r/AITAH • u/Few_Relative4595 • 5d ago

AITAH for ghosting my girlfriend after she nearly killed both of us?

So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with how the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/55iHa59YgW

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u/DandelionsNSuch 5d ago

She didn’t respect your wishes EVER about not getting tickled, she only learned it when shit went down the drain. SADLY, that’s how most people learn, when it’s already too late. As partners, we don’t wish discomfort towards our significant other…

NTA.

Take care!

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u/GoldScorpionn 4d ago

There’s something about tickling that most people will not respect boundaries on. I’m like OP and find it extremely uncomfortable/hate it. Every time you tell someone tickling is a no-go it’s like there’s huge obsession to attempt to tickle all the time. No does not mean yes! 

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u/IzzyBee89 4d ago

Seriously! What is up with that? I very much hate being tickled, and any time anyone has ever tried to tickle me and I tell them I hate it, they always keep going. Every. Single. Person. I don't understand why they all have that weird urge to continue to push that boundary. I find tickling very uncomfortable, especially on my neck, and my first instinct (that I surpress) is to defensively bite, scratch, or elbow someone hard when they do it. Not sure why I can control my inappropriate behavior but they can't.

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u/Rskytsky 4d ago

Agree! When people keep tickling me after I’ve told them to stop I told them that I can’t be held responsible for my reaction. I had an ex get furious with me for hitting him too hard… And I don’t think I could’ve cared any less about his feelings in that moment

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u/Silver-Appointment77 4d ago

I had that with my kids dad. I hate my feet being tickled, but any chance he could he use to do it, until one day I had a glass in my hand when he tickled me. I threw it at the wall, and it exploded. he got angry at how dare I smash a glass, so I repled back how dare he tickle my feet after id warned him so many time it made me angry. Luckily he listened and stopped it.

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u/Silent_Document_1880 4d ago

My ex-husband once tickled me so badly after I asked him to stop that I ended up laughing hysterically, still begging him to stop. He only stopped when the laughing turned to crying hysterically. Not ticklish anymore. It just felt like he was scratching me after that. Even more annoying.

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u/KaawaiiMonster 3d ago

My x used to rough house with me and if I got to wild and hit him with a package of socks to hard once he got super mad but our therapist told him look, you get her hyper and ryled up and you're not listening to her stops, and knock it offs and she gets to hyper that's on YOU. do not get mad at her. I was like exactly!