r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/imjustheretodomyjob ☑️ | Mod • 2d ago
I thought this relationship was supposed to be give and take
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u/SaintSafe18 2d ago
Is this really a thing ladies want? Like if ya man sends you a twerk video does that get you going? ( no pause cuz it's pride month sucka 🫡)
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Im sure a bunch of people are gonna say “yes” but the real answer is fuck no. That might be appealing to some of the goofy women but more normal types are not gonna be for it. Gonna be all types of “gay” accusations (especially if yall ever fall out).
Reminder: Dont let the internet trick you into thinking people are more “accepting” these days. Folks just be saying shit on the internet. If anything people want acceptance for their own lifestyle, not others
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u/montroller 2d ago
Reminder: Dont let the internet trick you into thinking people are more “accepting” these days. Folks just be saying shit on the internet. If anything people want acceptance for their own lifestyle, not others
I'm just gunna quote this so people can read it twice and let it sink in
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Ngl, knew it was a bar when i wrote it.
With everyone being more chronically online these days (myself included) I think folks lose track of what’s reality and forget just how “unacceptable” some things are in society. Not saying its right but you’ll save yourself some pain if you accept that most “weird” things are still gonna be seen as “weird” to most people. Sure it doesnt hurt anyone if you wear a dog collar and furry tail to work, but dont expect people to not think differently of you
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u/D1RTYBACON 2d ago
I'm just gunna quote this so people can read it twice and let it sink in
A little tangential but a a goofy ass black dude this is why goofy ass black women ask me dumb shit like "do you like black girls" cuz a lot of folk be on that bullshit.
Respectfully, the more seasoned I get the more I understand what Donald "Asian Fetish" Glover was getting at when he said black women didn't want me
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u/PushTheTrigger ☑️ 2d ago
I’ve read this comment three times and I still don’t understand it.
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u/D1RTYBACON 2d ago
Donald glover was criticized for not dating black women and the primary reason he claimed was black women judged him for being his authentic goofy as self and didn’t find it attractive which falls in line with
Im sure a bunch of people are gonna say “yes” but the real answer is fuck no. That might be appealing to some of the goofy women but more normal types are not gonna be for it
I’m saying in my personal experience as a goofy black dude goofy black women assumed I didnt date black women at all because of the stereotype that people black people are hyper judgemental towards non stereotypical black people and since I wasn’t Fox News’s idea of what a black person was I must only like white/asian women
Donald glover perpetuates these stereotypes with his platform
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u/Neat_Age_6302 1d ago
This describes my ex wife to a T.
She wanted the “Fox News black experience” and I’m just me.
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u/Deathstroke317 ☑️ 1d ago
I don't needs to start any more than gender wars crap than there already is, but this is sad man. It's a shame that some people think black men have to be a stereotype in order to be "black".
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u/DrNobodii 2d ago
Can someone comment on this comment so i can read it a third time?
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u/Fluid_Measurement963 2d ago
I gotchu fam:
Reminder: Dont let the internet trick you into thinking people are more “accepting” these days. Folks just be saying shit on the internet. If anything people want acceptance for their own lifestyle, not others
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u/Previous-Choice9482 1d ago
I'll be honest, as long as everyone is consenting adults and we aren't talking about unalive-type kinks, I really do not GAF what you're into.
I mean... I might not understand or get my jollies to it, but you do you, boo. Life's too short to kink-shame.
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u/chamberx2 ☑️ 2d ago
Dated one of those goofy women; just loved everything about me. Wanted to become familiar with my body to make her fantasies realistic. I know it sounds like I'm bragging, but her rationale just fascinated me. Yeah, she was something special.
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u/goobells 2d ago
why are "goofy" women those who love all that about their partner and the "normal" women will make gay jokes over a man sending ass pics... to a woman... in a heterosexual relationship? it's like people just want things to remain restrictive for no reason. sad mindset to have.
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u/manny_the_mage ☑️ 2d ago
Remember, even women contribute to the patriarchy and gender standards
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u/goobells 2d ago
i am fully aware of that. it's a societal effort. we all contribute to our societal norms and it isn't profound to recognize that. it still remains moronic to strictly adhere to an ever changing standard that would have you outside the box either 50 years ago or 50 years in the future.
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Its called living in reality. Id like to think of myself as progressive but you have to realize that we live in a world where some societal norms have been around for centuries. Cant break them shits up overnight and you cant expect everyone to instantly be on board with changing their world views… it would be nice but thats just not how people work.
