r/BreakUps • u/youtinyfools • 4d ago
People who have survived heartbreak…how’d you do it?
It’s been a week since the person I love told me they realized they don’t love me back after 8 months together, and that they still love their ex from before me. I oscillate between devastated and enraged—both with lots of crying.
If you’ve survived a heartbreak, how did you do it? Were you able to love again? Be happy again? When did it stop hurting so bad? Is there another side to come out on?
Love to all 💓❤️🫶🏻
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u/THGThompson 4d ago
My fiancé and partner of six years told me he couldn’t marry me three months before our wedding. It was a no good very bad year for me. I self medicated and did some self destructive behaviors. Ultimately I moved to a different state with a friend of mine. I started dating and applying to new jobs when I got there. Still not a magic cure, dating was bumpy and I actually lost the first job I got in the new state. But, being in a new place with no family, having to support myself, and not die of depression, I did what I had to to survive and slowly as things got more secure my happiness got a boost. I’m 2+ years removed from that heartbreak and I have a new partner I love, a house and pets we share together, and a baby on the way. Put one foot in front of the other until you are headed out of the shitty mental place you’re in now. You have to start with accepting what happened and that’s it’s over, then don’t stop working on your circumstances until you’re happy again. It’s gonna be so tough but the only way out is through