Why Are People Here So Obsessed Over height?

[u/ser_bronn21]

I was taller than rest of the class since my childhood and still was bullied and discriminated.

and now I am 5'11" which is above the average height of India.

I have never got any upper hand in dating..heck girls don't even want to talk to me due to my looks.

the height aspect works in dating apps , I have never seen girls demanding for 6ft guy in real life.

Looks>>>>>Height anytime.

[u/Art-Is-Life]

There is a combination here. First of all height is basically a beauty standard for men. For average people the beauty standards do not matter too much, but there is a second factor here.

If you are not successful in your life with something you look for the reason. Now any kind of social interactions reasons are difficult to figure out because we always work with vague information. And for dating not fullfilling a certain beauty standard is the easiest solution. Basically the same way you say looks matter.

Most of the time the lack of success is probably more about approach, personality (keep in mind, you dont have to be a terrible person, but you only have a very brief time to get the other person to know you which might make it more likely they think you have some bad traits, regardless of you having them or not), avoiding socialising and so on.

Why a person has problems finding a partner is a very complex question. But we tend to settle for easy answers.

[u/ser_bronn21 → u/Art-Is-Life]

All that wordsalad concludes to only Looks>>>>> anything.. I have real life experience of girls ignoring me after looking at my face. It's not rocket science for me and i can say by experience.

[u/Art-Is-Life → u/ser_bronn21]

Thats wrong I can assure you :)

[u/ser_bronn21 → u/Art-Is-Life]

You can't

[u/Art-Is-Life → u/ser_bronn21]

Yes I can. You are absically doing the same thing as people who put importance on height.

Its also easy if we give something we cannot change as a reason, that means we dont have to do anything. But the reality is its usually not about something we cannot change because the things that we have in our control are usually enough to find someone.

[u/ser_bronn21 → u/Art-Is-Life]

Tried - failed - tried - failed- got called ugly from everyone- still tried- failed- got called ugly by everyone- still tried- failed- stopped

Conclusion - Looks>>>>>>anything

[u/Art-Is-Life → u/ser_bronn21]

And then you will habe people say the same about height saying height>>>>>anything because of their personal experience.

Yet you have small people that look similarly good as you having no issue finding a partner. Whats the conclusion from that?

[u/ser_bronn21 → u/Art-Is-Life]

I care about my experience because it happened in my life .. what can i do with other experiences? Does that affect me?No

[u/Art-Is-Life → u/ser_bronn21]

So you dont care that apparantly looks are not the cause?
Look I dont know you, I dont know who you are and I dont know what you are struggling with, but data and science shows that no matter the looks people can find a partner. That are the facts. That means things which are in our control are the deciding factors. Thats what the data does show us. And if we do not strive to change and better our lifes but instead give up based on something we cannot changed even though its not the deciding factor we simply sabotage ourselfes.

But anyway. your original question is answered I guess. People that have issues with their height and think its the deciding factor are basically in the same mindest as you are. So for them Height is the important factor.

So if you truly believe that things out of your control are the reason you can hopefully accept know that for those people height is the factor causing them problems with dating.

[u/ser_bronn21 → u/Art-Is-Life]

Again, according to my experience my ugly face was the reason so yeah Looks>>>>> anything

[u/Art-Is-Life → u/ser_bronn21]

And again other people with similar looks have success which means based on data looks are not the deciding factor.

That aside that does not change the fact that smaller people say the same thing about their Height meaning for them its Height >>>>> Looks. So that answers your question, doesnt it?