r/BreakUps • u/NotATypicalSinn • 4d ago

Do you keep stuff your ex gave/gifted you?

Personally, I do choose to keep them.. Pictures on my phone, childhood pics, diaries, necklaces, old student IDs, everything. I keep every single one I get from them. Not as a form of desperate attachment, but to remind myself and show myself that even if things ended, no matter how hard or sad or bitter it was, I loved them with to the best of my capabilities and with my whole being.

I keep them because it reminds me that love isn't some trap or meaningless thing, no matter how much it breaks me. Because in spite of it all, I loved the only way I knew how, and that the love I gave was as real as I could ever show.

But what about you guys? What do you think?

If you've got any other questions you wanna ask me about why I think this way, feel free to ask too. Don't be shy ^ ^

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u/derylle 4d ago

Everyone is different. Me, I have burned everything. This current ex, the before her and the one before her her. I have burned every single item from every single EX. BUT, that being said, just my and how I deal with it. Your mileage will always vary and just my 2 cents.

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u/NotATypicalSinn 4d ago

Fair and understandable. Do what you deem best, especially if it's for your mental health ^ ^