Hell look at the support someone like Trump gets. Hes an undeniably shiesty character who champions regressive policy yet look at how much support he still gets. That alone should show you that mankind is not nearly as progressive as some would like to believe
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u/goobells 2d ago
gender norms drastically change within just 2 generations. your "reality" is a tiny window in the grand scheme of human society and culture and different cultures have different norms, thus making our tiny little window of culturally dominant gender norms ultimately inconsequential and restrictive for 0 purpose outside of controlling people.
thinking that there is not always going to be a group of people that want regression is a mistake. another mistake is thinking that things automatically get more progressive over time. there's so,so many examples for this across all of human history but the most obvious one for us right now is that women in America have less rights today than in 1971. two states have made the 10 commandments mandatory teaching in the last week.
You call women who enjoy their partner in what is a currently unconventional way "goofy" (not really, women enjoy a nice ass too. a well taken care of body is an attractive body) and call women that think that a man sending ass pics to a woman, in a heterosexual relationship is gay, "normal". You aren't progressive, at least on this topic. you are reinforcing the status quo and hiding behind a shield by calling it "normal" and the "reality".
USA is a remarkably right wing nation. an educated progressive has no illusions about how progressive people truly are here.
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Agree to disagree. At the end of the day, I believe that people are far less progressive than you seem to be giving them credit for and that alot of progressive ideals displayed on the internet are more performative than anything. Like i said before, too much time spent on the internet distorts reality
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u/goobells 2d ago
i am saying people en masse really aren't progressive at all and that I have no illusions about that. i agree with u on that, kind of. what im saying isn't what i think people believe, but how culture operates with sex and gender. there is a really strong level of irony here considering you see yourself as a progressive but harbor conservative gender norm beliefs. or at the very least perpetuate them. i really don't know how you got that i think people are more progressive than they really are from my comment.
these are views i have developed from speaking with people from different cultures, from different age groups, from hs and college classes, from reading about different definitions/norms/roles of masculinity and femininity throughout history. not by being online. 50 years ago you would not fit in the box of what was traditionally masculine. 50 years from now you wouldn't either.
you aren't born with these views on gender, they are shaped and molded by the culture you live in, and that culture is also always evolving through the generations, even if just in small ways. and many times, these beliefs are not "naturally" shaped at all. going to go a bit off topic but it's still related to my point, but you should research the portrayal of black masculinity throughout american history. that is not the "reality", yet if you were to ask the culturally dominant hwites of the time, they would say it is the reality. all this shit does is serve as a way to control people.
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u/caretaquitada ☑️ 2d ago
If I find a goofy queen like that we just might get to making a Goofy Movie 😏. Hyuck!
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u/Fluid_Measurement963 2d ago
So she single now?
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u/Special-Garlic1203 2d ago
Why would you want to date a homophobe who locks you into harmful gender norms?
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
I mean people are lil more complicated than that. Being uncomfortable with a man doing something thats been seen as overwhelmingly feminine doesn’t automatically make someone a raging homophobe… its a new situation and some people arent going to react “correctly” at first
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u/Special-Garlic1203 2d ago
- might be appealing to some of the goofy women but more normal types are not gonna be for it.*
As a straight woman, nah me and my friends want good nudes. We actually frequently complained men don't reciprocate or when they do they're sending blurry zoomed in shots of them squeezing their dick. We literally lamented all the time when I was college aged and we were all dating casually that it's frustrating straight men don't understand how to sexualize themselves and don't match out energy. (Also the pics women want aren't even feminine? Tell me you don't understand what women want without telling me......)
So no I don't think it's weirdo behavior to recognize women are also usually physically attracted to their partner, and I think a woman who reacts in a homophobic manner because you matched her energy rather than abide by an outdated rigid idea of masculinity is lame and shouldn't be someone you should be crying over losing anyway.
And like, you shouldn't be sending nudes out of nowhere anyway, so guaging their interest is just inherently built into ethical sexting anyway.
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u/caretaquitada ☑️ 2d ago
From a guy's side I just think it's a bit less often that we experience that, although it is motivating to hear that you and your friends do appreciate those types of pics. I have definitely heard ladies say that dick pics are straight up gross and they don't want to see them though. Like not bad dick pics, just dick pics in general! So I think when you get used to that sentiment the idea that a woman would wanna see her man's ass photographed feels otherworldly lol
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u/Tialionager 2d ago
Dick pics are so disappointing to me. Like: what am I supposed to do with a picture? Can’t lick the screen! I’m not there physically with you and I don’t like it.
