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u/Enaluxeme 2d ago
Well, they say love is blind
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u/ap0s 2d ago
- Tommy Wiseau
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u/QueefMcQueefyballs 2d ago
Oh hi Tommy I didn't even see it was you, you're my favourite customer.
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u/SnikiAsian 2d ago
God I feel lonely whenever I read posts like this
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago edited 2d ago
For real. I just want this kind of wholesome relationship, but it seems that's to much to ask.
Hell, I'm thinking I'd take a toxic one if I could, but nope, nothing, can't even have that.
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u/CaralhinhosVoadorez 2d ago
You definitely don’t want a toxic one, trust me I rather be alone
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago
I can imagine why you are right but still, I would love to find out.
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u/Sleepmahn 2d ago
A wise person once said "Don't drink poison just because you're thirsty." I hope you get your wholesome ending!
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u/MrsFoober 1d ago
If i pour enough sugar into my booze i can trick my brain into thinking its juice
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u/AmericanLich 2d ago
Oh you’ll find out.
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago
Doubt it. Can't even manage to make friends, let alone get in a relationship, whether's good or bad.
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u/socialistrob 2d ago
If you're a working adult who isn't in school making friends can be a legit challenge. In my experience the best approach is to find social groups with similar interests although that can often be easier said than done. It can take a lot of time and effort to find them, go to them and get to know people over time but it is possible. Once you start to have some social connections others become easier. Having friends and hobbies will also make you more attractive as a potential date and will improve your social skills. Don't focus too hard on "how do I make a friend" just take it one step at a time and try to find groups or places where conversations come up organically or where you can become a regular member.
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u/PollShark_ 2d ago
As someone who was in a toxic relationship and thankfully got out sometimes I wish I could just find someone no matter what they’re like but I realize that I need to set standards for myself, learn from the naive person I was before, otherwise it was all for nothing. Being single is it’s own challenge but nothing close to coming home every day being exhausted because you put in your all, got nothing back and was still punished because it wasn’t enough for them.
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u/That_random_guy-1 2d ago
The realist in me knows that yea; i don’t want a toxic relationship… but dude. After 24 years of nothing, SOMETHING honestly sounds better than nothing. Lmfao
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u/xplat 2d ago
24 is still young. Everyone that age isn't looking to settle down. There's still lots of time to meet someone who fits you. Also, be yourself you'll be happier when you meet that person that fits into your life instead of you pretending to be someone she likes. You'll both end up unhappy
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u/thelowbrassmaster 2d ago
I second that, being alone sucks, but it is better than having a partner that treats you like shit.
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u/KingFancyPantss 2d ago
In some ways a toxic or unfulfilling relationship can be worse. It wasnt toxic, but I was in a relationship where my partner never really expressed any affection of any kind. There were definitely nights where I read posts like this and felt so cripplingly alone, despite being in a relationship. Im still lonely lmao, but I think its better to be lonely on your own than lonely with someone else.
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago
That sounds awful. At that point I don't even know how I would call that a relationship. Like, affection is the bare minimum thing I would expect from a partner.
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u/KingFancyPantss 2d ago
She was a good person but I dont think she had (or has) any interest in a romantic relationship. Definitely felt like more of a friendship than a romantic relationship.
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u/alexagente 2d ago
Hell, I'm thinking I'd take a toxic one if I could, but nope, nothing, can't even have that.
I know you're joking but it 100% worse being in a toxic relationship. You might enjoy the company at first but eventually you feel nearly as lonely and isolated and now you have a crazy person in your life making it so much worse.
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u/Sentauri437 2d ago
Yup, I dated a girl who was a bit mentally unstable for all of nine months. Fucked me up honestly. She was my first girlfriend, and now approaching 3 years later I still haven't put myself out there to find anyone else. It's like, I don't know, it just feels heavy.
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago
Tbh I'm only half joking. I know being with the wrong person can end up really bad but I would rather find that out.
Many people don't realise how fucking awful is to be truly alone your whole life. Not even knowing what is like to hold someone while you fall asleep... I know it sounds cheesy and pathetic but I want that so bad.
