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[u/budackee_10]

NTA. People need to discipline their kids. Downvote me to hell

[u/Less_Flight_2043 → u/budackee_10]

Amen. I've worked in schools and have seen what kids can do, if parents don't want someone to strike their kids then they need to teach them to keep their hands to themselves. I will not be beat by a child, smh

[u/grouchykitten1517 → u/Less_Flight_2043]

You don't have to leave a mark on a child for 3 days to prevent them from hitting you.

[u/rockthrowing → u/grouchykitten1517]

No you don’t but that wasn’t OPs intention. They just wanted the kid to stop hitting them. OP defended themselves and it sounds like it worked since SIL won’t talk to them anymore, meaning the kid shouldn’t be around them anymore.

[u/TheBluesDoser → u/grouchykitten1517]

Well maybe you should.

Let ‘em come, boys and girls.

[u/AceVisconti → u/grouchykitten1517]

It's not OP's job to parent her sister in law's child. I would have smacked anyone threatening to bounce a goddamn basket ball off my head. Depending on how hard something like that hits you, you can wind up with a concussion or broken nose. She gave him a warning, and he didn't let up. She was well within her rights to follow through or else he would never take it seriously, and CONTINUE assaulting her.

[u/munchkinatlaw → u/Less_Flight_2043]

If you hit a third grader at your school, I would gladly sue you out of your home and family. Fuck off with this Rambo horseshit.

[u/Less_Flight_2043 → u/munchkinatlaw]

You can't read, what I said was that I have seen the behavior of the kids at the school... And agreed with the commenter that they need discipline. They have struck a teacher and that teacher did shove that child off at which time the parent attempted to press charges and sue. It was thrown out because that child damaged that lady's eye. These kids can get out of hand. That kid was a 4th grader. Are you telling me that that woman was wrong? You are insane if you believe that

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/budackee_10]

He is a brat. NTA

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

It's the mother fault plus she can't control the child. So if he is spoilt and mommy is not around here, he'll be in trouble.

[u/rockthrowing → u/[deleted]]

No one is abusing this child, although you could make an argument for neglect. OP defended themselves against someone who was trying to hurt them. Even gave the kid a warning. This kid needs some serious therapy and real parenting.

[u/rockthrowing → u/[deleted]]

Found the SIL

[u/OkExternal7904 → u/[deleted]]

Found another instigator.

[u/Competitive-Week-935 → u/rockthrowing]

It could have been self defense had she not hit him so hard she bruised his face for three damn days. I suspect if OP had been a man people would be calling him an asshole

[u/rockthrowing → u/Competitive-Week-935]

It’s not like OP was intending to bruise the kid for days. They were defending themselves against someone trying to assault them, someone who had assaulted them in the past and no one is doing anything about it. The very fact that family has said they should have allowed this kid to hit them proves that no one was ever going to help OP and they had to take matters into their own hands.

[u/Competitive-Week-935 → u/rockthrowing]

Let's be real it takes a good amount of force to backhand someone and leave that kind of a bruise. And let's be real they were defending themselves against a 9 yr old. They would have been ok to slap the kid. But OP had already told the kid she would hit harder than anybody ever had so it was definitely not an accident. It's one thing to spank a kid it's another thing to beat them.

[u/OkSun5094 → u/[deleted]]

you think allowing a child to abuse everyone around them is better?

[u/OkSun5094 → u/[deleted]]

slapping a child that is literally hitting you/threatening to hit you after you told them firmly to let you go is not abusing them. i pray YOU don’t have kids, you’d probably be the type to allow them to get like this. I agree, hitting should not be a part of raising kids, but OP is not a parent hitting their kid. OP hit a kid in self defense that would not let them go, rightfully so. if that kids parents would actually discipline their child, this wouldn’t be a problem to begin with. and for the record, i do have kids (3 and 4) who know better than to hit ANYONE, except in self defense.

[u/OkSun5094 → u/[deleted]]

lmao alright bud, whatever you say. please feel bad for my well behaved, healthy, and happy children rather than the child being so emotionally neglected that his own parents let him punch and abuse people rather than put in the effort to parent him.

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

He is spoilt.

