r/BreakUps • u/NotATypicalSinn • 4d ago

Do you keep stuff your ex gave/gifted you?

Personally, I do choose to keep them.. Pictures on my phone, childhood pics, diaries, necklaces, old student IDs, everything. I keep every single one I get from them. Not as a form of desperate attachment, but to remind myself and show myself that even if things ended, no matter how hard or sad or bitter it was, I loved them with to the best of my capabilities and with my whole being.

I keep them because it reminds me that love isn't some trap or meaningless thing, no matter how much it breaks me. Because in spite of it all, I loved the only way I knew how, and that the love I gave was as real as I could ever show.

But what about you guys? What do you think?

If you've got any other questions you wanna ask me about why I think this way, feel free to ask too. Don't be shy ^ ^

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u/BadGuyBusters2020 4d ago

I got rid of almost everything. I don’t want reminders of how he messed up my life so catastrophically - I want to forget as much as I can, as quick as I can. All the gifts, etc., just made me think he was lying every time he gave me something, every time he said how much I meant to him, etc.

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u/NotATypicalSinn 4d ago

Completely fair and understandable! My friend went through something similar, and though I can't say I fully understand how you feel, I can imagine how hard it is. Do what you need to do, for your peace of mind. :) I hope you have a wonderful day too ^ ^

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u/BadGuyBusters2020 3d ago

Thanks! You, too!