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u/No-Onion-6045 2d ago
Bro, I've been in a toxic relationship before. That scared me enough not to get into another one for the last 10 years. While it is lonely sometimes, I'm much more at peace with myself and my life than I was back during that clusterfuck and it wasn't even the worst, when it comes to toxic relationships. Part of me literally broke and it took years to recover that. I understand wanting to make the experience yourself before you believe it, but just believe us, when we say there are experiences you don't need to make. It's like burning your hands on the stove or overdosing on some fucked up drug. Not worth it.
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u/TypicalPossession767 2d ago
I get what you mean and I think you are probably right. But I hope you can understand where I'm coming from.
I think people who have been in relationships, good or bad ones, don't know what is like to have never, ever, not even once experienced the kind of feelings that you can only go through in a relationship. Knowing that you are missing out on something that almost everyone has had at some point while hyping it up in your head 'cause you just have no idea what is like.
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u/Wandering-alone 2d ago
I firmly believe theres a lid for every pot.
Have you tried anything so far? Rather than looking for a relationship, you should look for people you genuinely want to be around first, like in communities for the things you love doing (hobbies..)
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u/SlendyIsBehindYou 2d ago
Man, I spent 5+ years in toxic-ass relationships that did nothing but drag me down physically and mentally
I finally held out until the right person came along, and I've never been happier. It took a while, and I passed on potential relationships, but it was worth it
There's someone out there for everyone, if my loser-ass can find them, I know you can to OP.
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u/ChaiHai 2d ago
As someone who was desperate for a relationship, and did get a toxic one at first, unfortunately chances are you will get one.
I needed the toxic ones to build my self esteem unfortunately. They weren't fun, but were essential for my growth.
I did get a loving and caring partner, but I needed to build up the self love to realize I was worth it and worthy of a relationship first.
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u/Viracochina 2d ago
Don't worry, he's point out all of the good, none of the difficult parts. Having said that, sounds like a nice relationship!
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u/LibidinousJoe 2d ago
Gotta find a hot blind chick
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u/bukake_attack 2d ago
I did! Have been married to my blind wife for nearly 10 years now! We do some things a bit different than others, but overall, we're very happy together.
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u/bukake_attack 2d ago
Then why don't you do like I did and get yourself a blind girlfriend (well, wife, actually)? They don't care what you look like, although having a deep voice helps a lot, haha.
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u/LoonyFruit 2d ago
I think I want it but then my distant avoidant traits kick in and I back pedal the fuk out of it. Rinse and repeat.
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u/besameperro 2d ago
Debbie downer here but most cutesy stuff in a relationship posted up for the world online to see is usually not what the relationship is. I unfortunately can't help but to feel if I were blind, a potential partner would only try to take advantage of this fact. "How do you know I'm cheating if you can't SEE?" I use to yearn for the seemingly unbreakable bonds I'd see friends make with their partners. Their partners would do all kinds of sweet thoughtful things. And then my friend would come home to him fucking another woman on their couch. Or get an STD. Or find their life savings gone because the other took it and spent it on stupid, selfish things. It's terrible out there y'all, set your expectations accordingly. No matter how sweet and "for you" that person may seem. Plus dude just sounds like he's patting himself on the back for catering to a blind girlfriend.
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u/toothpastespiders 2d ago
It's terrible out there y'all, set your expectations accordingly.
I totally disagree on that. The whole reason my late wife and I got together is that we'd both decided we were happier single than we would be in a relationship where we compromised. Neither of us were actively looking, just keeping our eyes open for someone who was seemingly so perfect that we knew we'd kick ourselves for not speaking up.
I can't speak to whether I was as perfect as she thought. But I'm certain she felt I was. And I'm certain I feel that she was. The last thing she ever wrote, before the cancer progressed to the point where holding a pen was too hard, was a letter for me to read after her death driving home that I'd somehow managed to even brighten those final months on home hospice because we'd been able to spend almost every moment together and that to her was her quality of life.
And me, there's just no question of whether I'll ever date again. I'm happier mourning her than I am dating someone else. That's how strong our relationship was.
I don't know. I'm just one person, and it's obviously pretty easy to paint any narrative when the other one is dead. But since my wife's death I've seen a lot of widows and widowers echoing the sentiments. That's the point where you know, for better or worse, how it all went down. When the previously sealed records and bills and everything else comes to light. Where any skeletons come out of the closet. And there certainly are a lot of cases where there's things like affairs or hidden debt. But there's also countless examples of every secret just being that the wonderful partner was even more wonderful than thought.
