r/BreakUps • u/youtinyfools • 4d ago
People who have survived heartbreak…how’d you do it?
It’s been a week since the person I love told me they realized they don’t love me back after 8 months together, and that they still love their ex from before me. I oscillate between devastated and enraged—both with lots of crying.
If you’ve survived a heartbreak, how did you do it? Were you able to love again? Be happy again? When did it stop hurting so bad? Is there another side to come out on?
Love to all 💓❤️🫶🏻
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u/AesteriaViolet 4d ago
As the top commenter stated, time is the best healer here. And the way you soothe yourself through these tough times is the second best healer as well! You always have to remind yourself that whatever you are currently going through is 100% valid and normal. You have to soothe yourself the most in these times and you will find that you gotta self parent yourself too. Right now, beating yourself up for the "what ifs', "if I had done that", "if I had done this", "maybe if I did that" and being hard on yourself is not the answer (though you will fail at being calm, you will find yourself having those thoughts over and over and over again till you have no energy to think of those thoughts anymore) Get as much as emotional support as you can from your loved ones. Talk to them. Hang out with them. But don't ever forget that the better you are at sitting still with your emotions, one-on-one, the better and faster you will heal from this. Trust me, it's a tough situation to be in. But remind yourself that this is just a situation, it won't last forever. It shouldn't. 🫂 It took me a month to process the breakup. JUST to process it. This doesn't even involve the moving on part so give yourself the time you need. Everyone's clocks are different, so walk at your own pace. Just don't rush the healing. And lastly, you will be able to feel loved again. There's no way you can ever forget your person as you wish you could but if you do remember them from time to time in the future, you wouldn't be grieving about it as much as you are doing now. Things 👏 will 👏 get 👏 better 👏👏👏 from here on. It's always up from here, never down. 🫂 Wish you the best dear ❣️ take care of yourself!