UPDATE: AITA for “performing” in front of the camera my mom forced me to have in my room?

[u/Xtwa]

Hello everyone, as you know from my last post, I jerked it in front of a surveillance camera my mom put in my room, as a way to really get the message across that I wasn’t going to take that type of treatment.

So today, after I got off from work, I sat down to have a conversation with my mom. Initially, she ignored me and tried to avoid talking about my smooth strokes, but my dad intervened and insisted that we address the situation.

Firstly, I apologized for my actions. While some of you believe I did nothing wrong, I recognize there were better ways to communicate my frustration that didn’t involve tricking my mom into seeing me butt naked with a log in my hand.

However, I emphasized that her treatment towards me has been unfair and unnecessary. At 17, nearing adulthood, I believe I deserve more privacy and trust, not less. My dad supported me, pointing out that approaching the issue with more openness could have avoided this situation altogether.

My mom surprised me by apologizing too, admitting that she feared losing control over me and worried I might "fall from grace" like my older brother, who has gone NC with our family due to his views on Mormonism. She confessed that she had already begun arranging a marriage for me in an attempt to keep me grounded within the church, which has only added to my anxiety.

Sorry that there were no crazy new moments in this update, but I feel like these stories are much better when there is an honest, good ending. It just goes to show how many problems can be fixed with good, honest communication between one another.

Oh and also, I’m going to speak to my sister soon and if anything interesting happens I’ll leave another update.

TLDR: I became the smooth stroke king in front of a camera my mom installed in my room to assert my privacy. After a long conversation, she apologized for her actions, fearing I might stray from our religious community like my older brother.

[u/bythebrook88]

She confessed that she had already begun arranging a marriage for me

Please, please tell your sister about this. If your mother wants to arrange a marriage for you, she definitely will want to do the same for your sister. It may also be why your brother is NC - either that, or her generally controlling ways.

[u/Head_Razzmatazz7174 → u/bythebrook88]

I agree. From my understanding, young women have very little say, if any, when it comes to marriage in the Mormon church. I know of some very niche group of Mormons that still practice 'one man, many wives." It doesn't sound like your family was part of that, but your sister is going to have a hard time once she is considered 'of marriageable age."

Mormons have been known to divorce (my cousin converted and married a Mormon girl and after two kids they realized this was not working).

[u/OlesiaMaeve → u/Head_Razzmatazz7174]

Aussie Ex-Mo here; it depends on the area regarding arranged marriages. From my experiences here, you're expected to marry Quickly to "stay out of trouble" and "start your eternal family," but no arrangements beyond " so and so's a nice young man."

Regardless, she Will in fact have a Very hard time once she hits "marriageable age."