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u/caretaquitada ☑️ 2d ago
Yep this sounds like the vast majority of women I've ever heard talk about this 😭. A woman that actually wants to see a dick pic is pretty much a unicorn in my experience
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u/cosmodogbro ☑️ 2d ago
I am goofy women
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u/Ken_alxia 2d ago
Same. I laughed when I saw it and sent it to my man. I want to have a good time and laugh so send me stupid dumb shit 😂. It ain’t for everyone but I’m down
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u/RoughhouseCamel 2d ago
“Remember, don’t accept any sort of validation from the outside world, only internalize the negativity. You are not lovable, men. Don’t let anything women tell you convince you otherwise. Believe me, they are lying. And I’m the only part of the internet that you can trust, because I speak in negativity, which is objective truth”.
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
What a crazy way to interpret what I said.. but then again y’all create your own little realities for whatever reason
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u/Schrodingers_Pizza_ 1d ago
It did kinda sound like that, gave me a red flag when i read it.
Yeah, some people will be trolling the internet and tell lies to men and women, but some men realize that every woman is different, just like every man is unique. We all get excited about different stuff, not every dude is an “ass man” (except Kramer). Sexuality is a spectrum, to say that women don’t want butt pics or videos from guys depends entirely on the wants and needs of the woman. Time and place. Ask her if there’s anything she wants from you (might be pics might be a massage), open communication because at the end of the day we are all tired & thirsty; we are all individual people.
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u/caretaquitada ☑️ 2d ago edited 2d ago
This is the sad truth. Find you a queen you can pop ass for, boys
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u/BrandNewDei 2d ago
"Goofy", huh? I think people should be allowed to like what they like with whomever they like. These gender norms have people in a chokehold.
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u/improbsable 2d ago
If your boyfriend makes a video specifically for you and you come back with “gay”, I don’t think you’re the “normal type”.
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u/ltarchiemoore 2d ago
It's 2024 and you still give a fuck about gay allegations? Grow the fuck up, baby.
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Personally I dont care but some people find it hurtful. The whole point of my post is about warning people about taking advice from the internet because sometimes the progressive ideals that we see on the internet dont reflect how things are in real life. Like the whole push for men to be more sensitive and express themselves… sounds great but most men have experienced having that vulnerability thrown in their face
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u/ltarchiemoore 2d ago
Men are having that thrown into their face by people they clearly shouldn't be associating with. Keep being vulnerable with people until you find someone who treats you right.
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u/Vegetable_Camera50 2d ago
This is on the level of women saying "more men should experiment with their sexuality".
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u/festival-papi ☑️ 2d ago edited 2d ago
Reminder: Dont let the internet trick you into thinking people are more “accepting” these days. Folks just be saying shit on the internet. If anything people want acceptance for their own lifestyle, not others
I'd get this tattooed if I was drunk enough, but yeah the internet is run by the politics of virtue-signaling (not in the Anglo/Caucasian "woke" context). It's all game of pretending to be super forward-thinking in areas like dating, sex, politics, finances, status, etc. No one's ever as progressive (not in the Anglo/Caucasian "woke" context) as they'd like to believe or like you to believe and you can kinda get a peek behind the curtain when it comes to insults
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u/Special-Garlic1203 2d ago
Or, and here me out, reddit skews progressive and doesn't understand why you would sell out your values and boz yourself in to date bigots and close minded regressive people
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Life has definitely taught me this lesson. Like i said, people are really only progressive when it comes to themselves and their beliefs
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u/chief_yETI ☑️ 2d ago
Reminder: Dont let the internet trick you into thinking people are more “accepting” these days. Folks just be saying shit on the internet. If anything people want acceptance for their own lifestyle, not others
Big fuckin' facts 💯.
Reddit especially is the last place to listen to when it comes to this kinda stuff lmao
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u/scottie2haute ☑️ 2d ago
Internet spaces are lowkey what got the kids fucked up these days. They give kids this false sense of people accepting you no matter how weird you are and makes everyone look progressive but reality doesnt match.
You come out into the real world with your furry attire and other shit society deems as “weird” and you WILL be a social outcast. Not saying folks should fake everything about themselves but theres a base level of normal people have to perform to fit into society. Some of yall gotta tone it down IRL
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u/LegitimateSaIvage 2d ago
It's kind of a viscious cycle too.
I live in Washington (the other one) and see this kinda stuff regularly. Saw two furries making out under the pier not too long ago. Shit like that.
Not 20 feet away at the park, the rest of everybody who was there with their children weren't amused. I thought it was hilarious, but I didn't even need to look at those white soccer moms and grizzled old sailors' faces to know their thoughts.
