My dad is one of those church leadership assholes and he went to great lengths to brainwash my sister into the same bullshit. She made it out fortunately, though not without trauma.
And you know what my godly christian conservative leadership dad did when I was in my first semester of college?
He dumped my godly christian conservative stay-at-home-mom who had spent the last 17 years homeschooling his kids.
It turned out mr godly do-gooder had hated his wife for the prior 15 years so he just played the role because "he didn't want another man raising his kids". (direct quote)
My mom was a deeply unpleasant abusive person, but he was just as bad. They really deserved each other and should have stayed married.
Now my dad dates women 25 years younger than him because he just lies about being rich.
Those young women today might end up in happy stable relationships within their church enclave, but they are super duper fucked if things go sour.
There's so much deep-seated toxicity in organized religion. It's almost as if we never learned the lesson that absolute power corrupts absolutely and letting a handful of people take charge of a large group isn't going to invite abuse and gaslighting.
we never learned the lesson that absolute power corrupts absolutely
My idiot dad looooooooves to say that line right before he says that's why the government should be dismantled and put into the hands of small community leaders with no oversight other than jesus... aka people like my dad.
There's another lesson. Always be suspicious of anyone who actively wants to be a leader. The people who do are usually the last person you want in charge of anything.
Except when it applies to him, the ex-cop who failed out of pastor-school and obsessively controlled the lives of his entire family. Plus he always tries running his own business because he can't stand having a boss.
The only way he could be more of a caricature is if he sexually abused my sister, and I honestly wouldn't be surprised if he did, because there was a ton of emotional incest going on with him obsessing over her vagina and what she did with it.
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u/Proper_Career_6771 13d ago
My dad is one of those church leadership assholes and he went to great lengths to brainwash my sister into the same bullshit. She made it out fortunately, though not without trauma.
And you know what my godly christian conservative leadership dad did when I was in my first semester of college?
He dumped my godly christian conservative stay-at-home-mom who had spent the last 17 years homeschooling his kids.
It turned out mr godly do-gooder had hated his wife for the prior 15 years so he just played the role because "he didn't want another man raising his kids". (direct quote)
My mom was a deeply unpleasant abusive person, but he was just as bad. They really deserved each other and should have stayed married.
Now my dad dates women 25 years younger than him because he just lies about being rich.
Those young women today might end up in happy stable relationships within their church enclave, but they are super duper fucked if things go sour.