aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail?

[u/ShowerElectrical9342]

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

[u/CreativeMadness99]

NTA. He deserves to be in jail

[u/CapOk7564 → u/CreativeMadness99]

honestly, if she loses her baby, he deserves prison time. people like him are why i’m terrified to go on walks, or to even drive. i don’t want to die, because someone else is so reckless in their literal death machine

[u/blackcatmambo → u/CapOk7564]

There's a long stretch of road between two towns where I live, lot of straight stretches, lot of 18-wheeler traffic, lot of commuters. Speed limit is 55mph. I can't even count the number of times I've had to slam on my brakes to try and give some asshole the time to get around me because they just had to fucking pass me (I always go 60) and there's cars in the incoming lane and I don't want to be involved in a fucking pile up because they can't be happy with the speed limit or 5 over (which is the usual speed people drive around here). It astonishes me that there aren't more accidents on that road.

[u/CapOk7564 → u/blackcatmambo]

my city is notorious for bad and fatal accidents. i’ve been in almost 3 or 4. none were the drivers fault. one of the times my friend’s mom had to swerve into a parking lot and lock up the brakes. horrific.

i live in a neighborhood, technically, but people use it as a shortcut and speed down it (limit is supposed to be 25mph). i had to walk to/from my bus stop in high school, so i wasn’t always scared. but when the same truck targets you for weeks on end, all bc you refused a ride from them, you start to feel on edge. i still go on walks, just not on the road. then i walked to work, abt 10mins away, and i always had to scramble into the ditch bc cars would swerve toward me, or they’d speed up and get far too close.