My stepmom took all of my horror stuff out of my room for her kid to be less scared

[u/Hour_Peace9278]

So I (15f) has this whole horror obsession, I’m crazy for it I don’t think it would be much of a surprise if I said Halloween is my favourite holiday..

My father (41m) has married my stepmother (38f) let’s call her Abby… now Abby has two sons and a daughter I’m not going to use their real names but give them fake ones.. Zack (16) Evan (18) and Katie (8)

I would like to start off by saying I don’t want to sound like a brat but for the longest time it’s only been me and my dad

So a few moths later Abby and her kids moved in and the boys had to share a room and for some time Katie had her own but my stepmom needed an office room so while I was visiting my grandma and grandpa Katie moved in my room that’s not the issue I don’t mind sharing but the issue I have is I ADORE anything horror so I have a lot of posters,merchandise I even have a Chucky doll, so when I come back from my grandparents my dad and Abby sat me down and said my room needed to change and be more kid friendly obviously I was pissed and stared complaining how it wasn’t fair

And Abby said her child should matter just as me, that’s when my blood was boiling.. so I yelled it was my room first if she didn’t like it she could sleep in the hallway or in the dog bed

My dad got mad and sent me to my room, I get up in the morning and get ready to go to school and when I came back boxes of my posters and funko pops were in boxes with a bunch of other things, only to see Abby talking them down… I get mad and yell at her that’s until my dad comes over and tries to calm me down and tells Abby she should stop but only for her to say ‘my child is scared of all this shit!’

I screamed for ages going back and forth with her until she threw a box and a glass object shattered.. so if she wants to brake my things I’ll brake her kids, I know this is going to abound petty but I grab her kids Barbie and ripped its head off and pulled the legs off and turned to her and say “brake anymore of my things and I smash your laptop up” My dad trying to deescalate the situation said to me go take five outside and from outside I hear my dad abs stepmom yelling at each other

Should I feel bad?

[u/Hour_Peace9278]

Like once or twice a week she works from home on some occasions but she’s mainly in her work place

[u/SilentJoe1986 → u/Hour_Peace9278]

Sounds like a home office is a luxury instead of a nessisity. She could probably get by just fine with a small desk in her bedroom and by closing the door when she decides to work from home.

[u/newfor2023 → u/SilentJoe1986]

It was a luxury more than a necessity even 100% wfh. Kids need space. My daughter moved out. The boys got their own room each. I didn't take it even when it was free. I'm in the corner of the bedroom.

[u/AlmondMilkmann → u/newfor2023]

I work from home 100% and use my own bedroom as my office.

[u/RecognitionParty9581 → u/AlmondMilkmann]

I wfh 5 days a week and my desk is set up in my room. Yes, it is tight work space, but still workable since it really is only choice if rest of family get to have their rooms and able to enjoy living room while I am working. Has worked well for over 8 years. Most families it is the Mom or Dad compromising for the kids benefit- step Mom obviously is making the rooms an issue to put Dad and Op against each other, and establish she comes first now, before OP. OP’s Dad needs to put SM in her place before he loses his daughter. He brought her into the home, he is responsible for her actions against his daughter!

[u/newfor2023 → u/AlmondMilkmann]

Yeh exactly, also means I could roll out of bed to use it and have a good reason for multiple monitors, space to setup the NAS (tho a rasp pi is hardly large) but the drives are stable here. Built an L desk out of IKEA bits, have a 43 inch 4k monitor for work and 55 or watching TV in bed or just something to have on when working or as an extra screen if needed. Added a keyboard tray and risers for work/laptop monitor Its not a spacious area, beds in one corner but nearly touching the desk. Fits a decent reconditioned Herman miller chair though and more IKEA wall units mean it's floor to ceiling storage and wardrobes. Appears tight but works for us which is what matters. Lots of things like that probably look weird but we shaped the house around us.

[u/Realistic-Today-8920 → u/AlmondMilkmann]

I do as well, and I switch between the dining room table and my bedroom. There is no one home 90% of the time I am working from home. I have the whole house to choose from.