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

I am not. There is a difference between a spoilt brat and a discplined child.

[u/Apprehensive-Cow7814 → u/[deleted]]

Imagine thinking a slap after being warned multiple times, and even given a countdown, is getting beaten up.

[u/Echo-Tiny → u/[deleted]]

And your a fucking idiot

[u/UnknownCat1980 → u/[deleted]]

Your literally like 10 yourself, stop screaming abuse and go outside you fucking idiot

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

🤦🏻‍♀️

[u/OkExternal7904 → u/[deleted]]

Hey pal, just fuck right off.

[u/Effective-Essay-6343 → u/QuietWalk2505]

You don't need to leave marks on kids to teach/discipline them. Yea the mom in this scenario is failing her kid. Leaving a mark on a child that lasts days though is abuse.

[u/True-Fudge5556 → u/[deleted]]

Are you the SIL?

[u/OkExternal7904 → u/[deleted]]

It's not abuse. It's self-defense. That the perp is a child is incidental, frankly. Frightening, yes. Shocking, yes. Dangerous, very much so.

But not abuse. Abuse is long-term, irrational, and an exertion of power in an unreasonable way. This was none of those things.

The actual abuse is coming from a lazy and out of touch mother who thinks it's better to be attacked than stand up AND BE A PARENT. She's going to let the little perp abuse the world soon.

[u/OkExternal7904 → u/[deleted]]

Fuck off

[u/Fit_Marionberry_3878 → u/[deleted]]

Stfu. He earned that slap. I would have reacted the exact same. This is the age to reinforce that you don’t enter the ring if you aren’t prepared.

In a few years his power will surpass the OP. If she doesn’t put her foot down then he will think he can hold her down and punch her when he doesn’t get his way.

[u/Fit_Marionberry_3878 → u/[deleted]]

I really hope that you don’t have any children. Please don’t unleash your psychopaths into the world. 

[u/Fit_Marionberry_3878 → u/[deleted]]

Seems as if you are projecting too much. You’re extrapolating based on your own life.  

 But don’t worry there are many people in the world who will happily enjoy the cranky old lady with her 9 cats.  

 Just leave the advice for professionals next time ;)

[u/yourkaybri → u/budackee_10]

Yes! More discipline is needed these days!

[u/Normal-Science-9241 → u/budackee_10]

Upvoting you. Thank you!

[u/SweetBikinipie → u/budackee_10]

This is true. They'll be more pitiful if they're not disciplined properly.

[u/budackee_10 → u/[deleted]]

Here's hoping they both learned from this then.

[u/Fun_Blueberry_7025 → u/[deleted]]

Except it hasn’t? It’s been shown to perpetuate abuse onto further generations.

[u/Aggravating-Tax3539 → u/Fun_Blueberry_7025]

Think he's being sarcastic

[u/Fun_Blueberry_7025 → u/Aggravating-Tax3539]

Yup my bad. Too many real comments on here similar that I’m not picking it up. Sorry prior poster!

[u/bishopredline → u/[deleted]]

It will be a lot better than the marks he will get when he bullies the wrong person in school.

[u/Jakunobi → u/[deleted]]

She did not hit a kid, she hit a piece of shit in a kid's body. That's sane.

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

Here we go.

[u/True-Fudge5556 → u/[deleted]]

Dang, lady, too bad you can't monetize your use of that slur. You could retire and call people names full time.

[u/True-Fudge5556 → u/[deleted]]

You'll need a bigger vocabulary, though; "abuser" will lose its impact the way you're overusing it. Can I recommend a thesaurus app?

[u/True-Fudge5556 → u/[deleted]]

I like "vilipender" -- stylish, unique, suggests you read. Try it!

[u/itsmeally86 → u/[deleted]]

Just go and live in your own world.. but i will slap any child who shows no respect and discipline

[u/Turbulent_Ebb5669 → u/budackee_10]

Sorry, can't do that.

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/Turbulent_Ebb5669]

We don't need spoilt brats

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/[deleted]]

You're too.

[u/MikeDeSams → u/budackee_10]

Wrong. She's an AH for hitting the child when it's the parents who needed the backhand.

[u/Shades_of_X → u/MikeDeSams]

Both? Both.