r/AITAH 6d ago

AITAH for leaving my wife after she got pregnant by a revenge affair?

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u/Jealous404 5d ago

Well. you dont have to put your child through that same pain. you have a choice. if you force your child to go through a similar situation, who's to say you're not the evil one? why you want to restrict a choice for the future based on your current circumstances? you want to be prepared for the worst. how can you do that if you wont give a choice?

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u/Dreamsforpeace 5d ago

It doesn’t have to be the same pain you can be more responsible about how you handle their disability and their feelings

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u/Jealous404 5d ago

well i can. but once they step out into the real world when they face reality, what good is it for them? besides. we're not killing randomly. abortion should be discussed wisely over a long period of time. at least a week if situation warrants for it. dont act impulsively based on your own feelings.

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u/Dreamsforpeace 5d ago

Time isn’t really something you have when pregnant. The baby is growing and developing at a rapid rate. The moment I found out I was pregnant, it was so cool to see on the baby app — already a heartbeat and form of the body and brain. And the growth is exponential just over the following week. One week is not time to make a long-term decision. There isn’t a chance to make a long term decision with the full weight and time and thought it would require, with the short amount of time it takes the baby to develop. Of course the laws vary by area about how far into it you can go. And personal views on it too.

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u/Jealous404 5d ago

and you should be prioritizing the your woman's life over the baby because there will be multiple chances for you to have children with the same woman. it's not the end of the world if she doesnt want one at the moment. should only be attempting pregnancy when you know both of you are ready anyways.