r/AITAH 6d ago

My stepmom took all of my horror stuff out of my room for her kid to be less scared

So I (15f) has this whole horror obsession, I’m crazy for it I don’t think it would be much of a surprise if I said Halloween is my favourite holiday..

My father (41m) has married my stepmother (38f) let’s call her Abby… now Abby has two sons and a daughter I’m not going to use their real names but give them fake ones.. Zack (16) Evan (18) and Katie (8)

I would like to start off by saying I don’t want to sound like a brat but for the longest time it’s only been me and my dad

So a few moths later Abby and her kids moved in and the boys had to share a room and for some time Katie had her own but my stepmom needed an office room so while I was visiting my grandma and grandpa Katie moved in my room that’s not the issue I don’t mind sharing but the issue I have is I ADORE anything horror so I have a lot of posters,merchandise I even have a Chucky doll, so when I come back from my grandparents my dad and Abby sat me down and said my room needed to change and be more kid friendly obviously I was pissed and stared complaining how it wasn’t fair

And Abby said her child should matter just as me, that’s when my blood was boiling.. so I yelled it was my room first if she didn’t like it she could sleep in the hallway or in the dog bed

My dad got mad and sent me to my room, I get up in the morning and get ready to go to school and when I came back boxes of my posters and funko pops were in boxes with a bunch of other things, only to see Abby talking them down… I get mad and yell at her that’s until my dad comes over and tries to calm me down and tells Abby she should stop but only for her to say ‘my child is scared of all this shit!’

I screamed for ages going back and forth with her until she threw a box and a glass object shattered.. so if she wants to brake my things I’ll brake her kids, I know this is going to abound petty but I grab her kids Barbie and ripped its head off and pulled the legs off and turned to her and say “brake anymore of my things and I smash your laptop up” My dad trying to deescalate the situation said to me go take five outside and from outside I hear my dad abs stepmom yelling at each other

Should I feel bad?

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u/solo_throwaway254247 6d ago

Your house is clearly not big enough for your step-mom to have her own office. She should have set up a desk in her and your dad's room. 

Plus your stepbrothers are only 2 years apart. And also grew up together. The gap between you and your stepsis is way bigger. You two shouldn't be sharing a room just so your step-mom can have a home office.  

She's incredibly selfish. And it was also wrong of her to make all those changes while you are away.

She's a huge a-hole. And if your father is enabling that assholery, then he's equally to blame.  

Plus how is gonna make you want to have a relationship with her and her kids? Step-mom's behavior is standing in the way of a potentially successful blended family.  

NTA

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u/votemarvel 6d ago

Plus how is gonna make you want to have a relationship with her and her kids? Step-mom's behavior is standing in the way of a potentially successful blended family.  

What makes you think step-mom wants a relationship with OP? It's also entirely possible that she'd rather force OP out "well if she's going to behave like this then she can stay with her grandparents".

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u/ExcitingTabletop 6d ago

Stepmom doesn't. OP does need to reach out to extended family for help.

Grandparents to tell their son to shape up and stop neglecting his kid. OP needs to be willing to have a cordial, polite and distant relationship with stepmom, but stepmom needs to be the same.

The equal breakage is fair, but not exactly ideal. Better would be for a widely distributed promise to extended family that anything broken, "misplaced" or "lost" will be repaid by the stepmom at replacement rate. OP needs to do an inventory, with lots of photos.

Smartest play is to look like the reasonable adult. Biggest thing is to avoid isolation. That's the only way the stepmother can win.

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u/pocketfullofdragons 6d ago

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