r/AITAH • u/Few_Relative4595 • 5d ago

AITAH for ghosting my girlfriend after she nearly killed both of us?

So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with how the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/55iHa59YgW

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u/DandelionsNSuch 5d ago

She didn’t respect your wishes EVER about not getting tickled, she only learned it when shit went down the drain. SADLY, that’s how most people learn, when it’s already too late. As partners, we don’t wish discomfort towards our significant other…

NTA.

Take care!

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u/Impossible-Taco-769 4d ago

Yup def NTA. This immature shit kept triggering you bc it was funny to her. She could’ve killed you both. Fuck her. Move on.

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u/123throw-away456 4d ago

Definitely NTA

You can at least hear her say her peace, and you can say yours. Then walk away. I'm certain that there is someone else out there that's more mature, respects boundaries, and is into cars. It's hard to find that one, but not impossible. But when you do find that one, hold on to her tightly!

Good luck & best wishes!

  • please update us on what you decide!

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u/Onironaute 4d ago

Nah she knows what she did. She can reflect on her actions without OP spending energy on making her feel better for being an asshole.

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u/sodapopjenkins 4d ago

did she know this part? .... (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

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u/redditor712 4d ago

He told her to stop. Why does he need a reason to ask someone to stop doing something to him? He set a boundary and she decided to ignore it.

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u/sodapopjenkins 2d ago

not just a "someone" is it,.. it was a girlfriend. And its relevant enought that he mentioned it here to the whole fucking world... cause for most people tickling is good natured fun... if there is something traumatic behind it and she knew about that.. liley it wouldnt have happpend... he ask ..i gave my answer. good communication with your girl is imporant, but perhaps thats just my perpective. good luck people.

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u/redditor712 7h ago

No means no. He has good communication. He told her not to do that to him and pushed her hands away from his body. She ignored his physical and verbal responses. She could have killed both of them because she doesn't understand / respect boundaries. It isn't ok to continue when asked to stop.