Well I tried. As a member of a few marginalized groups, a person targeted by multiple predatory people over my four decades alive including physically violent rape (caused a pregnancy), and a person who has studied trauma and its consequences for 13 years, I don’t have patience for minimizing rape. Coerced and otherwise nonconsensual penetration are not whatsoever analogous to a hit, especially if what you call rape is analogous to a murder. Our brains respond to trauma as a death threat regardless of whether the literal threat of death is included because we evolved in circumstances with certain interpersonal circumstances being a direct threat to survival. Physical injuries (usually) heal—it is almost always the psychological trauma that ruins lives. Also, the act of violating someone by penetrating them is a hostile act.
If you must tell me you still disagree, okay, but please do not make more arguments about this. I’m not confused about how you perceive this and reading more of the same is just super unpleasant.
Oh of course. I can’t stand the idea of not speaking up when we are casually gaslighted, be it ignorance or otherwise. If only people had done that for me/everyone before we had to heal surrounded by dismissive, contemptuous, you-seem-crazy people.
Speaking up has serious consequences, socially and otherwise interpersonal. But I do it because to do otherwise is to teach myself that I don’t matter and that future victims don’t matter. No way Jose
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