UPDATE: AITA for “performing” in front of the camera my mom forced me to have in my room?

[u/Xtwa]

Hello everyone, as you know from my last post, I jerked it in front of a surveillance camera my mom put in my room, as a way to really get the message across that I wasn’t going to take that type of treatment.

So today, after I got off from work, I sat down to have a conversation with my mom. Initially, she ignored me and tried to avoid talking about my smooth strokes, but my dad intervened and insisted that we address the situation.

Firstly, I apologized for my actions. While some of you believe I did nothing wrong, I recognize there were better ways to communicate my frustration that didn’t involve tricking my mom into seeing me butt naked with a log in my hand.

However, I emphasized that her treatment towards me has been unfair and unnecessary. At 17, nearing adulthood, I believe I deserve more privacy and trust, not less. My dad supported me, pointing out that approaching the issue with more openness could have avoided this situation altogether.

My mom surprised me by apologizing too, admitting that she feared losing control over me and worried I might "fall from grace" like my older brother, who has gone NC with our family due to his views on Mormonism. She confessed that she had already begun arranging a marriage for me in an attempt to keep me grounded within the church, which has only added to my anxiety.

Sorry that there were no crazy new moments in this update, but I feel like these stories are much better when there is an honest, good ending. It just goes to show how many problems can be fixed with good, honest communication between one another.

Oh and also, I’m going to speak to my sister soon and if anything interesting happens I’ll leave another update.

TLDR: I became the smooth stroke king in front of a camera my mom installed in my room to assert my privacy. After a long conversation, she apologized for her actions, fearing I might stray from our religious community like my older brother.

[u/StarlightM4]

Sorry, OP, but your update has just shown your mother yo be even more unhinged and controlling than ever. She's planning on marrying you off? You are 17 ffs, all you should be thinking about is going to college and getting as far away from this shitshow as you can. Your brother went nc? Wonder why!

[u/InsideAdvanced2625 → u/StarlightM4]

OP: "Sorry nothing new crazy here"

Every one else: "IT'S PLENTY CRAZY"

OP you seem to be so used to her being helicoptering that you don't realize what she is trying to get you into. It's your future life and you should have a say in it. And she doesn't seem to be the kind of person to allow that.

Imho you really should try to read up more about mormonism, to make your own informed decision. You should really go for education and such before deciding - for yourself - what you want to do in terms of marriage. And consider the fact that the marriage arranged by her will mostly likely bring into your life more people with same views and behavioural patterns - wife, inlaws, extended inlaws. She already uses your sister to black mail\guilt trip you, what do you think will happen when all those people join the coven? And you really should try and contact your brother. Talk to him, get his perspective on things, ask him what made him go no contact with mother. Doesnt mean you have to do the same as he did, but it might help you to see the situation more clearly.