r/BreakUps • u/youtinyfools • 4d ago
People who have survived heartbreak…how’d you do it?
It’s been a week since the person I love told me they realized they don’t love me back after 8 months together, and that they still love their ex from before me. I oscillate between devastated and enraged—both with lots of crying.
If you’ve survived a heartbreak, how did you do it? Were you able to love again? Be happy again? When did it stop hurting so bad? Is there another side to come out on?
Love to all 💓❤️🫶🏻
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u/Any-Policy-8019 4d ago
Still going through it but this is what helped me. Writing a list of why it didn't work out. Writing a list of what to do better next time. Therapy. Reading. Journaling. Going out w friends . Karaoke bar (sing your heart out). Plan a trip in the near future, that way you have something to look forward to. Push yourself to be more enthusiastic at work. Pick up a lot of hobbies (weight lifting, pickleball, running club, yoga, pottery). Joining leagues like 8am runners group. Gardening. Recognize that you deserve better, and be open to receive. Truly reaffirm you are beautiful and worthy to be loved. Be patient and focus on your growth. Up your skincare. De clutter your room. Buy a bunch of supplements and take them. Crying but don't stay depressed too long. I also watched videos of letting go. Recognize that you did what you needed to do to be in that relationship and you can't force someone to love you or work with you. Don't try to control him/her or the situation. Let it be. Learn about attachment styles n take notes. Fix your appearance, or change your living situation. Create a detailed schedule of activities and errands, always be on the go. Maybe take some acid with friends and laugh your ass off. Just don't be alone and put yourself and your friends in a position where you are all joking, having a good laugh. And most importantly, TIME.
Been through a tough breakup , even though I miss him dearly, it seems like he doesn't care about me anymore. Why would I cling on to what was and not what is?