I gave birth a few weeks ago, to our daughter.

As I held her for the first time and looked into her eyes I said “I didn’t realize I could love a person this much” and cried. She is perfect and beautiful.

My mom looked at me and said that feeling never goes away (which made us both ugly cry lol). It was a really special moment.

My fiancé was quite but smiled, but later privately said he was hurt. He said he loved us both the same, and me saying that made it seem like I loved our daughter more than him.

I just gave him a “are you fucking serious” look and he dropped it, but yesterday he brought it up again.

I told him that honestly, yes, I love and cherish our daughter and have never experienced this kind of love for another human being. He said most “normal people” would agree with him that it’s a hurtful comment and would take offense to it due to the implication.

AITAH?

UPDATE

It’s a quick update, so I didn’t feel like it was worth it to make a whole new post. So I had a heart to heart with my fiancé, and we came to a few conclusions together! It went very well. We read through the post and comments together.

1) He wasn’t jealous of our daughter’s role in my life, but rather our bond together. He didn’t have that “instant love connection” that we read about all new parents having (like what I experienced). I didn’t realize this was actually very normal for new dads, and new moms too. Thanks for educating me!

We are the first in our social circle to have children so we didn’t have a lot of IRL people to inquire about it. His perspective is “I love this human being we made, but I don’t know her” while I was thunderstruck. He hasn’t had that connection so doesn’t “get it” yet, and that it will take time (months or even a year). I’ll be more patient and aware of this, and read up more on new dad experiences to learn more.

2) He also agrees he not only could’ve expressed that better, but also choose better timing. Voicing it to me after a 14 hour labor and then again when I’m exhausted and grumpy with achy boobs is maybe not the best time, lol. He also agrees marriage counseling would be good, just because. We are both opinionated, logical-thinking Engineers who, at the same time, love each other deeply. We could use better mediation other than Reddit (no offense guys).

3) He was not “furious” about me writing this Reddit post, lol. We laughed over the comments together calling for me to get ready to break up. But we also really enjoyed reading the experiences of new parents! It helped us BOTH feel validated and sane and see each other’s perspectives better.

4) I showed him that Ryan Reynolds video and we both died laughing LOL. We will now be eating a disgusting amount of hotdogs while watching Deadpool with our baby girl. We also agreed that there’s different types of love like parental, platonic, romantic and Ryan Reynolds.

Thanks peeps!

My best friend has been goth for years. She is pregnant and is having a baby girl. She wants a dark sounding name. Tell me why THIS is her baby name list..

1. Psychothica
2. Sociopathica
3. Arachnidette

She has me on Reddit so I hope she sees this post, and realizes how stupid she is. There are plenty of gothic names that she can pick but they’re “not unique enough” .

Mine are i liked the gaius fight and even tho i find the new weapons cool i think their skills are bit useless in a boss fight (I used the photo so i can attract attention)

I live in the US, but the best towns I’ve visited have been throughout Europe. They’re often easy to navigate, beautiful, and full of history. The US is obviously a very different place, but I’m curious which towns have a similarly pleasant feel.

Edit: I’m aware most things are this way but meritocracy an often like a spectrum and basketball is moving farther away every year

An underrated part of the Bronny James discourse i've noticed is that the NBA is no longer a league of “getting it out the mud” that whole idea of the poor kid going to the local blacktop court to work on his game and getting his family out of a rough situation is no longer as prevalent. Most NBA prospects these days are sons of upper class parents more so than before. Half of team USA u17 team is full of NBA players' sons.

Lower-income and regular-income kids can't compete with the kid who's getting pro trainers, afford to go to top AAU programs, travel around the world, go to top prestigious highschools and such. With this the talent level has gone up as this is the natural progression of all sports like hockey and baseball. Does the idea of basketball becoming a rich kids' sport concern y'all or is it a fair tradeoff for a better basketball product