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u/Outerestine 2d ago
Well the internet thing is a bit weird and hypocritical coming from someone on 4chan but otherwise it seems standup.
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u/CubicComplex 2d ago
I think we've gotten to the point where the default attitude towards social media is "I use it way more than I wish I did". I don't think this is really hypocritical, just says a lot about culture right now. And 4chan is sus but it's a big website used by a wide range of people for different reasons
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u/Zepertix 2d ago
Especially given 4chan context it read to me more as "fee-MAYLES shouldn't be using the internet so that they arent posting their bodies or cheating on me or learning about the world." Maybe im too cynical cuz of the 4chan, it's just mega incel vibes
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u/CubicComplex 2d ago
4chan is popular with incels and such because they can express a side of themselves which would be damaging without a veil of anonymity. But on the flip side, it also allows men to express themselves in ways that they normally wouldn't-- because of their commitment to being perceived as upholding (toxic) masculine ideals.This is not the side of 4chan that gets the attention but I think it's the heart and soul of this subreddit at least.
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u/ninjaelk 2d ago
I think cautious optimism is reasonable. I think this statement is innocuous enough, there's a number of possible explanations. But I'd 100% keep an eye on him if he were in my social group.
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u/CMDR-LT-ATLAS 2d ago
I've been on 4chan since 2004. It's been my go to since then and no other website can I be myself and have fun shit posting. I wouldn't have gotten through calculus or physics without 4chan. I got involved on in Caturday's, some other fun raids, and more. 4chan is a cesspool with gold nuggets you have to seek.
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u/jseed 2d ago
As an old person (35), I feel like the internet used to be a lot more like this in general. Lots of horrific stuff and terrible people, but also great things and communities as well. I made friends on various forums and playing MMORPGs that I talked to daily for many years through multiple games and communities. Especially pre social media when you were just talking to strangers. Now it feels like most content is Ads and AI generated garbage.
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u/ninjaelk 2d ago
I don't think the old internet ever really went away. It's easier than ever to make friends and join small close knit communities. Even fucking EQ and Runescape are still there, they haven't gone anywhere. All the ad infested shit was built up around that, you can still avoid it, but we interact with it because it has what we want. It's just that playing an MMO isn't impressive anymore, finding people passionate about our same interests isn't special anymore either. Used to be if the few dozen people we directly interact with at school or work didn't like the same things you did then you were shit out of luck. Now it's whatever. It used to be an occasion when someone found an amusing gif, or when an actually funny video aligned with your interests got posted on YouTube. Now tiktok or instagram deliver hundreds of that shit to us daily. It's not that the old shit disappeared, we just aren't impressed by it anymore.
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u/FakeGamer2 2d ago
I remember being a kid and hearing about Osama Bin Ladens death there before it was even on the news. They had a pinned "goodnight sweet prince" post lol
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u/takeout-queen 2d ago
The weird part about the internet thing is how many website developers/companies are okay with excluding such a large percentage of the population from their information and services :/ (web accessibility is my passion)
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u/sternburg_export 2d ago
And presumably fake.
All blind people I know (there are a few) are way more on the Internet as I am. And I have 188k Karma on reddit, which even isn't my main plattform.
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u/ColdBlazze 2d ago
Oh man, this is the first time i get depressed, cause I'm happy for someone else.
But this is peak relationship goals, trust, and unconditional love.
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u/korksz 2d ago
Now I want a blind girlfriend.
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u/Dobber16 2d ago
Same, but I already have a seeing one… wait, I’ve got an idea
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u/RedofPaw 2d ago
My wife straight up refuses to become blind. Is this a deal breaker?
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u/SquarePegRoundWorld 2d ago
Any time the family would pass a sign on the highway that said school for the deaf and blind this exit, Dad would ask if my brothers and I wanted to stop and find a girlfriend.
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u/GhostfaceRider 2d ago
I've been married to a blind woman for 10 years. Trust me, having to read every single thing out loud for her gets really fucking old.
