r/AITAH • u/Hour_Peace9278 • 4d ago
My stepmom took all of my horror stuff out of my room for her kid to be less scared
So I (15f) has this whole horror obsession, I’m crazy for it I don’t think it would be much of a surprise if I said Halloween is my favourite holiday..
My father (41m) has married my stepmother (38f) let’s call her Abby… now Abby has two sons and a daughter I’m not going to use their real names but give them fake ones.. Zack (16) Evan (18) and Katie (8)
I would like to start off by saying I don’t want to sound like a brat but for the longest time it’s only been me and my dad
So a few moths later Abby and her kids moved in and the boys had to share a room and for some time Katie had her own but my stepmom needed an office room so while I was visiting my grandma and grandpa Katie moved in my room that’s not the issue I don’t mind sharing but the issue I have is I ADORE anything horror so I have a lot of posters,merchandise I even have a Chucky doll, so when I come back from my grandparents my dad and Abby sat me down and said my room needed to change and be more kid friendly obviously I was pissed and stared complaining how it wasn’t fair
And Abby said her child should matter just as me, that’s when my blood was boiling.. so I yelled it was my room first if she didn’t like it she could sleep in the hallway or in the dog bed
My dad got mad and sent me to my room, I get up in the morning and get ready to go to school and when I came back boxes of my posters and funko pops were in boxes with a bunch of other things, only to see Abby talking them down… I get mad and yell at her that’s until my dad comes over and tries to calm me down and tells Abby she should stop but only for her to say ‘my child is scared of all this shit!’
I screamed for ages going back and forth with her until she threw a box and a glass object shattered.. so if she wants to brake my things I’ll brake her kids, I know this is going to abound petty but I grab her kids Barbie and ripped its head off and pulled the legs off and turned to her and say “brake anymore of my things and I smash your laptop up” My dad trying to deescalate the situation said to me go take five outside and from outside I hear my dad abs stepmom yelling at each other
Should I feel bad?
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u/Cactus_love249 4d ago
Abby and your dad should have talked to you about the changes and not just done this to you when you were gone visiting the GP’s. That is Abby saying that her kid is more important than you in your room.
Your dad should have stood up for you and this should have been an ask if you were ok with sharing your room. Her children are not more important than you. I would sit down and have a calm conversation with your dad and explain that you don’t mind sharing your room. However, you are just as important as Abby’s kids, and you deserved to be asked. And if your stuff scares your roommate, then Abby should have asked you if you wouldn’t mind taking down some of the more scary things.
Both of your parents handled this extremely wrong. This was your home first and you are also dealing with a lot of changes. You deserve to be treated as well as your new siblings!!
Your dad probably wants to make this family meld well and everyone to get along. How would he feel if you moved into his private space while he was out and then started packing up his stuff and breaking his things? He would obviously be upset and reasonably so.
If you’re calm and talk to him about your feelings with any name calling or negativity, I bet he will listen and respond accordingly. Don’t include Abby. She’s not trying to make things work, she’s asserting her position as the mom here. She’s doing a very poor job and a total disservice to her own daughter. Now her Barbie is broken and I’m sure she had no say in any of this.
It’s not a great situation, but your reaction was understandable and it sounds like you generally get along with her kids. I hope everything works out for you!!! 👍🏻😻