r/BreakUps • u/youtinyfools • 4d ago
People who have survived heartbreak…how’d you do it?
It’s been a week since the person I love told me they realized they don’t love me back after 8 months together, and that they still love their ex from before me. I oscillate between devastated and enraged—both with lots of crying.
If you’ve survived a heartbreak, how did you do it? Were you able to love again? Be happy again? When did it stop hurting so bad? Is there another side to come out on?
Love to all 💓❤️🫶🏻
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u/sonotyourguy 4d ago
2.5 years ago, I was broken up with a week after I asked her to marry me. She had said yes at first, but told me she never wanted to be a stepmom when the actual breakup was happening. She did it over text. I saw her while picking up my stuff that she had spent the afternoon packing. But we didn’t talk about anything.
I was depressed for five or six months. I was in therapy for a year. And 1.5 years later, I started dating someone else. And I fell in love with her. We broke up on our one year anniversary. That was just a few weeks ago. So, yes you can absolutely heal and find love again. But you are also going to get heartbroken again. I did. Ironically, I ran into the ex-fiancée this past Friday night, after 2.5 yrs where we had never spoken or seen each other in person. (The occasional happy birthday on Facebook did happen.) it did help to remind me that i survived heartbreak before.
The most recent breakup still hurts though. I just woke up after 4.5 hours of sleep to thoughts of her. Fantasies of her wanting to get back together. The overwhelming sadness of never seeing her again. Wanting to break no contact just to hear her voice. I wish it would stop already. But it just takes time, and there’s no rushing that.