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u/wizgset27 2d ago
this going to be a very ignorant question here but I swear I mean it in the most respectful way possible.... what do blind people do all day? Do they work somehow? Stay at home? Go on walks?... How are they spending their lives without their eyes?
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u/GoldilocksBurns 2d ago
Depends, but they work mostly. Most blind people aren’t 100% blind (meaning most blind people don’t see absolutely nothing), and can work around their disability well enough. They can also mostly navigate completely independently with access to the right tools and training (white canes, guide dogs, super beefy glasses, etc) so yeah. It’s a big spectrum of experiences under the umbrella of blindness, but like most disabilities, life just kinda goes on. You find new ways to do the stuff you love, or you find new stuff you love instead.
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u/Thatsmrbate2u 2d ago
That last bit makes me want to marry a blindie 🥹
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u/Inflatable-Chair 2d ago
“Blindie” is a crazy thing to say haha
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u/Advanced_Dumbass149 2d ago
"I wanna marry a bat-vision person"
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u/FabulousComment 2d ago
I will just marry Man and kill Jonkler
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u/Sorry-Towel-8990 2d ago
Sir, I simply wish to have a sweetheart to be smitten by. My serotonin would be at a superb situation if I just so happened to have a sonar señorita as my soulmate.
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u/Thecrawsome 2d ago
Screenreaders like NVDA have come a long way to make a computer / the internet a better place for Blind people.
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u/socialistrob 2d ago
And if they bought into NVDA early they probably have enough money by now to just hire someone to read anything to them!
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u/Protect-Their-Smiles 2d ago
''I recorded a new audiobook for you''
Gotta admit, that is a cool gesture
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u/The_Ad_Hater_exe 2d ago
In reality it's probably fake.
In my head it's wholesome and adorable.
I'm choosing to believe my head.
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u/BurnTheOil 1d ago edited 1d ago
My girlfriend is schizophrenic and on disability, and it’s a similar situation. I didn’t even batt an eye when she told me a few days after we met. It’s both of our healthiest relationships ever. It takes patience, but she’s more than worth it. Her family adores me and treats me as one of their own. I lucked out so hard with her.
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u/Hank_the_Ranger 2d ago
This is great, but it made me wonder if blind people are affected the same way by internet/social media use that sighted people are? Do their brains respond to the same stimuli?
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u/Round_Lingonberry496 2d ago
Realising blind girls exist, my chances in dating have just slightly increased
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u/amn_luci 2d ago
I’ve always said 4 Chan is equal parts scum of humanity and absolute irreplaceable pillars of morality. Glad this showed up.
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u/PikachuIsReallyCute 2d ago
I would 1000% date someone who's blind. Or deaf. I don't really get why you wouldn't? Sure it's got some hurdles but there are plenty of other things in life that could be a challenge to overcome in a relationship, like your partner having depression or anxiety. I don't really get the difference tbh
If someone has a good heart and clicks with me, I'd just love them unabashedly, that's what matters most 🥰
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u/CarrieDurst 2d ago
The audiobook part is sweet but damn that would take so long
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u/SgtBanana 2d ago
I guess it depends on the book. I read for my girlfriend on an almost nightly basis and have gone through so much material over the last few years. We blow through stories, to the extent that I've had to start maintaining a backlog of material to read in case I finish something earlier than expected. Can't have a story-less night, after all.
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u/PsychoMouse 2d ago
I was so confused at first. I didn’t see the Sub name, saw a 4 chan post, expected it to go where 4chan always go, it turns out to be sweet and wholesome, I’m super confused, now I look at the Sub name.
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u/AvariciousCreed 2d ago
Imagine if he died tho, and all she had was the library of audiobooks left behind to remember him by.
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u/ThatGuyYouMightNo 2d ago
Love that she eventually got used to my apartment and can now navigate around by herself
My mom's lived in the same house for 28 years and is 90% blind and she still has issues getting around, how did your girlfriend learn your house so fast?
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u/duncecap234 2d ago
I can only imagine the enjoyment i could get from books if i was reading them to my blind SO. Because for the life of me i cannot read a single book to save my life.
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u/DaveSmith890 2d ago
Are blind people like jojo stand users and are destined to run into each other?
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u/Calbinan 2d ago
The boyfriend audiobook library is the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard of.