r/AITAH • u/Few_Relative4595 • 7d ago

AITAH for ghosting my girlfriend after she nearly killed both of us?

So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with how the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/55iHa59YgW

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u/Content_Row_3716 7d ago

Who starts randomly tickling a driver?? This is insane.

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u/HoldFastO2 7d ago

There was a case years ago, in NJ I think. A few young people (college age?) driving home from the beach. The driver wore just a bikini top, and the guy sitting behind her thought it was funny to pull on the strings behind her neck. Her bikini fell open, she reflexively grabbed at the cups, and wrecked the car.

Several people dead, including the dumbass behind her.

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u/yourmomsgomjabbar 7d ago

I was curious, so I went looking and found this: https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/court-driver-bikini-crash/2071993/

Looks like the civil case was from one of the survivors, multiple injuries but the only death was the guy who pulled the strings.

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u/catalyptic 7d ago

This is a rare case of true karmic justice. Only the asshole died, and he deserved to. Hope he had time to fully realize how bad he fucked up at the end. Laighter at the funeral would have been appropriate.

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u/likeawolf 7d ago

You’re seriously saying a teenager deserved to die because he was a dumbass teenager? Nevermind the fact it occurred almost two decades ago, pre-me too, pre-social justice and awareness, pre-all the bullshit that would be called out in 2024. He deserved potential jail time for endangerment and a civil suit. Hell, put him on the offenders list for sexual misconduct. He did not deserve fucking death. People are wild.

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u/Zorrosmama 6d ago

I didn't realize that sexual harassment and assault were okay before "Me Too." Good to know, thanks!

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u/likeawolf 6d ago

I didn’t realize that killing prople over pulling at a bikini top was an appropriate punishment.

If sexual harassment - not even rape or actual violence - warrants death then what exactly warrants life in prison to you then? Petty theft? Forgetting to pay taxes? Bring back the electric chair for first DUIs.

Nobody said it was “ok” but you know damn well the whole social climate was different back then unless you’re a child. The kid likely didn’t realize the severity of what he was doing because it wouldn’t be called out like it is now and what he needed was to be TAUGHT that through behavior correction and restitution, not fucking wiped from existence in a tragic way.

The psychopath I replied to said people should literally be laughing at a teenager’s funeral as if he were a serial kiddy rapist and not a dumbass kid who fucked up. Get real.

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u/Zorrosmama 6d ago

Might have been different for you, can't say it felt that much different to the people it happened to. And the dude got himself killed. Distracting someone driving a moving vehicle, no matter how it's done, is stupid.

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u/likeawolf 6d ago

Ofc he got himself killed. Nobody is saying he didn’t or it wasn’t his fault. A lot of people get themselves killed over stupid ass avoidable shit. It doesn’t mean they deserve a brutal ass death and I doubt even the girl he did it to is throwing a yearly party that her friend is dead like this commenter is ready to do. “Laugh at his funeral” this is fucking single minded psychopathy lacking nuance, full stop.

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u/catalyptic 2d ago

I'm saying he caused his own death, ehich he did, and that it was just that nobody else died in that accident. He may not have deserved death, but he fucked around snd caused his own.