hobbies was a stereotype lol I know that men on instagram who write comments are not representative and often self proclaimed ""alphas"". But is this stereotype well known? Do you agree with it?

And how much time passed between when you thought "I really should leave" to actually walking out the door?
And would you do anything different in retrospect?

What makes some people to blow up good lives during a midlife crisis?

Seriously...I'm always at a loss for topics

Sometimes, life is about simple joys. I love the cycle of multicoloured soap in the car wash and pictures of sea urchins in hats. What are some little things that make you ridiculously happy?

29 yo male here. I never played sports, my father passed away when I was 14 and I had no relationship at all with my stepfather (both of my grandfathers died by the time I was 10. It’s mostly women in my family and all the males I never really bonded with). I watch a lot of TV, read a bit, go to the gym, joined a fraternity at 21, went to therapy for 2.5 years, a musician though I’ve failed to find a mentor or a figure that I look up to in life. It’s always been me pulling myself up from my theoretical “bootstraps” but I’ve started to feel extremely lonely and without direction. This has aided in me to being a shitty uncle and not too good of a friend because it’s taken a huge toll on my self esteem and upbringing. I’m getting older so it’s hard to be taken under someone’s wing as a mentee though im hurting and a big chunk of development is lacking. None of the TV characters or musicians I really see myself in and either way, it’s different to have a human connection with someone. What should I do?

im a bitch i let people pick on me and walk all over me like i'm nothing i don't want this to continue help me please

recently my bf of 4 months got triggered bc i accidentally found his ex's social media profiles (they got recommended to me and she still has pics of them together so i figured), he got upset at me and said he would not comment on her at all bc she treated him horribly and "it's been extremely hard for him to get over the things she made him believe about himself", she did cheat on him and from her social media posts she seems really petty even tho we are kind of into the same things (that's why i got her recommended to me in the first place). Anyways, him saying he's not over how he treated her rang a bell in my mind and idk if i'm being paranoid, sometimes when she comes up in conversation he says he's indifferent about her but i wonder if he says that to convince me/others or himself... Do you guys think he's over her as a person? edit: they broke up 1 year and a half ago

asking men here bc I know you guys are ruthless

Sometimes, kindness comes from the most unexpected places and people. Can you share a moment when you experienced an act of kindness that took you by surprise?

So first time coming on here asking for help bc I genuinely don't know lol.. I've known this guy for 2 yrs, (30 M) and I'm 32 F and we met at my boxing gym (we are fighters). Never been close, just some convos abt MMA, fights, etc.

He moved last summer to Arizona and just recently moved back a month ago (saw him again at the gym, didn't know he was back!) and he invited me to his fight but I couldn't go because I was sick. We've talked through text and IG messages, but nothing flirty or anything.

He asked to get ramen a few times through IG message and through regular text (diff days) after training and we did yesterday. After training we were gross + sweaty but he changed out of his clothes and I didn't. We got to the restaurant at 7 and stayed until they closed at 10 talking about everything from family, to past relationships, to morals, views, faith, books, etc. After restaurant closed we were walking to his car so he could give a me ride to mine since I parked a little far. Once we got to my car we stayed in his car talking for another 2 hours. Nothing flirty or intimate but smiles here and there. We spent 5 hours together... is this normal? Gave me a hug but said I'm a "homegirl" now. I'm so confused lol He then texts me saying he enjoyed our conversations once he got home which is nice. Just want to know if guys usually do this with girls they're 'not' interested in? Added texts for context**

I’m 54m and been married 30 years to 55f. My greatest and biggest moment of clarity has been me realizing that when we got married, when we got married, I knew next to nothing. She was everything I didn’t know I needed: she filled in the blanks (busted childhood and other traumas). I dated before her but those encounters were void of thought, feeling, connection …anything of substance. Same goes for her. Now here we are and I know I’m realizing that neither us entered in knowing how to fight, compromise, nothing about intimacy, great connected sex, enjoying someone’s company. I didn’t have any experience with anyone worth the trouble. So here we are, now having to learn what intimacy is, how to ask better questions (sometimes about past relationships and hurts so not to hurt each other unintentionally). So my moment of clarity was like the more you learn the less you know..

So these people were mentioning it in Spanish and my cousins are not the most Spanish looking and don't speak it the best, but I do understand Spanish. Anyways, I am a couple of years away from 30. We went to the local pool to swim and play games and stuff. I was mostly chilling with my partner (we are 5 years apart) in the pool and only joined the games every once in a while. And not too long before we left I heard some people in the background saying in Spanish "I swear that young man looks like he's 30" and it made me a bit self-concious.

Because I am a couple of years from 30. And I am in a pool with a bunch of teenagers and one kid kid.

I know I didn't do anything wrong. All I did was have fun. So I just ignored it. But it made me feel old. And it made me feel like being old means you can't have fun anymore.

What do you guys do about this? Or with this feeling? Or this situation?

It's been a couple months since we've been in a relationship and certain things she has said absolutely turned me off.

For example, she said she wanted to go to Korea and I joked how if we ever got married, it wouldn't be an extremely simple process to go since I'm not legally Korean anymore (abandoned my citizenship). She asked why and I explained it's because of mandatory military service. She proceeded to say how I should've attended the 2 year military service and that men nowadays are pussies. She proceeded to say military service should be mandatory over the world. I followed up as an example by saying only men are forced behind in Ukraine to fight and that men are sacrificed in war. She looked at me with disbelief and disagreement, argued how so many young Ukrainian men are seen taking refuge in other countries.

When I was talking about certain political topic, I brought up a couple historical examples. So she said I was mansplaining because she already knew it. So I asked her where she learned that word and she told me everyone knows it from the "barbie" movie. I said she shouldn't casually throw around that word since I had no intention of being condescending and patronizing and it's so commonly used without rationality. She later flipped out on me for questioning her on using that word and complained how her best friends bf immediately apologizes and I should do the same. She told me it's an instinctual property of men and as a man I'm bound to mansplain unwillingly. So I should just apologize whenever I "mansplain".

Sometimes I'm so out of words because of stuff like this. I'm not sure if this is how Eastern European women normally view men, since I'm aware they want masculine men. I want to know if I'm overeacting or it's reasonable to want to break up over it.