r/BreakUps • u/youtinyfools • 4d ago

People who have survived heartbreak…how’d you do it?

It’s been a week since the person I love told me they realized they don’t love me back after 8 months together, and that they still love their ex from before me. I oscillate between devastated and enraged—both with lots of crying.

If you’ve survived a heartbreak, how did you do it? Were you able to love again? Be happy again? When did it stop hurting so bad? Is there another side to come out on?

Love to all 💓❤️🫶🏻

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u/OpalMoon0x 4d ago

Honestly, as cliche as it sounds time was the best healer for me. As well as having no contact with my ex as difficult as that was. Slowly, but surely I healed until it didn’t hurt anymore. Eventually, I did meet someone else and learn to love again.

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u/rosiecat220803 4d ago

if it’s okay, how long did it take you to learn to love again? i’m long over my ex but i still don’t know if i’ll ever want that kind of love again. life looks good single for me and i don’t know if that’s what i want or if i’m just damaged

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u/OpalMoon0x 4d ago

Well, it took me around 8 months, but I felt like my relationship had ended long before we broke up. Also, I didn’t go looking for love, it just kind of happened unexpectedly. All I would say is to take your time and don’t rush into anything, be ok with being by yourself. Your happiness and well-being is most important. If single life is looking good for you, enjoy the moment 😊

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u/rosiecat220803 4d ago

thank you for your answer, i appreciate it and the advice too :) it’s good to hear it from someone who has actually lived through the experience of something similar to what happened with me and come out on the other side of it.

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u/OpalMoon0x 4d ago

You’re very welcome! Glad I could help even just a little. Please take good care of yourself 🙂

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u/rosiecat220803 4d ago

take good care of yourself too!! lovely people like you deserve all the happiness in the world

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u/OpalMoon0x 4d ago

Aw, thank you! Same to you too 🥹