r/AITAH • u/ShowerElectrical9342 • 6d ago

aitah for considerinf leaving my son in the county jail hospital over the weekend instead of paying $9,500.00 in bail? Advice Needed

My son hit a pregnant woman with his vehicle and broke his nose and has stitches on his lip.

He was arrested and is in the county jail hospital. He wouldn't tell me how badly injured the woman is, except that she might lose the baby.

He's a careless, distracted driver who has totalled 2 cars, which his bio dad immediately replaced with even better cars!

But now his bio dad is gone (heart attack) and I don't want to enable this dangerous driving problem.

I'm overwhelmed.

He has had accidents before, and has always been bailed out.

I'm trying to get a regular lawyer because now he says she might lose the baby and sue him.

He's 19.

But no one wants me to take the time to get a regular lawyer instead of this public defender who insists I must send the bail money NOW or my son will be in jail all weekend.

Honestly, I don't know. Maybe that would be good for him. Like a wakeup call.

He didn't mention alcohol, but why else would he he arrested for a car accident?

Help! I have to move fast!

AITAH for even thinking about letting him spend a weekend in jail?

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 6d ago

No but I was accused of something I did not do and spend time in jail because of bad police work

I said if he was guilty he needs to go to jail

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u/Ambitious_Owl_2004 6d ago

Ok and was your jail time for striking a pregnant woman with your car? Bc I really can't see a situation where he's innocent.

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 6d ago

No it was somting different

But is she was crossing the road an did not watch both sides an he saw her to late he is not the only one at fault

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u/Ambitious_Owl_2004 6d ago

Ok, you said not the ONLY ONE at fault. He would still be at fault though .

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 6d ago

Yes I never said he was not at fault

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u/Ambitious_Owl_2004 6d ago

So he needs to have consequences for those actions, yea?

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u/ThoughtNecessary2385 6d ago

If he is at fault yes I never said he did not deserve it But if she bails him out is he not going stil have those consequences?

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u/GLH90 5d ago

If she was crossing the street and he hits her then yes he is at fault. Where is it that you live where pedestrians don’t have the right of way!?