My stepmom took all of my horror stuff out of my room for her kid to be less scared

[u/Hour_Peace9278]

So I (15f) has this whole horror obsession, I’m crazy for it I don’t think it would be much of a surprise if I said Halloween is my favourite holiday..

My father (41m) has married my stepmother (38f) let’s call her Abby… now Abby has two sons and a daughter I’m not going to use their real names but give them fake ones.. Zack (16) Evan (18) and Katie (8)

I would like to start off by saying I don’t want to sound like a brat but for the longest time it’s only been me and my dad

So a few moths later Abby and her kids moved in and the boys had to share a room and for some time Katie had her own but my stepmom needed an office room so while I was visiting my grandma and grandpa Katie moved in my room that’s not the issue I don’t mind sharing but the issue I have is I ADORE anything horror so I have a lot of posters,merchandise I even have a Chucky doll, so when I come back from my grandparents my dad and Abby sat me down and said my room needed to change and be more kid friendly obviously I was pissed and stared complaining how it wasn’t fair

And Abby said her child should matter just as me, that’s when my blood was boiling.. so I yelled it was my room first if she didn’t like it she could sleep in the hallway or in the dog bed

My dad got mad and sent me to my room, I get up in the morning and get ready to go to school and when I came back boxes of my posters and funko pops were in boxes with a bunch of other things, only to see Abby talking them down… I get mad and yell at her that’s until my dad comes over and tries to calm me down and tells Abby she should stop but only for her to say ‘my child is scared of all this shit!’

I screamed for ages going back and forth with her until she threw a box and a glass object shattered.. so if she wants to brake my things I’ll brake her kids, I know this is going to abound petty but I grab her kids Barbie and ripped its head off and pulled the legs off and turned to her and say “brake anymore of my things and I smash your laptop up” My dad trying to deescalate the situation said to me go take five outside and from outside I hear my dad abs stepmom yelling at each other

Should I feel bad?

[u/zooktittyfondel]

NTA but your father is a weak person. Why would anyone want a teen to share a room with an 8 year old? Also why get married and not take space into account? Do you have grandparents you can move in with to leave as this is only going to get worse?

This relationship seems not well thought out.

[u/Hour_Peace9278 → u/zooktittyfondel]

My dad isn’t really the one for conflict but at the moment we are looking for a bigger house so we all can have our own house but they way things are going I don’t want them to even move in the new house

[u/Used_Mark_7911 → u/Hour_Peace9278]

You need to ask your Dad why he would choose to be with someone who would treat his child this way .

[u/Maleficent_Draft_564 → u/Hour_Peace9278]

‘Isn’t one for conflict’= spineless. She should’ve been told to leave when she 1. Threw that box at you and 2. went into your personal space and attempted to remove your things while you were gone. She cannot move into someone else’s house and demand they get rid of their things to accommodate her child(ren). If anything, she should be the one without the home office seeing as she and her kids are the ones moving in. But honestly, your dad created this mess. He should’ve had a conversation and a plan prior to marrying and moving them all into your space.    

NTAH. 

[u/AntSpiritual3269 → u/Hour_Peace9278]

Is your home owned or rented? 

This whole situation is off, at best your step mum is vile, at worst she’s plotting and vile 

If the home is owned is she forcing the bedroom issue to get a pre marital asset turned into a marital asset by moving 

Your Dad seriously needs to get a spine and his priorities straight 

[u/Crabman1111111 → u/AntSpiritual3269]

What was the last sentence of the OP post? Parents had an argument not in front of the kids. Dad is trying to treat his wife as an equal partner and help her come to the realization of the effects of her choices without undermining her in front of the kids.