Now on the one hand, props to those teenagers for being bold and going outside. Don't see that much anymore. Otoh...they were definitely catching a lot of disrespect from the people around them until they finally took their furry hats off and went somewhere else.
Now they're gonna leave and feel uncomfortable and not want to be around real people again. They'll retreat into their safe internet bubbles where they'll be encouraged and coddled, and as a result their anti-social behavior will only be strengthened. If they do go outside again it'll probably end up being much the same, and the cycle will repeat.
Until we as a society can once again tell people to calm the fuck down and act right in public this kind of shit will just get worse.
And I know I sound like a mean little cunt for this, but I do understand it, from both sides. I'm gay and I've been married to my husband for 11 years, and we've never once held hands in public out of concern over the people around us. So I get it, I get wanting to free, I really do.
But the world is fucking shit still, and if you want to survive in it sometimes you just have to put up with the bullshit and do things you don't want to do.
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u/Nakitara 2d ago
Depends on the booty 🤷🏾♀️ Women stare at athletes asses a lot 😅 If you have an athletic body and you wanna make your ladies day you can definitely send her some sexy pics that will make her day. Like arms or legs. Doesn’t even need to be all exposed, just a little. Like wear a tight shirt and tight short shorts and make those muscles pop.
If you know what your lady likes about your body you can use whatever that is. Dick picks aren’t very sexy. You could pull down your pants line a bit. Like you were about to show more, but don’t actually. Like a preview. Like a tease you know? There are so many ideas even if you don’t have an athletic body. Maybe you have nice chest hair she is into. Make a selfie showing it. Maybe cozy in bed (reminding her what she could be lying on right now). Be creative, be cute. Tease a bit, but don’t reveal too much. That will give her at least a chuckle. You’re welcome 😉
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u/Fearless_Bid_4018 2d ago
Nahh booty pics is wild. I am however, particularly fond of when men make their penis jump or swing it from side to side 🥰😊
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u/lulovesblu ☑️ 2d ago edited 2d ago
Last week I found out the secret to that, apparently they're just clenching their buttholes. All this time I thought it was a special skill that took years of training.
Edit: I don't reveal my sources. The world must know the truth
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u/festival-papi ☑️ 2d ago
Who revealed this information to you?
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u/JustinUprising 2d ago
I don't know, but obviously we have a violation of trust in the Brotherhood Society of Manhood. Let's smoke out the traitor
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u/Pure-Drawer-2617 2d ago
aye Aye AYE. Stop blowing up our spot. I’ll pay whatever you need to delete this comment.
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u/kungfukenny3 ☑️ 2d ago
it’s not squeezing your butthole, it’s just doing a kegel
when you do a kegel you also tend to flex your butthole but there is a separate muscle at the base
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u/NOSjoker21 ☑️ 2d ago
Taking notes for future reference on my nsfw alt
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u/Bunnnnii ☑️ 2d ago
Babyy! This is my weakness. When I tell guys I like seeing it soft/semi too, this is partially why. Something about seeing it just hanging and swinging. Instant horny. At that point it’s very likely I can’t control my urges. 😩
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u/MyAnswerIsMaybe 2d ago
Ignore all the responses about yes or no
Just ask them, as long as it’s a comfortable relationship and you have been dating for a while.
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u/anabeeverhousen ☑️ 2d ago
Not twerking, but my man is thick. I wouldn't mind a lil' titty throughout the day
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u/dutchmangab So Dutch I drown fries in mayonnaise 2d ago
Most of my exes did like them very much so I made a bunch. Just put on a nice for fitting boxer with print or a colour that highlights shade. I don't have a big ass, but it is round and firm so you don't have to worry about size.
Before any of you ask, imgur deleted the ones I made.
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u/SYLOK_THEAROUSED 2d ago
My wife and I practices a BDSM lifestyle, so I'm her Dom and shes my sub. One of her rules is that she sends me 5 nudes a day at specific times of the day. I asked her a few tims over the years if she ever wanted any nudes or anything like that from me she said "I can't suck on a photo so no". I love my wife lol.
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u/BrooklynNotNY 2d ago edited 2d ago
I’m here for it. My boyfriend technically sends me booty pics. He really likes those boxers with cool designs and characters so when he gets a new pair he shows them off for me. That ass is spectacular.
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u/jesterinancientcourt 2d ago
Where does he get these boxers? I also like cool designs
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u/BrooklynNotNY 2d ago
CrazyBoxers, SWAG Boxers, MeUndies, PSD, Shinesty, and Culprit Underwear are some of his faves.
