r/lonely • u/ser_bronn21 • 4d ago

Why Are People Here So Obsessed Over height? Discussion

I was taller than rest of the class since my childhood and still was bullied and discriminated.

and now I am 5'11" which is above the average height of India.

I have never got any upper hand in dating..heck girls don't even want to talk to me due to my looks.

the height aspect works in dating apps , I have never seen girls demanding for 6ft guy in real life.

Looks>>>>>Height anytime.

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u/Art-Is-Life 3d ago

And then you will habe people say the same about height saying height>>>>>anything because of their personal experience.

Yet you have small people that look similarly good as you having no issue finding a partner. Whats the conclusion from that?

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u/ser_bronn21 3d ago

I care about my experience because it happened in my life .. what can i do with other experiences? Does that affect me?No

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u/Art-Is-Life 3d ago

So you dont care that apparantly looks are not the cause?
Look I dont know you, I dont know who you are and I dont know what you are struggling with, but data and science shows that no matter the looks people can find a partner. That are the facts. That means things which are in our control are the deciding factors. Thats what the data does show us. And if we do not strive to change and better our lifes but instead give up based on something we cannot changed even though its not the deciding factor we simply sabotage ourselfes.

But anyway. your original question is answered I guess. People that have issues with their height and think its the deciding factor are basically in the same mindest as you are. So for them Height is the important factor.

So if you truly believe that things out of your control are the reason you can hopefully accept know that for those people height is the factor causing them problems with dating.

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u/ser_bronn21 3d ago

Again, according to my experience my ugly face was the reason so yeah Looks>>>>> anything

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u/Art-Is-Life 3d ago

And again other people with similar looks have success which means based on data looks are not the deciding factor.

That aside that does not change the fact that smaller people say the same thing about their Height meaning for them its Height >>>>> Looks. So that answers your question, doesnt it?