aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/STUNTPENlS]

Let him rot in county lockup.

If the baby dies, in some states, he could be charged with vehicular manslaughter.

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/STUNTPENlS]

You've never been locked up in county lol it's rough for a kid that had an accident that still hasn't been seen before court

[u/squibweg → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

I absolutely assure you that having to give birth to a dead baby is a million times worse than being locked up in county for 2 days

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/squibweg]

100% but if it was a fender bender then it doesn't automatically mean you'd have a miscarriage as someone who didn't get to see 9 babies due to miscarriage I take it very seriously although it was because my wife has a genetic disorder, I don't take it lightly, butbthe more I think about the story, you don't get arrested after an accident hardly ever, so this may have been a rage bait post, I just also know how county jail I especially for a young kid and I always try not to cast judgment until all facts are shown or told, idk I just see both sides and I get it both ways, I assure you, losing a child before birth is one of the hardest, saddest and depressing things that can happen to a person

[u/squibweg → u/Dense_Reputation_420]

I appreciate your understanding

[u/Dense_Reputation_420 → u/squibweg]

Thanks for being civil, I just tried to share my own experiences and people want me in the electric chair like they want this probably fictional kid over me just sharing my own thoughts and experiences