UPDATE: AITA for “performing” in front of the camera my mom forced me to have in my room?

[u/Xtwa]

Hello everyone, as you know from my last post, I jerked it in front of a surveillance camera my mom put in my room, as a way to really get the message across that I wasn’t going to take that type of treatment.

So today, after I got off from work, I sat down to have a conversation with my mom. Initially, she ignored me and tried to avoid talking about my smooth strokes, but my dad intervened and insisted that we address the situation.

Firstly, I apologized for my actions. While some of you believe I did nothing wrong, I recognize there were better ways to communicate my frustration that didn’t involve tricking my mom into seeing me butt naked with a log in my hand.

However, I emphasized that her treatment towards me has been unfair and unnecessary. At 17, nearing adulthood, I believe I deserve more privacy and trust, not less. My dad supported me, pointing out that approaching the issue with more openness could have avoided this situation altogether.

My mom surprised me by apologizing too, admitting that she feared losing control over me and worried I might "fall from grace" like my older brother, who has gone NC with our family due to his views on Mormonism. She confessed that she had already begun arranging a marriage for me in an attempt to keep me grounded within the church, which has only added to my anxiety.

Sorry that there were no crazy new moments in this update, but I feel like these stories are much better when there is an honest, good ending. It just goes to show how many problems can be fixed with good, honest communication between one another.

Oh and also, I’m going to speak to my sister soon and if anything interesting happens I’ll leave another update.

TLDR: I became the smooth stroke king in front of a camera my mom installed in my room to assert my privacy. After a long conversation, she apologized for her actions, fearing I might stray from our religious community like my older brother.

[u/HelloJunebug]

Well you just dropped a whole other bomb. Your mother has arranged a marriage for you? Do you want that? I’m sorry but the horror stories I hear from friends and family about not just Mormonism but arranged marriages within these highly controlled religions is rough. Don’t do something you don’t want.

[u/SwimmingJello2199 → u/HelloJunebug]

Ya your parents didn't marry you off as a young teen to keep you trapped in a religious cult filled with sexual abuse and child abuse?

[u/HelloJunebug → u/SwimmingJello2199]

For real.

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[u/ixlzlxi → u/[deleted]]

Inconsistent thinking? From a devout Mormon??

[u/HelloJunebug → u/ixlzlxi]

Never!

[u/DivineTarot → u/[deleted]]

I mean...it's rather in keeping with what I've heard from religious households. A child elicits claims that they're not exactly feeling the religion thing so the parents response is not to encourage their child to do soul searching, speak with some people and read things of their own volition, but to clamp down with more church, more sunday school, more more more until they believe again.

I suppose the excessive response makes a certain "sense", but logically there's a failure to realize a need to take a step back and allow the person a measure of autonomy to feel themselves out. If you deprive a person the freedom to choose their path they'll ultimately jerk back on the reigns and ride off into the sunset without looking back.

[u/macgyver-me-this → u/[deleted]]

Possible bot account. u/HorseLawyer420 said almost exactly the same thing in a comment posted 5 hours before this one.

[u/SmoothTalkingFool → u/macgyver-me-this]

Maybe that’s why they misused (and misspelled) the horseback/reins metaphor? “Jerking back on the reins” is not going to make “riding off into the sunset” any easier.