Aitah for ghosting my mom because she won’t divorce her peeling Tom husband?

[u/Probably_Lucy]

I (19 female) ghosted my mother (54 female) for refusing to divorce her husband (52 male) when he spied on me in the shower 2 years ago. So they got married when I was 12 and he has been in my life since I was 10. One day(I was 17) my mom and sister left to go somewhere together and his sons my brothers (I have 3 brothers minors and 3 sisters 2 adult one biological ) were at their mom’s house I went to take a shower and I lean back to rinse my hair and I see a black phone case and ik that’s his phone so I scream and he skedaddle to the entrance of my bathroom. He starts yelling I’m sorry I’m sorry while I’m screaming over him get out. He leaves to go to his room and I get dressed and get in my car and leave to my grandmother house and call my mom. She didn’t believe me at first and called him he admitted it to her and she kicked him out. Months go by and I’m expecting some sort of officer to contact me and make a report for him to go to jail. I snoop through her phone and see they are going to therapy going on dates and coming over to the house to have sex. Zero legal action was taken. This started a fight where she told me to go to my dad’s house, I said if she kicks me out I’m not coming back, she yelled fine. When I found this out and was kicked out it was 6 months after he did it. I went to the police explaining what happened and why it took me so long to report it. That starts the legal process and my mother is pissed saying I should have let her handle it this will effect more then me never explaining anything else. A year goes by me and my mom do not talk about it except once Where she explains what she meant by this doesn’t effect just him and me and turns out they are employed together and if he’s fired so is she but she can be a travel nurse or he can sell my mom his part in the hired company but she made no effort. My mom finds out he’s about to be charged by the da calls them and says I do not want to press charges. The da calls me to confirm and I say let me call you back. I call my mother and. She says it’s my choice and I ask if she will divorce him she says no. That starts a fight where I end up ghosting her and the rest of my family (who have made no effort to contact me anyway). So am I in the wrong for ghosting them I do not think so but my family does. (Sorry for any typos)

Edit I am pressing charges he will be formally charged by the da by the end of the month. I will update again when the trial starts or if he pleads guilty. I also can’t edit the title so sorry guys :(

[u/holiday_vibe]

NTA. Your mom sucks. I’m really sorry you had to see her true colors this way. Please tell me you told the DA you want to press charges. This guy is scum and he will only keep doing pervy shit like that.

[u/Probably_Lucy → u/holiday_vibe]

I am pressing charges and let yall know the outcome when we go to trial

[u/No-Abies-1232 → u/Probably_Lucy]

Hope you also contacted CPS bc there are other minors being exposed to this man. 

[u/Probably_Lucy → u/No-Abies-1232]

He legally can’t be around minors at the moment and to my knowledge he hasn’t been I haven’t contacted cps just law enforcement but it’s a part of his bail that he can not be near any minors

[u/Substantial_Tap9674 → u/Probably_Lucy]

Don’t wanna sound berating here, but just cause he’s blocked from minors doesn’t mean he’s safe. You said being charged cost him his job as a traveling nurse? Is that confirmed? Or just suspected when he’s convicted cause the list of actual mental pedophiles is a lot smaller than physical. What I mean is most pedophiles choose their victims for ease and temperament, not actual appearance. Ensuring this dude isn’t given access to people in need of homecare needs to be prioritized and not necessarily by you.

[u/queenlegolas → u/Probably_Lucy]

Don't give up! NTAH