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u/Cool-Following-6451 2d ago
Imma jump in and vouch for MeUndies, gotta wait till they’re on sale but then they’re absolutely worth it
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u/HTC864 ☑️ 2d ago
Fair exchange, but be sure to ask her what she wants before you buy some lacey boyshorts.
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u/MaciMommy 2d ago
This right here!!! My man came home with a red lacey thong and I was pissed cause I wanted him in that lace boyshort/bikini style. Now hes got both tho so I aint mad.
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u/Sekmet19 2d ago
He needs to roll up his sleeves, pick up something heavy, and send me a pic of his forearms
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u/MaciMommy 2d ago
The sexiest thing my man has ever sent me was a video he took while at work. If i mute all the noise of construction in the background and just focus on the way he uses that drill.... WOO lemme tell you how grateful I am for that man.
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u/SelfInteresting7259 2d ago
I love your profile pic. Wheres it from?
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u/Sekmet19 2d ago
Google Sekhmet and it should come up. It's an Egyptian goddess, came off of some tomb.
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u/andrewkpt 2d ago
I miss the relationships that didn't have to get advice from the Internet... When they going back inside
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u/No_Paleontologist_25 2d ago
I sent nudes to my girl before. Always asked if she wanted one first. She never response very enthused, and I do try to make them as tasteful as I can too.
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u/dieselengine9 2d ago
This would certainly make my wife's day if I did this, as in give her the best laugh she has had all day. I got no buns hun. Frog butt. My belt is screaming trying to keep my pants up.
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u/kadrilan 2d ago
If women wanted pics from us wouldn't be enough hard drive space in the world for all them shits.
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u/CallMeReds 2d ago
I really love how much ass my bf has. But I wanna see it in person so I can bite it. Don’t send me a photo because I don’t want to bite my phone.
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u/Alvyyy89 ☑️ BHM Donor 2d ago
So, I work out a lot and I have a very athletic and muscular body and I’ve had to get used to my girl always slapping my ass and squeezing my thighs cuz apparently that does it for her. The first couple times she did it, I won’t lie, it caught me off guard. Even if I wanted to send her booty pics, I wouldn’t even know how to go about taking one. Fortunately, we live together, so she gets to see it everyday.
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u/Expensive-Coast-3508 2d ago
That is wild but I’ve never refused a request from someone I’ve dated. It always comes back in good ways
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u/Rude-Asparagus9726 2d ago
Ay, I mean if that's the exchange rate, then we have ourselves a deal!
I was under the impression y'all didn't WANT my ass pics, good to be wrong!
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u/813_4ever ☑️ 2d ago
If my wife wanted me to send her a picture of cheeks I would gladly do it I don’t know the poses but if that’s what gonna get the juices flowing I’m all for it.
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u/Awkward_Complaint672 2d ago
Used to have an ex that would ask me to send a booty pic in the shower literally everyday the girl was obsessed. Always begging me to play with it and shit. Y’all want a real freak find a woman that’s obsessed with your cheeks. I do have a spectacular ass to be fair 🤷♂️
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u/Romoreau 2d ago
This one guy I was talking to used to send me pictures of his thighs. I didn't ask for them but oh was I thankful.
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u/Bunnnnii ☑️ 2d ago
I just like taking and sending booty pictures. Showers make the best photoshoots.
I’m not gonna lie though, if I’m with a man and he happens to have no ass, if he sends me one of those it’d make my day for sure. Because it would be hilarious.
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u/TheLastAOLUser 2d ago
Did that once.
Received a lecture about sending inappropriate messages while she’s working.
Apologized. No more pics.
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u/TheBlackManIsG0d 2d ago
My wife used to make me send the cheeks when I was on business trips.
I obliged, but I was embarrassed.
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u/iAmSeriusBlack ☑️ 2d ago
I mean look if she’s asks I will oblige, but I may need to hit the gym before 🤣
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u/kungfukenny3 ☑️ 2d ago
real shit my ass is so much fatter than my gf and i’ll pose if she rescinds
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u/Ctowncreek ☑️ 1d ago
If she starts asking for booty pics im gonna start working on my squats, deadlifts and glute bridges.
And thats that.
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u/Eastern-Dig-4555 1d ago
But would she want his booty pics? Do girls like dude’s booties that much?
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u/genericperson10 2d ago
I have negative booty, so even if I send a Pic I'll just owe more booty pics than I started with.